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Brief Summary In this rich and reflective conversation, Jeff Dudan welcomes Tom Rowland—legendary Florida Keys guide, television host, and podcaster—for a deep dive into life on (and off) the water. From humble beginnings in Chattanooga to fly fishing in Yellowstone, competing in elite tournaments, building a 20-year television brand, and becoming a wellness role model, Tom shares how his passions for fishing, fitness, and family shaped a purpose-driven life. With stories of big fish, bigger storms, and even bigger life lessons, this episode is both inspiring and grounding. Key Takeaways From Room Attendant to Fishing Icon : Tom’s journey began cleaning toilets in Yellowstone—just to earn free time to fish. That decision changed his life. Tournaments Were His Fast Track to Mastery : The pressure and competition of professional tournaments accelerated his learning curve beyond anything else. Fitness Is the Foundation : A 4:30 a.m. training schedule, Wim Hof breathing, and sauna sessions form the backbone of Tom’s longevity and mental clarity. TV Success Didn’t Come Overnight : The first season of Saltwater Experience bombed. But Tom pivoted to a two-host, no-voiceover style that’s now iconic. Water Quality is Florida’s #1 Issue : Tom gives a masterclass in the ecological crisis around Lake Okeechobee and why supporting clean water initiatives like Captains for Clean Water is vital. "You Can Do It" Is the Whole Message : Whether it’s switching careers, starting a show, or trying fitness at 50—Tom’s entire story is living proof.
Brief Summary In this soulful and hilarious conversation, Jeff Dudan sits down with Casey Webb—actor, seasoned restaurant pro, and host of Man vs. Food. From his blue-collar upbringing in New Jersey to a late-blooming entertainment career, Casey shares stories of grit, grief, growth, and gratitude. The episode is packed with rich storytelling, laughter, and powerful reflections on family, purpose, and staying open to life’s adventure—one “yes” at a time. Key Takeaways "Yes, and" isn't just for improv—it’s a life strategy. Casey credits his improv training with helping him build a career by staying open, present, and engaged. Athletics laid the foundation. From nose guard to performer, the discipline of football shaped Casey’s resilience and confidence. Late bloomers bloom beautifully. Casey didn’t land Man vs. Food until he was 40, after years of restaurant work, acting gigs, and creative hustle. Losing his father changed him. The pandemic gave Casey unexpected time to care for his ailing dad—a gift he now carries forward on global travels with his father’s ashes. Behind the scenes of food TV is wild. From eating challenges to custom-created show openers, the grind of production is real—and so is the fun. New show in the works. Casey’s pitching Stage, a Dirty Jobs-style series exploring the unsung heroes of restaurant kitchens, from dishwashers to prep cooks. Featured Quote “I stopped saying no to myself. No, I don’t have enough time. No, I can’t do this. I realized I was the same person bartending and acting. I just had to say yes.” — Casey Webb TRANSCRIPT Casey Webb’s Road Trip, Rebirth Band & Crawfish in the Carolinas Casey Webb (00:02.318) Oh hi. Jeff Dudan (00:03.892) Hey Casey, how are you? Casey Webb (00:05.934) I'm doing great. Oh, do you wanted me to start? Oh, I'm sorry. Was that was I leading this? I'm totally ready. I'm ready to go. Are we ready? Jeff Dudan (00:11.412) Yeah, awesome, awesome, awesome. Well, hey, we're here with Casey Webb. I am Jeff Duden and we are on the home front. Welcome, sir. So excited to be on with you today. Casey Webb (00:21.422) Thank you, Jeff. I appreciate it. And we just so happen to both be in the Carolinas, which I don't live in, but I do visit often. So that was a nice surprise, right? As far as surprises go. Jeff Dudan (00:32.628) Yeah, absolutely. Down in Wilmington, we're in Lake Norman area, north of Charlotte here. So what have you been up to down there this week? Casey Webb (00:40.462) So I took a road trip with my dog, landed in Cape Charles, Virginia, camped out over there on the Chesapeake, which is pretty incredible. And then I came in day before yesterday, it's a buddy's birthday party. He hired the Rebirth Brass Band from New Orleans, Crawfish Boil, at this dive bar called the Greensville Yacht Club, which is formerly the Double Nur, which is right near the Greensville. Ample Theater or theater that's over there. So it was a lot of fun. We had a good time yesterday and it's really cold and dark and rainy in the Northeast and New Jersey where I live and where I'm from. And so it was time to take a little road trip. Last year I traveled a bunch, Thailand, Costa Rica, Ireland, New Orleans for Jazz Fest, which I'm going to next week for fun. And I could, I usually write that stuff off because it's travel and part of business. It's part of doing business. Jeff Dudan (01:15.86) Yeah. Jeff Dudan (01:33.3) That's right. Casey Webb (01:36.494) But this year I was, I hadn't gone anywhere. I was just kind of embracing the winter in New Jersey and I'm sorry I did that. Because January was the longest six months of my life. But hey, I'm here and I got some sun and it's great to be outside. Yeah, I can hear you, can you hear me? Did you lose me? Oh, we're good. Jeff Dudan (01:49.364) I see you froze a little bit there. Are you still good? Can you hear me? Jeff Dudan (01:54.868) Yeah, yep, awesome. Now you're just kind of freezing a little bit here and there, but that's cool. Well, hey Casey, so tell us a little bit about growing up in New Jersey and the things that you did. Casey Webb (01:59.566) Okay. From Football to Theater: The Pivot that Changed Casey’s Life Casey Webb (02:10.638) So I'm originally from New Jersey. Parents are both New Yorkers that made their way in the late 60s to a little town called Little Silver, where the train conductor affectionately called it as small change. And a lot of blue collar in that town, mixed, I guess. Dad commuted to the city. So my mom was a stay -at -home mom, which is pretty great. I got to spend a lot of time with my mom in the kitchen. Yeah. Very humble beginnings, you know, for me, sports was a big part of my life. Later in life, I guess through high school and into college, I played football, I wrestled in high school and played football in high school and college. That led me to play or high school led me to play football in college for a brief stint. And it was I realized then like I did real well. I walked away with no injuries. I had the body for a football player, just not the height. So I went D3, I thought I was going D1. And then, you know, like most things sometimes it's time to put, you know, hang up your helmet and leave it on the field. So I did. And that's actually when I started acting. Or I was always acting out, but I put some energy into actually performance and I started doing theater at 18. But. Jeff Dudan (03:23.38) Ha ha ha ha. Casey Webb (03:30.318) Before that, you know, living in a small town, like, parents know each other and a friend's family had a pizza place. So I started washing dishes at this pizza place. So there's like this parallel world of acting in restaurants that would lead up to why we're here. Talk probably about man versus food. Jeff Dudan (03:41.46) Yeah. Jeff Dudan (03:46.068) Yeah. So what position do you play in football? Casey Webb (03:50.894) I was a defensive tackle. They tried me on both sides and I just wasn't, I was more, I was more, and this is much as such as life, you find out later in life, I was more reactionary, you know, or reactive. So defense is where I excelled and I was about to go in as a freshman. I was like 230, 240 at five, nine, just a big head, big shoulders, big hands. It's my Italian Irish heritage, I think to that and my grandfather. So, uh, I, uh... I... then what? Jeff Dudan (04:22.228) And I'd put you right over the ball, right? That's what I'd have done with you. Yeah. Casey Webb (04:25.102) Yeah, I was nose guard. I was a nose guard. So I later became nose guard. Yeah. And I was, by my senior year, I really got into running, believe it or not, my junior, senior year. And when we go to football, we went to football camp every year at Penn State from Jersey. And it was pretty, really probably still is popular camp for kids. And that really got us ready. These days, kids are playing whatever sport. all year long, which is incredible. We would have been a different team if we played all year long, like most kids are doing with, be it baseball, soccer, basketball, what have you. But I dropped like 30 pounds, like over the course of like junior to senior year. And then going to senior year, they had to change the defense. So I was a D tackle. I became nose guard fast and just popped out of my stance and coach called me pop. Actually, that was my nickname. And he would scream it from across the field. And he was like, Jeff Dudan (05:14.42) So what? Casey Webb (05:17.294) He had a titanium hip and he walked like he had one too and he would scream and it was amazing. He was like the coach you would see a character on a television show or movie and I was like, it was complete and we were the Buccaneers believe it or not, we were the Bucs so go Bucs. Jeff Dudan (05:27.028) Like a pirate. Jeff Dudan (05:32.212) So you had, you were the Buccaneers and your coach had a metal leg basically. Casey Webb (05:36.526) He was a total pirate without the parrot. He was pirate without the parrot. And my buddies to this day, it's like anytime there's anything, because a lot of these guys that I grew up with, now their kids are going to the opposing schools that we definitely were up against, or I still hate actually. And their kids are going to those schools. And anytime I finish off with texts, it's always go bucks, go bucks, go bucks, you know, hashtag go bucks. So I haven't forgotten and I will never forget. Life Lessons from Sports: Visualization, Grit & Growth Jeff Dudan (06:01.076) Yeah. Anything you learned as an athlete that you still take with you to this day into business, entertainment's tough, you're always getting knocked in the mouth, you gotta go do auditions, it's kind of thankless and football man, like you make a mistake, you're out. What, yeah. Casey Webb (06:18.414) Yeah, I'm gonna go jump off a bridge right now. No, that's not. It's every all of it, you know, truthfully, because I had my older brother was just a tough son is still a tough son of a bitch. And he, he kind of paved the way for me, my grandfather was my uncle's my dad. Just a sweetheart of a man wasn't an athlete, but he was really wise. And so like, I had this great. masculine energy from my uncles and my brother specifically because it was home with me and then my grandfather this looming presence of my grandfather and then there's my dad who like He would sit me down and when I was a junior in high school when I started playing a lot more I actually made Varsity as a sophomore you have to play freshman and then unless you're like a really good cat you catch real well so as a defensive player I made Varsity as a sophomore he would sit me down and visualize my day and visualize the game every Saturday. Every Saturday, he would do that. And like, and my dad grew up in the Bronx, poor Irish guy from the Bronx, but he's part of this program that brought him to Massachusetts in the summer. So he had some worldly vision. And he growing up in the 60s and 70s, he found a, you know, as a Catholic, he grew up Catholic, but he had these life philosophies that he, he passed down to me and my brother and he would have, he would have me visualize and, and quite that, that changed the game. for me because I already saw what I was doing and like everything was in slow motion, but I was at full speed and that's how I excelled really. And I've taken that with me wherever I go, especially with, you know, for any sort of performance. Um, you know, I got knocked around a long time, but that's just part of the business. I didn't man versus food for instance, was like what people most know, know me for. I didn't get that till it's 40, you know, and that was 2017. So I had worked as a PA for years, uh, while Jeff Dudan (08:04.852) Right. Yeah. Casey Webb (08:09.934) bartending, working in restaurants, pursuing acting, I was trying to do all these things. And the sports element, that's where it came to a point when I was in college, I was like, I'm done using my noggin to knock people over. I'm good at it. That's great. And I'm not going to be a pro. I'm just a small guy, right? So I hung it up. And that's when I really started pursuing like, you know, because it was always a physical and emotional release. You know, we had some problems as kids, parents got divorced, yada, yada, yada. But I was able to use of sports to kind of relieve that tension, that child of the banks or even just testosterone, you know? And it was, I just jumped into another thing and that was, it was acting theater. Yeah, it started with theater. Jeff Dudan (08:53.204) So when you jumped into that, were you doing scripted productions or improv? What was your first opportunity? First Cold Read, First Failure: How Improv Saved the Dream Casey Webb (09:00.174) So I came back home to New Jersey. I was in Western Pennsylvania playing football, which is a school called Wilkes. It was Wilkes College then. It's Wilkes University. It's near Scranton, near Susquehanna River. And it's only football and beer, basically. Football, beer, and girls, which is great. I just realized that I wanted to do a little bit more, you know? Are you leaving? You're taking the show on the road? Jeff Dudan (09:15.956) Right. Jeff Dudan (09:24.083) Wait a minute. Jeff Dudan (09:28.884) That sounds good. Casey Webb (09:30.446) Yeah, it was great, you know, at the time, but I was just like, I just had to change the heart. And I wrote this really long letter to my father and my brother and told him that I was done. You know, I drafted this letter on legal tender letterhead, whatever, legal pad, and he just wrote, wrote, wrote telling that I was done playing football. And that was when the hardest, probably the first hardest decision I've had to make because, you know, the legacy my brother had and like, I was. He's a bit of a hero of mine, as well as my father. So to tell them that I was quitting something, because my heart just wasn't in it anymore. And I couldn't just do it anymore because of them, for the sake of them. So that was the toughest part. So I got back to Jersey and a really close friend, my three closest friends were pursuing acting in some capacity. One was going to conservatory, American Academy of Dramatic Arts. The other one was getting his undergrad at UVM University, Vermont, but he was minoring in theater. He later went on to go to New School Actor Studio under James Lipton at the New School. And I auditioned with him to get in and he got in. So I got to audition in front of James Lipton, which is a pretty big deal for a theater actor or an actor in general. And I mean, I didn't have my undergrad. So I was studying with the teachers that taught privately, but not at university level at the university. Anyway, there's a lot of ways there. And I just took my way, you know? So my buddy at home was at community college. It was when I, he... Jeff Dudan (10:43.252) Right. Casey Webb (10:52.942) He encouraged me to audition for this play at the community college in the area where I grew up, mom. It's a Brookdale Community College. And it's like the two -year school for Rutgers, Monmouth University, a bunch of other schools, and Seton Hall, you know, all these Jersey schools. It's a two -year school for that. So I auditioned for the first time, cold read. Basically you take a piece of paper. This is actually an audition I have to do later, but, and you read it cold. and you perform it on a stage in front of your peers that are auditioning for maybe the same role and I failed. It was the hardest thing. Jeff Dudan (11:27.22) So how much time do they give you when they hand the piece of paper to you? Do you read it from the paper or do you have to memorize it real quick and then do it? Casey Webb (11:34.702) It's a little bit of both. You got to, you know, like it's, it's, it's part, um, owning some of it. What can you do with this? Exactly. Exactly. It's, it's cold for a reason because it's not hot enough for you to have spent time with it or put any emotion behind it. So it put me in a position where I had to just rely on just instinct and gut. And, and that led to me not getting any roles in that play, but I did step into that, the next class that semester, which is all improv and then that changed my life. Jeff Dudan (11:37.108) Okay. Jeff Dudan (11:40.628) Like here, what can you do with this? Yeah, here, what can you do with this? All right. Casey Webb (12:03.726) as far as I was concerned. Because then that's what I realized, like, that's what this is what I want to do. This is my next challenge. This is what I want to do for the rest of my life. And, and, yeah, I never, yeah. Jeff Dudan (12:14.164) How much of improv is systematized? Because I'm fascinated by the concept of it, and all I watch is comedy, man. That's it. And so if you're in Second City or if you watch the Farley documentary, that kind of stuff, how much training? Is there just systems? Casey Webb (12:23.886) Yeah. Is that why I'm here? Do you find me funny? You froze, Jeff. Where's Jeff? Try to experiment. Sure. Jeff Dudan (12:41.108) and processes that you use that help get you to the next joke, to the next line, to carry it forward. I imagine there is, but like to me, it doesn't, it would be hard to, it would be hard for me to make up like how that process works. I'd be interested to hear you talk about it. Improv Training for Real Life: Listening, Reacting & Hosting on the Fly Casey Webb (13:01.07) It's a lot of play and it's all listening. So it's listening and reacting and upping the ante. And there's a, you know, you'll probably hear it, maybe you've heard it, there's this yes end element. Cause as soon as you say no to something, you cut off all conversation. So like, I've never, you know, leading into Man Vs Food, I never hosted a TV show, a show on TV, but I have hosted live stuff, you know, and with improv. Jeff Dudan (13:12.66) Right? Jeff Dudan (13:16.564) It's over. Casey Webb (13:27.758) experience and not just practice like how to get the Carnegie Hall practice practice practice right so with interviews it was the same thing I use these tools that I learned as a young person who failed on a cold read on a stage how to listen you're actively listening because if you're thinking about the next thing you're going to say while you're performing of course there's a bit of that but like you're you have to be listening to what what's being said to you in order to react to that and take from that mind from that and then use it. and to up the ante or create another story or, you know, or, you know, take us along the road. Like you're both walking this path. You and your other characters could be two, three, four, five of the people that you're improvising within a group. And just to give you an idea, like with Man vs Food, I'm talking to strangers about food. I know what I need to say. I know what I want them to say. I have to lead them there to say it. So we're mining for sound bites to give you an idea of like what I was doing when I was a young person was basically active listening. And I, my opinion, the greatest gift you can give anyone is your full attention. I'm listening to you. I'm hearing what you're saying. I'm not thinking about the next thing I'm going to say. Though I'm excited and I want to add to what you're saying, I need to take a deep breath and actually absorb what you're saying and then let that information wash over me and then proceed and have that dialogue. You know? Um, so it's really, it's really about listening and being open to play and not saying no. It's like, yes, end your life, you know? And it's funny because that happened to me and there was a point in my life where I was like, I hate bartending, but I love acting. I'm living in Brooklyn and I'd just broken up with a girlfriend for many years and I was in a weird place and I was like, wait a second, I'm the same person that's bartending, that's acting. And what it was affecting me in the room, because like we used to, believe it or not, we used to go into a studio or an office space and audition. We don't do that anymore. It's now like this, right? It's all, which I miss. So it was affecting my work because I was like in my head about this hating, I just like this duality in life. something snapped. It's like I'm the same person behind the bar having these conversations with these folks and being entertaining or whatever, trying to entertain as I am the same person that would walk into the room auditioning for this job that might help me pay my rent, you know, or, or advance me in my career or, you know, so it was like this literal switch. And then that would, that's what led me to a great deal of success because I got out of my own way. I was listening to my gut, my heart, truthfully, and, um, I didn't say no. The Power of “Yes, And” in Career and Life Decisions Casey Webb (15:52.174) You know, I stopped saying no to myself. No, I don't have enough time. No, I can't do this. I was like, holy crap, this is affecting all of it. Like not just the work, but my whole life, you know, I was closing myself off by saying no. So with improv, you're just saying, yes, you're advancing the thing. So when I say yes, end your life, it's that's what I'm actually doing that. You know, I, that's what got me down here. You know, I was like, I got to drive, like I could have said no a million times and never drove to drove down to a woman said, but I did because I knew like, The juice would be worth the squeeze. The nine hours in the car would be worth all of it. And it was, of course, I'm like on the Chesapeake cooking steaks with my dog. It was amazing. You know, just cause I said yes, you know, if I said no, I'd be home in the cold wondering what the hell was going on down here. This crawfish boil. So. Jeff Dudan (16:38.42) Yeah, look, everybody needs an adventure in life and the more you can have, the better your life is gonna be. We end up right where we are in life based on the decisions that we make and the talk in our head that we listen to that put walls up around us. And I think just saying yes to, defaulting to yes is a powerful tool to get you where you wanna go. And then I think United is similar and it's obviously smaller, but. Casey Webb (16:42.958) Yes. Amen. Jeff Dudan (17:07.06) you know, with this podcast, I look back at the first ones that I did and I was like, I could tell my body language, I was nervous and I was, I had scripted questions and you know, and, and, and then at the end of the day, I think I was, I just, and then what I, what I realized was if I'm smiling and the guest is smiling and we're having a good time, then like, that's about as good as you can get because people can hear smiles. Casey Webb (17:17.614) Were you like this? Were you like this? Were you like this? I mean, I would be. Jeff Dudan (17:34.068) And if you're having fun and you're going, you know, you might not get to everything you wanted to get to, but who cares? You know, have a good time with it. And, and then, you know, people, people seem to resonate with that. So you, again, you gotta, you can't, can't take yourself too seriously. Get out of your own way. Don't be fearful. And by the way, none of this is fatal. Like you don't get the, you don't get the part. Okay. Yeah. Casey Webb (17:39.502) Okay. Casey Webb (17:55.15) No, no, no. That's part of the job. You know, like I learned very early on, like not to tell anyone that I had any audition for anything because when you do, I was like, yeah, mom, dad, I got auditioned for this TV show. And then like a week later, do you get it? No. And you would say that a lot because there's a lot more times you're saying, no, I didn't get it to the yes, I did get it. So that got cut off very quickly. And you know, with the yes thing, like you say yes to it, you could decide to say no to it. Jeff Dudan (18:15.156) Yeah. Casey Webb (18:21.806) eventually once you've sussed it out, but don't rule it out until you know more about what that thing you're knowing, not N -O -I -N -G. So yeah, like just if you start with yes, you're open, you're opening the thing up. When you start with no, there's no possibility, you just end it. It ends the conversation. So that's how I see it. I'm a very visual person and visual learner. So, like I could, in my mind's eye, and my father kind of lent that to me. He passed this little, um, torch of like, uh, just the visualization torch, let's call it, you know, and that's helped me every day, you know, when I get caught up here, cause it's a motor, right? It's like, it's your gut and your heart is really, you have to listen to that, that little person inside. Some people call it the angels. Some people call it your inner child, whatever that voice be and whatever you call it, really trusting in that, because then you can put it up here and then put it to work, right? Cause it's just a machine, you know, that we get caught up in. the cogs and the wheels of it all sometimes and becoming quiet is the point. And that's what he was doing for me. So my father's a very much he was he did pass a couple years ago, but he meditated, you know, for years that he taught me, you know, he brought me to a place that introduced transcendental meditation and meditation is a big part of that too. That's meditation is also prayer. It you know, it's a lot of things, you know, and for a lot of different people, but becoming still helps, you know, the the uncertain waters, you know, like it helps you navigate through things a lot easier when you're calm, you know, quiet and you're available to receive, you know. Jeff Dudan (20:00.436) I spent four hours last weekend with a business partner and he brought up this, and it's time we hadn't really spent together out of the office. It was on a weekend. We just went and sat around his pool on the lake and might've had a couple of cocktails, but he's in this training. He said, you know, I'm learning to sit in awareness. Casey Webb (20:16.494) Sure. Jeff Dudan (20:23.38) And he described it as, you know, I'm in this situation and something's going not well and I'm tending to get upset about it. But if I just sit in awareness and say, all right, what is this situation? What is the universe trying to tell me with this situation? Where are my opportunities to learn? I can take it as a slight, I can take it as a problem or a mistake, but in reality, if I just sit in awareness and I... I get objective, I get extra -spective, I get outside myself and I look at this objectively. What am I learning here? And I'll tell you what, man, I've found that to be a powerful little three words. Just when I'm, my head's, when everything's spinning, I got everything going on, just sit in awareness for a minute. And I have worked on meditating, but man, it's hard. Yeah. Casey Webb (21:13.23) It's work, you know, it's not easy and it never will be easy. It's just one of those things where you have to make time and carve out time to become still because as soon as you hit the ground in the morning, it's like, you know, things are moving. So it's really the time when you wake up, you know, I have a thing like get up. It doesn't always happen, but when you wake up, get up, you know, make your bed and then start your day. Cause you'll never get into a made bed faster than you would in an unmade bed. You know, if your bed's unmade, you're gonna crawl back into bed. If your bed is made, and then, you know, my dog is often in there, so I'm like, get out so I can make the bed so we can start the day, you know? But yeah, when you're in stillness, when you're quiet, and you're in that awareness that you speak of, you're able to receive things. You're able to see things without judgment. Just like walking meditations is very similar to this, is you're just taking a walk. You're not judging anything. You're not calling out. You're not speaking. You're just receiving the color, the light. You're just letting it wash over you. And... the things that come up when that happens, it's like, it's just clearer. Things are just clearer. You're seeing more by not judging or like having them, you know, like thinking about all your problems in that moment when you're actively listening and being still and quiet. All this stuff washes over you, just especially in nature. I mean, I lived near Prospect Park in Brooklyn in New York City. And to me, everything outside of your small apartment, in my case, is your backyard is and that was all the New York City. So I was able to retreat there often because I grew up in the suburbs. We camped my whole life as kids. I thought I was going to go outdoor mountain rescue, fire jumper, all these crazy things before I was led my way to acting. But I've I've I've always sought out nature because I know it's just I mean, it's it's it's there for us. You know, it's like especially living in a city for most of my adult life. It's one of those things where it's telling you to become quiet and listen. You know, so you can have your wits about you if there's, you know, wild animals or like impending branches or what have you, you know, it's like, it's a, when you realize how lucky we are, you know, it's a, or when you realize how lucky you are, there's so much to get, you know, with very little giving. It's just like this, all these beautiful things, you know, in nature that gives us. Caring for Dad During COVID: Cooking, Connection, and Closure Jeff Dudan (23:31.828) Yeah. Hey, I'm sorry to hear about your dad. It sounds like he made a big impact in your life. Casey Webb (23:35.022) Oh, thanks. Yeah, thank you for saying so. You know, I was lucky enough, as the story goes, we finished filming in Florida in the Keys, in Key West. This is like BC before COVID, right? And right after we were finished filming, coincidentally, South Beach Wine and Food Festival was going off and I wasn't working it, but it's a very, it's all the pros from Food Network are doing demos and it's a really great event. and it's right on the beach in South Beach. And I went just to go see some people that I knew, people in the industry and just decompress and quite honestly digest. Cause I think I had to eat like a giant key lime pie or something the day before. And I got back to New Jersey and we just moved my daddy sold his place. He moved into this winter rental and he was looking to buy or maybe rent. I get sick. Like, and that was like ground zero for apparently for me for COVID. I got that then, you know, I got sick, let's say. And well, in the short, I get better. I have a trip planned to Costa Rica and I go to Costa Rica, was it March 16th and March 20th, the whole world shuts down. So I find myself in Costa Rica. I want to stay for three months because there was nothing going on in New York city. It was just like, friends are like, stay, cause it's hell here. My brother was taking care of my parents. Everyone was cool. So I stayed there. The network and the production company were figured out. I got a 10 episode gig called Best Places to Pig Out and I had my microphone and my stuff there too, because I had to do some episodes of Man Vs. Who, do the voiceover, because we do voiceover for the show. So I was like, oh my God, I'm in freaking paradise, you know? And then this is a long story long about my dad. But after three months, it was like, I was there with friends and it was time to go. And it's like when paradise can become purgatory, because I started listening. Casey Webb (25:34.222) my mind was just over. I had to get back to work. I had to do something because I just, I was almost felt guilty. Went back home and, um, we moved my dad into this beautiful building and, uh, he just aged a lot. And I was like, I, I gotta make a move here. So I was literally blowing up an air mattress in his place and putting it back, you know, before he woke up cooking. And so if we didn't have that time off, um, cause we would went right back into production and I'm, gone, you know, it's like 10 days on 10 days off and more or less and when we're in production. So I had to spend like over a year with my dad before he got sick. And then he passed never had COVID but he got he wanted a little bit of cancer, a lot of treatment. And he's just an old Irish guy who's been bet that that it's a tough thing to go through that part of it because it's you want it to work but it doesn't seem to ever work, you know, for those of you who are older folks to just their immune system is. Jeff Dudan (26:11.7) That's great. Casey Webb (26:31.438) is not as strong, but I had to spend the beauty of that. I wouldn't have not, I wouldn't have had that time to spend with him if the world didn't shut down quite honestly. So some people have had terrible experiences and some others not. And mine was pretty incredible. We fought like brothers, you know, cause we just did. But I got to cook for him every day, multiple meals. And, and, um, that was, that's, that was really special. And then since then, um, he, he wanted to be cremated and, uh, awesome. He had taken care of all of it, you know, and, and he was a volunteer fireman for many years in our town and like, like whatever fun they paid into took care of all of it. Like everything was taken care of. Like my brother and I didn't have to do anything. And it was like, wow, this is cause that gives a very stressful time talking to friends that had similar experiences with their parents. And so he, I have these ashes and my brother's like, all right, what do you, you take them? I'm like, he's not very sentimental, you know? And I was like, all right, so I'm going to take them with me. I took them to Thailand, I took them to Costa Rica, I took them to New Orleans. I took... Jeff Dudan (27:32.436) Awesome. How many times did he get tested at the airport? Casey Webb (27:39.022) Uh, no, it's funny because I had them. I didn't have the whole bag. I took enough for Thailand. It took enough for Costa Rica. I took enough for, you know, jazz Fest in New Orleans. I took them to, I took them to Ireland. Um, Jeff Dudan (27:45.172) That's right. Yeah. There's not little bits of him in blue vials across the airports of the world. Casey Webb (27:55.15) nose and like a plastic bag rolled up and I just put it in my carry on. I fly a lot. So truthfully, they're looking for, you know, they're looking for, you know, uh, bombs and, and lots of heroin, I guess. I don't know, you know, right. They see they're like, Hey, you're the guy. No, I hope not. I, you know, maybe, uh, yeah, I mean that that's funny. Cause I meet a lot of, you know, TSA folks who are just great. There's they're, um, Jeff Dudan (27:59.86) Yeah. Jeff Dudan (28:06.58) Look, they know who we are now. They know who you are. You're not on a list. Casey Webb (28:22.51) you know, they're like doing their job and all of a sudden like, Oh, wait, you're the guy. Yeah, you know, some of my greatest conversations were in airports because it's like, Oh, well, because you're all stuck in the same place. And, and to me, you know, I found success later in life or success found me however you look at it. And people stopped me in airport and then like, we're talking and they're like, they're like, look at their watch like, we got to go. Oh, all right. Like they leave me before I leave them usually, you know, I'm like, All right, I guess you got to go, you know. It's just funny to me because Jeff Dudan (28:25.844) Yeah. Casey Webb (28:52.174) They are ones say hi to me, but I'm the one who doesn't want to believe, you know, uh, cause oftentimes I'm like in my head and I don't want to necessarily be there thinking about all the things I gotta do, what I didn't do. I could have done this better. And then it's like, Oh wait, like you're, you're, you're like these little, you know, people that I don't call them angels or whatever they are. You know, they're just people that come into your life. And it's like, I want to make time for them, you know, cause kids watch the show, couples watch the show, older folks, what just like families and people. There all kinds of me watch the show. So I have all the time in the world if you have time for me, you know. Jeff Dudan (29:27.06) That is much appreciated, I'm sure. Yeah, I lost my dad in the beginning of COVID, so I couldn't go see him because it was right when everything shut down and he was in bad health. And my older brother did get there and kind of get in right there at the end. But the year before he passed, I had sold the business in 2019. So the year before he passed, I made it a point four times to fly to Chicago. Casey Webb (29:36.462) Yeah. Casey Webb (29:42.126) Yeah. Jeff Dudan (29:53.268) take him out of town for three days. He'd never had a massage in his life, so we went up to Lake Geneva and got him a haircut, got him a massage, went to the restaurant, and just sat there and talked for two or three days. Sometimes my brothers would show up or whoever, but I am so thankful I did that. Because I had moved away and we hadn't been together very much for the previous 10 years. Casey Webb (29:59.694) It's amazing! Yeah. Jeff Dudan (30:21.108) I was just like, man, this is it's now or never and took the time to do it. And then sure enough, you know, COVID came the next year and that was, that was the end of it. And he didn't die from COVID, but you know, it certainly made it more difficult to handle everything. Cause it was like right in the beginning of it and everybody was really freaking out. And then, uh, Yeah, so he was cremated too, but my favorite joke, my dad was hilarious. Like he would appreciate, I wouldn't tell this joke if he didn't appreciate it, but he was just so funny and he was so nice and so kind and so funny, little soft, you know, kind of like maybe you said about your dad, like he could have probably stood up for himself a little more, but so like I'll serve my kids friends like this crispy chicken we get from the fresh market and it's great. And it's got this really thick breading on it. I'll be like. Casey Webb (30:49.87) Yeah. Casey Webb (30:55.918) Yeah, same. Grief and Growth: Jeff & Casey Reflect on Losing Their Dads Jeff Dudan (31:10.516) Yeah, you guys like oh, this is great. I'm like, well, it's my dad's recipe But enjoy it because the urns almost empty But I don't know that's just that he would have appreciated that would have been his type of joke but and then I took I We live in the urn and then I took his ashes up to Canada where he used to take me fishing as a boy and I Casey Webb (31:18.382) Oh my god! Casey Webb (31:30.254) Well, we live and earn, don't we? We live and earn. Jeff Dudan (31:40.276) spread them a lot, spread them a little bit in the lake. So yeah, I mean, it's, I miss them. You know, it's funny that connection we have with our father, as young boys, it's pretty cool. Casey Webb (31:43.374) Amazing. Yeah. Casey Webb (31:53.07) Can I share something with you? I had a friend, I didn't see it yesterday, but I'm on this text feed with all my buddies where I say, you know, hashtag go bucks. And we lost another dad recently and yesterday actually, and big golfer Irish guy, you know, just, just a total character. But like, I wrote this, I like woke up and I was reading what friends are writing. And I was like, you know, we had a long day yesterday, crawfish boy out in the sun, you know, this band played, it was quite incredible. And, um, We were definitely in our cups as they say, right? And I was sitting there, I was just kind of like tearing up reading what my friends are writing. Cause we're all at this age, like I don't have kids, you know, I didn't, I didn't, I didn't get married. I haven't been married yet. You know, just parents divorced. I chose work and yada, yada, yada. But I, you know, I have friends that have kids, I have a lot of friends that have kids. I don't, I don't have any, but I have a small dog I treat like my kid. He's in the, he's in the corner over there, but um, If I could share this with you, just like, I don't know where it came from. And sometimes this stuff just kind of appears. It just kind of channels through you. I very much believe that things channel through you from somewhere, what be it, you know, wherever. But a friend of mine had written something about heroes and legends and like there are heroes, heroes die, but legends, you know, are here forever. And our friend's dad, Jim, Jim, big Jim O 'Brien. Jeff Dudan (32:49.908) Yeah. Casey Webb (33:13.198) He was one of those guys. Like all our fathers were in their own right. But I write in my mind as I'm reading, I see our fathers, brothers, mentors that have passed as statues on pillars in some hall of remembrance. This way I can visit them. Casey Webb (33:38.734) This way I can visit them when I need to. It really makes me proud to know you guys and the mighty men that raised us all to live in power until it's time to rest in peace. Love you boys. Jeff Dudan (33:51.092) Beautiful. That's awesome. Casey Webb (33:56.462) Yeah, I miss him too. I have conversations with him, like my funny little dog, he's the quirkiest little thing. He reminds me of my Dex, my dad loved him so much, that sort of thing. And when he was sick, I was working out through my workouts and some of those, that stuff helps tremendously. Jeff Dudan (33:59.38) Yeah, yeah. Casey Webb (34:21.614) I do a lot of like CrossFit style stuff, high impact yoga. Like I just, you know, I'm in the water as much as I can and in the right season. But it was always like when he was sick, it was like, do it for dad, do it for dad, do it for dad. So it's like, it got me out of my head and then back into my body. And it was like, it's cause some people, you know, they kiss it up to God, you know, athletes, they do it to God or whatever. It looks as a peers or they're giving God the credit, you know? And I think there's something about that in performance. especially physical performance where you're able to kind of detach and it's bigger than all of us. And that's kind of my relationship with the visualization part, sitting down and getting my mind right and bringing myself to that place. So I'm prepared to be present and be in the moment and do my job, because like, especially in performance or acting, they just want you to show up and do your best. And I learned that by the process of not getting the job. by not getting, I got so much more because I was able to correct and tweak and make changes to, so I would get the job, you know? And just a quick crazy story. I used to have a beard and it was graying, you know? And I was like, and some auditions, cause I have a younger look, so I would, no, not at all. I'm embracing it. I mean, look at this thing. It's like a neck beard. Jeff Dudan (35:43.7) Not that there's anything wrong with that. It happens. It happens to the best of us. Casey Webb (35:50.254) Um, totally. It's part of the process, but I still have a full head of red hair, right? So I was, I was like for auditions, I was starting to color it. I was like, Jesus, I'm done doing this. Like I don't want to, I don't, it's, you know, I started doing that. I was like, I want to be as transparent as possible. So I shaved the beard for this cop show was Brooklyn nine nine nine, whatever that great funny show. I didn't get that job, but I shaved the beard off and I was like, Oh, I got this new look. I look like my dad, but 30 years younger mustache, fiery red hair. Jeff Dudan (35:54.484) Yeah. Casey Webb (36:19.662) And I tell you the truth, I got every job after that. And it was six jobs in a row. And like a few of them were commercials. One of them was in Panama, the country. And then the last one was Man vs Food. Well, I actually got Man vs Food before I got the Panama commercial, which was that's a whole other story. Like, I lost my passport while I was there. I was supposed to fly out that day. I had to go to get do a police report to get go to the consulate to get a new one. And then I had a I was flying out on Monday, it's Good Friday on Friday, and like the whole country shuts down on Good Friday. So like I had to do this in a day. I didn't have any money in my bank account, my buddy, they paid us in cash. And I had Jeff Dudan (37:01.492) Was this for the audition or for the show? For Man vs Food? Casey Webb (37:04.558) So I already got the show. But this is this commercial that I did in Panama. And I'm in Panama, it was this German real estate company. It's a pretty funny commercial because it's like, don't be like these guys. It's like Wolf of Wall Street, we replicated Wolf of Wall Street in a two minute commercial, cheaper to film it in Panama, it looks like Miami. I drove a Lamborghini had a Cartier watch wearing suits, we destroyed this like this office space was hundreds of extras where it was crackers, helicopter, it was Jeff Dudan (37:07.284) Okay. Right. Casey Webb (37:33.934) bananas and it's such a beautiful country. Yeah, like they I imagine they dubbed it in German and English but it was like it's like we were speaking English in the commercial and it's German real estate company it's like at the end like the doors kick in we're having this crazy party champagne everywhere there's like clothes are off it was like literally 100 extras and we're just going nuts everyone's soaking wet they're shooting hundred -dollar bills out of this cannon and confetti gold confetti and then it's like Jeff Dudan (37:36.916) And it was in English, it was an English speaking commercial. From Panama to Milwaukee: Behind the Scenes of Man vs. Food Casey Webb (38:03.918) record scratch is like, as if the cops are coming in, like the feds are coming in to end it all. And then it's like cuts to like a white screen. It's like, it's like, well, invest. It's like, basically, don't be an American, you know, it's like, well, invest, we kind of sold out a little bit. But it was hilarious, you know, like, I'm gonna pull smoking a cigar with this, like, amazing looking woman next to me that I can never get, you know, it's like, and like, on the top of this rooftop, you know, it was just, but like, I got caught there, I was almost not gonna leave the country, I had a date with my before like a first date with a girl that I want, I'm dating for a long time. That's Saturday, you know, so, and then Monday I was flying out to Milwaukee to shoot the first installment of Man Vs Food and like, so like my life was so incredible and so like it could have ended, you know, I could have like, you know, if I didn't make it back, I was screwed basically. And so the only ticket left was like, I paid cash for it, I remember, cause they paid us in cash, like just a wad of money to do this commercial and um. Jeff Dudan (38:52.884) Right. Casey Webb (39:01.998) I flew first class and I laid down the whole way and I ate ice cream and they'll never fly first class if you if you're never gonna if you're not always gonna fly first class never fly first class because once you go first class you can't go back it's tough especially when you're a bigger guy I'm like sitting next to other big guys and like coach and like get out of here you know anyway it's obnoxious but that's how I feel Jeff Dudan (39:05.972) Yeah. Jeff Dudan (39:17.524) Yeah. Casey Webb (39:28.174) Oh, but yeah, I made it home, thank God. And like, I got to go to Milwaukee to do this first episode. And we were filming the intro to the show too. So we went to, we were in Chicago and like we shot there too. And it was, it was crazy. Cause we filmed, we had to film the opener of the show and we had to create like challenges. So we went to places that I didn't necessarily eat a challenge, but we created challenges in that first season to, you know, we just didn't have. Jeff Dudan (39:53.076) right. Casey Webb (39:56.046) There was not enough time for me to eat all that food, but we made the time to create the opener, which is really, you know, heart -hitting. And so. Jeff Dudan (40:03.668) Okay, so are you saying that there wasn't always a challenge that kind of was interesting to you guys, so you had to create them at restaurants or just for the opener? Casey Webb (40:10.19) No, oh, well, for the opener, just to get the visual of like these giant steaks and things to give, you know, like we created that, you know, cause the show was off the air for five years. So it ended in 2012, the show didn't come back to 2017. Charles Nordlander, who was executive at the time at Food Network was the one who basically resuscitated and said, it's time, you know, it's time to either bring Adam back or Adam Richman. Jeff Dudan (40:17.204) Oh yeah, yeah, yeah. Yeah. Casey Webb (40:39.214) or get a new host. And yeah, so they went up, I guess he didn't have any interest. And then so they cast for it. So you mentioned Andrew Zimmern, who was recently on the show. I met him, how I met him, I met him, well, I met him in first class. He had no idea who I was on our way to Minneapolis for, well, for him, I guess it was for the Super Bowl, because he was having this huge party. And we filmed, yeah, he lives there now, yeah. Jeff Dudan (40:56.084) Yeah. Jeff Dudan (41:04.18) Yeah, he lived there. Yeah, he lives there. Yeah. Casey Webb (41:08.43) He we were doing two episodes. We did Minneapolis, St. Paul. We did Minneapolis on the same week during Superbowl. It was bananas. I did like a ton of press. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Um, totally. And we met on the plane and introduced myself and he's like, Oh, you got to come to this party. Cause his executive Charles Nordlander was my executive. And then I was like, Hey, uh, do members who said, Oh, you got to come to the party. This is a funny story. So I go to the party and I was doing press all day. Cause we had that day off. It was in between. Jeff Dudan (41:14.452) Okay. And were you flying out of New York? Flying out of New York? Okay. Yeah. So he spends, he's a lot, he's in New York a lot. Yeah. Casey Webb (41:38.286) doing the two episodes of Man Vs Food. Shooting an episode of Man Vs Food is three days of filming. So each restaurant gets a day and we do three restaurants. The third day is the challenge day and at the end of that hour, the last hour of that shooting is the challenge. Whatever it be, hot or huge. So anyway, I had, we're shooting. Jeff Dudan (41:54.516) on the third day or on every day. Casey Webb (41:57.262) On the third day, there's a challenge. So it's three restaurants each episode. One restaurant is a challenge and that's at the third day. And when that hour is over, when we're done, the cameras go down, lights go down and then like the guys are in the car, like ready to go. Like it's like, we're out, you know? And it's like, yeah, I'm dragging my leg to get into the car to go sleep on a hot rock somewhere, like a giant iguana to just digest, you know? And so I go to this party with Charles and like we did a bunch of press, we did. Jeff Dudan (41:59.252) Okay, right. Jeff Dudan (42:12.052) And you're heading to the emergency room. Exactly. Casey Webb (42:26.734) Um, one of the, uh, Dan Patrick show I got to do out there, which was hilarious. I got to, I wrestled one of his guy. Yeah, it was good. He's great. I, I'm a huge fan of his and, uh, they brought me on the show like several times, which is once I think we start doing some more episodes, I'll probably be back on there to see those guys. Maybe wrestle Paulie again. Uh, did you see the takedown? Did you see that part? Did you see me wrestle Paulie? It was in the Minneapolis. Oh yeah. Look it up. It's pretty great. Um, Jeff Dudan (42:31.124) I saw that one. That was a good interview. Yeah, it was a real good. Jeff Dudan (42:49.876) No, I didn't see it. Alright. Casey Webb (42:53.774) Well, Dan was like, Oh, so you wrestled in high school is like, yeah. And he's like, are you gonna wrestle Paulie? I was like, you want me to wrestle Paulie? Like my brother long time ago is like, you don't you don't you don't slap box either because he boxed he boxed and kickbox and he's like, you don't do you just don't do that. Either you fight or you don't fight. Okay. And so Dan was like a coach to me, you know, like I treated in that moment, he was my coach and I was like, you want me to I was like, okay, and so I just picked him up and I slammed Paulie to the ground and in a Hawaiian shirt and I could feel the breath leave his body. I thought I killed him. I swear to God, I thought I killed him. But I mean, I'm like 250 pounds of just dead weight, bones, and mass on top of this guy. And he was like, he wanted to do it. He was like, all right, let's go. And so we did it. It's worth looking it up. So I'll send it to you. So we go to this party, me and Charles Nordlander. And it's Andrew Zimmern's party. He was opening up his... Jeff Dudan (43:24.788) It's just... Jeff Dudan (43:41.716) All right. Casey Webb (43:50.19) restaurant, it was before he opened the restaurant, like Sweet Cricket, I forget it was Asian Fusion style restaurant that he was opening up. So the place is packed and I'm looking around like, oh my God, like all these people are from William Morris Endeavor. 75 % of all people in food, hosts, chefs, what have you, a lot of them are with William Morris Endeavor. I'm not with William Morris Endeavor, I'm with CAA. So I look around and I'm like, holy crap. I had to say no to that group of people because I, I'll tell you the story. So I'm on the road filming Man Vs Food and I'm with one agency and my dad's like, yeah, there's a voicemail, a radio show, keeps calling and leaving a voicemail at his house, my childhood home number, which is now debunked or defunct 842 -8487. I had it since I was a kid. And, um, And I go and I go to his house, I get off the road, I go to his house, I hit the answer machine. And it's like, Hey, this is Johnny Johnny from WME, which is William Morris Endeavor. So William Morris Endeavor was calling my dad's house looking for me to set an appointment for me to go talk to them in their offices and see if I wanted them to be my agency. I was like, Dad, you realize? I was like, I forget it. Like the second biggest one of two of the biggest eight at the time agencies, you know, it's like, holy crap. And CAA came knocking at the same time. So, I'm at this party with Charles Norwood Lander. I see Andrew's name. I go say hello to him and like thank him. And then I'm looking around the room, like all these people are from William Morrison Devere or they're, they're represented by. And I also see, well, I still have never met to this day. I see Adam Richmond who was in the wings and yeah, we still haven't met. So, it was just, I was just like, wow, I'm in the lions then right now. Like seriously, I was like, I'm really uncomfortable. Jeff Dudan (45:34.644) Yeah. Casey Webb (45:38.606) But then I just put on a face, like, oh, hey, how's it going? Oh, yeah, CIA's great. It's not fatal. And I did, and I did. I was arm in arm with my executive. This guy, he travels with Andrew, right? He's traveling with me. I had to put my defenses up a little bit, but it was fun. It was an incredible week of, I love that town. If you've ever spent time there, I'm sure you're being from Chicago. You've been to Minneapolis, St. Paul? Yeah. Jeff Dudan (45:38.708) See what? Jeff Dudan (45:43.444) It's not fatal. Walk in there like you own it. Not fatal. Yeah. Jeff Dudan (46:04.212) Yeah, yeah, 100%. It's great. Casey Webb (46:06.862) And I got to see the Super Bowl. Last minute, I got a ticket. I don't know how it happened. Someone said it was in the works and I got to see the game too. So that was probably the greatest filming in its entirety. It was just an incredible week. I haven't been to a Super Bowl since, but just because of timing. I would love to go back and do that again. But it was the first time I rooted for Philly ever, because I'm from New Jersey. We're Giants fans. So it was like, yeah. Anyway. Where were we? Jeff Dudan (46:38.772) Man, we were getting, just getting into the, we're 46 minutes in and Man vs. Food comes up. So it's, well, yeah, 100%, 100%. So, but I, you've been on Bobby Flay also. Casey Webb (46:43.502) Oh, yes. Well, you know, it's I've done other things, you know. Casey Webb (46:59.31) Yeah, I did, you know, like in the, in the, in the mix of things in the first through several seasons, they throw you into the mix because it's now Warner Discovery owns everything. Um, you know, food network, cooking channel. I was a guest host. I was a guest host. So they bring in three judges and then they bring in two guests hosts. Jeff Dudan (47:08.244) Yeah. Were you a judge on there? Were you a... Okay. Okay, yeah, you were one of the two guest hosts. I love Man vs. Food. I watched a gazillion episodes. I love Bobby Flay, Andrew Zimmer. And I've gotten into Robert Irvine a little bit. Yeah. Hey, do you know Mark Tarbell? Out of Arizona? No, okay. Casey Webb (47:22.35) Yeah. Casey Webb (47:26.51) Oh good. Yeah, Bobby's great. Casey Webb (47:32.462) He's intense. He's like a circus. He's intense. Not personally, no. Jeff Dudan (47:41.14) just met him in Arizona just a few weeks ago. Casey Webb (47:43.598) Well, we, wait, did I, wait, did we film with Mark? Did I? Jeff Dudan (47:48.82) Yeah, he said he's been out of it a little bit because he's got a couple of kids he's raising, but he's getting ready to get back into it. But yeah, and so I'm interested to know your, do you have a culinary background? I know you've worked in restaurants, but do you have a chef background at all? Casey Webb (47:55.854) Um, yeah, I've met Mark. I don't know Mark personally. Yeah. Casey Webb (48:07.598) So very much like my acting pursuits, I started washing dishes at 14 because you could then or no one really said anything in a small town. Child labor laws didn't exist in the small town of New Jersey. And that led me like being a dishwasher in any place, you really see the nuts and bolts of things. And because if you slow down, if you get backed up, you're screwed. Everything slows down. And like I would marvel at the like because there were it. Jeff Dudan (48:15.156) Yeah. Jeff Dudan (48:29.876) Right. Casey Webb (48:34.862) I'm surprised there isn't a series that's about the pizza delivery and pizza place because it's just hilarious. The characters that drove, you know, that delivered pizza, the sub guys versus the pizza guys, you know, they're all different characters. And like the pizza guy, like, you know, he was he's probably a convict and that's okay, you know, like, but he had it rolled up sleeve with cigarettes in it. It reminded me of Uncle Headband, like Fu Manchu mustache and like, you know, he was tight tattoos like I I love this guy, you know, this guy's bad ass, you know, he's like, he's just embodied toughness and he's like, just making pizza flawlessly. And I was like enamored by the people in it. And like, I learned then like, anytime you work in any restaurant scenario, there's always gonna be food, right? Like you're never gonna go hungry, you know, and you always have a little bit of money in your pocket. And so that was my entrance into culinary. And then I was, I had a bit of a, I guess, behavioral problem in grammar school. So I went up to this. Jeff Dudan (49:19.316) Right. Casey Webb (49:32.046) other school for a couple years. I think I even mentioned I was acting out before I started acting. And at that school, there was it was a lot of vocational stuff. And you kind of it was a point system. So it was like, if you focus your energy, and this is kind of where my dad stepped in, and my parents split up at the time, and, and the visualization, the focusing thing, and like, I was able to narrow my focus. And like, they were like, you know, we had to see a therapist and like, he has ADD, my dad's like, okay. Jeff Dudan (49:32.532) I can't, I find that very hard to believe. Casey Webb (50:01.326) You're not putting my kid on drugs. And so like, uh, never was medicated for any of that stuff. And it's okay if you are just, he just decided not to do that. I'm thankful that he didn't. He gave me other tools to work on. And, um, so it did vocational culinary basic, basic stuff, like not how to, how not to burn your house down, how not to cut your hand off, you know, that kind of stuff. And, and that progressed. So I had vocational culinary there and that led me into kitchens actually working in kitchens and like Bourdain's great at this. He's like, don't go to culinary school. He's like, go out and work. do that because once you're, I was just listening four hours of driving on the second half of my, my route to, um, medium raw, which is a really great read and or listen. Um, and he talks about that. He's like, you're going to be $40 ,000, even though he went to CIA and a lot of my friends with the CIA colonial Institute of America, which is like the best, you know, next to French culinary, which is now, um, uh, yeah. So I, I went, I worked in kitchens and, um, I got opportunities to move up within kitchens and. Jeff Dudan (50:41.876) Yeah. Casey Webb (51:00.718) And then like I was moving into New York city to pursue acting. And I realized like, you're, there's more money in the front of the house. And that was a bit of a character. So I went to the front of the house, started bartending. Well, I started, I would bus boy, food runner, expediter. And then you, you eventually work your way up to bartending. Like that's, you, we wait tables before you bartend typically they're not going to story behind the bar. So I worked every area and then even to management I've never owned. Um, Jeff Dudan (51:11.444) Yeah. Casey Webb (51:30.03) So I didn't go to conventional culinary school. I just, I learned in kitchens and got opportunities to do so. And, um, yeah, so I'm not a chef, a chef leads kitchens. I mean, people call me that, but it's like, I'm not a chef, but, um, well, you asked me if there's anything I wanted to talk about. There's a show that we're actually pitching, which is called Stage, which is essentially, I like to affectionately, um, describe it as dirty jobs with microbeets food. And it's working your way through each of these roles in the restaurant business that shine a light on how. Jeff Dudan (51:34.484) Got it. Jeff Dudan (51:54.356) Okay. Casey Webb (51:59.918) difficult, you know, and how necessary these roles are and be it the dishwasher at the burner den to the hot dog person at Yankee Stadium, you know, who's like that's you have to start you have to and staging is essentially a free internship that you would go work in a kitchen for nothing and learn skills from that chef and then maybe get hired. And so I for me, it's like I didn't have an opportunity to go current go to culinary school nor did I have an opportunity. to, it was a financial thing to go to a conservatory for acting. I paid my way to train and do my thing, whether it be improv, sketch, stand up, I just went and did it, you know? And... Jeff Dudan (52:39.092) Look, man, that's a brilliant idea for a show. I can see it. Like, I can see, like, because, so when I was 12 and 13 years old, there's a lot of similarities in our lives. I was acting out as well. And so when I was 12 and 13 years old, I was working Friday and Saturday nights, four till 1 a .m. in a Mexican restaurant in Chicago. And I started, you'd go in there and, yeah, and they would, so we'd spend the first hour. Casey Webb (52:42.062) Thanks. Casey Webb (52:52.046) No. Casey Webb (53:02.317) Por que no? Why not? You know? Jeff Dudan (53:08.244) and we would be folding napkins into triangles and doing setups and things like that. And then they would bring out plates of enchiladas and the entire staff would eat together. And then, and then it would open up around five o 'clock and you know, it would just be, you'd just be crushing till 11 or 12 o 'clock at night. So I started as a bus boy. Then I moved into the kitchen and I did appetizers. So I was like, I don't know what it, what the position would have been, but like I would do the appetizers and stuff like that and move. Casey Webb (53:16.782) Amazing. Jeff Dudan (53:37.108) plate, whatever they told me to do back there. And then I also ended up behind a bar wearing a little black vest at 13 years old lighting people's cigarettes. So I don't know what that says. But there's a there's a lot of stuff. There's a there's a lot of stuff that happens in the back of the house that is I mean, if you think if you think kitchen confidential is bad, I mean, you know, get outside the chef stuff right into all the other support people. I mean, Casey Webb (53:45.838) Yeah, Chicago, right? Casey Webb (53:54.926) Oh yeah. Casey Webb (54:02.414) Sure. Jeff Dudan (54:04.308) you know, it's gonna be it's gonna be interesting how far you go with that because, you know, sometimes if people see what happens in the kitchen, they might not eat there. Casey Webb (54:14.222) Right. And then, you know, a lot of people haven't read Kitchen Confidential and, you know, I recommend you do, you know, because it's not only is a great read, it gives you a bird's eye view. It gives you, no, it gives you a fly in the wall. Hopefully not. Because there are flies on those walls. An intro to, you know, to kitchens and how things are run from Anthony's perspective, which is I read that it was like, oh, OK, like, you know, anyone that has worked in restaurant business can relate to some degree. And he's just. He's just a, he was and is to me just a kind of a superhero in the industry. And yeah, it was like, it was like a Bible, you know, at one point I was like, okay, you know, we're not alone, you know. Jeff Dudan (54:55.156) Yeah. Did he narrate medium raw himself? Was it his voice? All right. Look, I can't get enough. I still to this day cannot get enough of that guy. Casey Webb (55:00.814) Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Yeah. Yeah. No, and he's relentless, but he's honest about it. I feel like, and about himself too, and he really opens up. They're like vignettes, each chapter is like a deep dive into something specific. I'm looking forward to the other half of it on my way home. I waited, I stopped listening to, I'm like a total true crime degenerate. All I do is listen to true crime stuff for whatever reason. I'm just really fascinated by human behavior, whether it be, this way I can see it coming. Jeff Dudan (55:11.06) Yeah. Casey Webb (55:35.726) You know, it's like, oh, that guy's, you know, you should watch over that person. But yeah, it's worth a read or and or listen. It's in to hear him speak it. It's like it resonates that much more instead of me thinking of his voice in my head when I read it. It's just nice to hear his voice, you know. And yeah, culinary, I, you know, yeah, he's told Poe and like he talks about his relationship with Food Network and he's basically they let everybody go, you know, Emeril and him and they're like a new regime came in and. Jeff Dudan (55:54.036) He was a poet. Casey Webb (56:04.334) That was the best thing that could ever happen to him because then he became the journalist. I think that he was always meant to be because of that, because he went to other platforms, you know? And so, which is, and it's funny because we were with, he was on travel channel first, as I remember. And so were we with Man Vs Food the first two seasons. And we, it was like the wild west. I could say anything, which was amazing. A lot of that stuff. I grew up watching Warner Brothers cartoons. Funny enough, Warner Brothers now owns, it's Warner and Discovery. And just, you know, the subtleties of things, you know, the innuendo and like letting, you know, letting things, people say the craziest things and like, and working off of that. I love my job for many reasons. You know, I don't like the eating part, at least the humongous and the hot stuff, but everything else is pretty amazing. So it's, yeah, anyway, it's a good read. What was I gonna say? Oh. Jeff Dudan (56:58.228) Well, I'll tell you what, yes sir. Casey Webb (56:59.854) The real real quick, the the the stage thing, it's not picked up yet. So we're still pitching it. So if you know anybody or a network that really wants to see me very much like Casey and Man vs. Food, Lumix is way through every position in the restaurant business, you know, over and over again. And with with hopefully with as much humor as Mike Rowe does on Dirty Jobs, because I really see it like that. And I love Mike Rowe for what he does. He's just brilliant at that. And Jeff Dudan (57:07.028) Okay. Jeff Dudan (57:26.548) Yeah. Casey Webb (57:28.526) showcasing what people do as far as hard work or the dirty jobs that people don't want to think about or do. It's like there was this other show that we had this idea for and it was American Trade, which is very much of the same thing. It's the things that are still made in this country and like just made here, you know, by people that live here, no matter where they're from, you know, like, you know, we're all immigrants at one point, you know, so it's a, it was just a beautiful foray into that world. But anyway, Staj, yeah, if you know anybody, let me know. Jeff Dudan (57:45.108) Right. Jeff Dudan (57:57.556) So is your vision to have the truth cam and the cameras behind the camera? Because the brilliant thing about Dirty Jobs was the fact that they had somebody that was always rolling. And if he wanted to do the camera take, he could always, they were filming it, but then he always had the camera he could turn to and just say the most ridiculous thing. And it was like. Casey Webb (57:57.998) You Casey Webb (58:08.494) Oh yeah! Casey Webb (58:14.222) Sure. Casey Webb (58:18.542) Yeah, I really, I feel like there's things missed. Some of the things I've said in situations on Man Vs Food are ridiculous and just because of the person I'm talking to, not just because of me. Like I said, things channel through us. It's in the moment and it's like, man, it didn't make it. Because it's only 22 minutes. So there's only so much that get put in and they still have to make a show. So yes, definitely. And I hope it's on some sort of streamer that we could say whatever we want really to really show and show and tell. Jeff Dudan (58:39.252) That's right. Jeff Dudan (58:46.964) Yeah. Casey Webb (58:48.494) you know, not just, you know, show, you know, and I think that therein lies the brilliance, you know, to really, to dig deep into that stuff and really get dirty, you know, cause it is a, it's, it's a dirty job. All of it, the restaurant business, you know, it's like, um, but you know, I wouldn't change any of it. You know, like I, I, uh, yeah, some of my, my, my closest people in the world are restaurant folk from, you know, top to bottom all over the place. So. Jeff Dudan (59:00.564) Yeah, it is. Jeff Dudan (59:13.3) Well, I for one appreciate Man Vs Food. You're incredible on the show. I watch it all the time and appreciate what you do there. Last question for you today, Casey. If you had one sentence to make an impact to speak into somebody's life based on your experience, what would that be? Casey Webb (59:17.454) Oh, thank you. Casey Webb (59:22.478) Thank you. Oh, uh -oh. Casey Webb (59:33.486) I have it written at my desk and it says focus on the work. And it's, um, that can mean, uh, cause often, oftentimes we get like caught up and we've talked about this in this past hour plus, or however long we've been talking, but it's when, you know, if you just focus on the work, I really feel everything else will be there, whatever that work is and just get out of your head and physically take action, take the action to do the work and, and, uh, you know, trust in that and breathe through it. Jeff Dudan (59:38.612) focus on the work. Casey Webb (01:00:02.83) You know, so focus on the work. That's something I tell myself every day. Jeff Dudan (01:00:07.7) Casey, this has been awesome. Thanks for being on. Casey Webb (01:00:09.998) Thank you. I appreciate you. And let's do this again. All right. Jeff Dudan (01:00:13.972) Yeah, 100%. Casey Webb with Jeff Duden, and we have been on the home front. Thanks for listening. Casey Webb (01:00:20.91) Thanks guys.
Brief Summary In this value-packed episode of On the Homefront, Jeff Dudan interviews Kevin Short, founder of Clayton Capital Partners and the author of Sell Your Business for an Outrageous Price. With over 45 years of M&A experience, Kevin shares war stories, pricing psychology, negotiation strategies, and practical wisdom for business owners looking to maximize their exits. This episode is a must-listen masterclass in running a competitive sale process, understanding buyer behavior, and avoiding costly mistakes. Key Takeaways You Only Need One Buyer, But You Need 150 to Find Them : Kevin’s proven process starts with 10,000 prospects and filters down to 15 serious offers to generate bidding pressure. Outrageous Prices Are Real—but Only With the Right Process : Strategic buyers sometimes pay double the average EBITDA multiple if the deal solves a big enough problem for them. Your Competitive Advantage May Be Hidden : It's not always your product—sometimes it's your location, team, or how you fit into the buyer’s existing business puzzle. The Willingness to Walk Away is Crucial : Sellers must be trained to maintain leverage, stay quiet, and let their advisors control the narrative. Terms Matter More Than Headline Price : Earnouts, rep & warranty insurance, IP structuring, and holdbacks can make or break your outcome. Choosing the Right Advisor Is Mission-Critical : Past client references, industry trust, and battlefield-tested negotiation skill matter more than a slick suit or fee structure. Featured Quote “Sellers are not professional sellers. Buyers are professional buyers. That’s why you have to level the field with process, preparation, and representation.” TRANSCRIPT Who Is Kevin Short? 45 Years of M&A Experience Explained Jeff Dudan (00:03.776) Welcome everybody. This is Jeff Duden and we are on the home front. And today we have a guest that I've been trying to get on for quite some time because of the impact that they made in my journey and what I learned from their book, Sell Your Business for an Outrageous Price. Welcome Kevin Short. Kevin Short (00:22.222) Thanks, Jeff. Excited to be here. Jeff Dudan (00:25.208) Yeah, yeah, fantastic. So I've been looking forward to this. Kevin, can you give the listeners a little short synopsis of your background? Kevin Short (00:35.074) Yeah, absolutely. Grew up in St. Louis, which is where I'm located still. Came out of school, went into the financial advisory business for about 10 years. And during that time, clients, local clients that wanted to acquire businesses, had me go out and do that for them. And so that's where I began to learn the M&A path for I'd call entrepreneurially owned company. So. The companies I've learned how to do deals with are anywhere from 10 million to 200 million. And my practice is all over North America. So we're an investment banking practice. All we do is M&A. All we do is privately held companies that have decided to sell. Jeff Dudan (01:22.068) And was your background in accounting or finance? What were you trained in originally? Okay. Kevin Short (01:26.378) Yep, finance. Yep, St. Louis University, finance. Jeff Dudan (01:31.68) Yeah, well, my brother, he's got a son who's a pitcher at NC State University. And he told me when he was young, he said, if you love your kid, you'll teach them to bat left, throw right. And then I've added, and learn finance. So I've added that on. You know, it's the money. It's the science of making money with money. Kevin Short (01:44.302) Hahaha! Kevin Short (01:47.634) Yeah, that's exactly right. Kevin Short (01:53.77) Yeah, absolutely. It's a fascinating time. It's very challenging every day. A lot of creativity is important. Negotiating is important. Salesmanship is important. Jeff Dudan (02:05.188) Yeah, and you've really seen the rise of private equity throughout your career. Can you speak a little bit about that? Rise of Private Equity and Why You Must Run a Competitive Sale Kevin Short (02:11.07) Yes, I started 45 years ago doing deals and private equity was nowhere to be found. They were there, but they were very small. Today, we track 4500 private equity groups and we market our deals to them because we never know where the right buyer is going to come from. We will slice and dice the database because there are some private equity groups that are more on point than others. And then of course, we go out to the Kevin Short (02:40.578) The deals we have, you know, it's not like you're selling IBM to GE where everybody knows who the buyer and the seller is. We have companies that most people haven't heard of, so we've got to find the buyers and get them to the table. So in our process with private equity, with strategic, private equity is by far the largest number of respondents to our different marketing efforts. But the A&A... we close about 80% of our deals with private equity. When we go to market, we will market to 150 folks will raise their hand, sign an NDA and say, we wanna look at your deal. So that's one of our advantages is we put in the hard work to make sure we have plenty of qualified buyers at the table because when you go to ask for offers, which is a big part of the process, if we do not put a selling price, as you know from reading the book. We ask them for offers. You better have a lot of people there at the table because many of them don't want to participate in an auction or they don't want to pay the price. But if you have plenty there, at the end of the day, you only need one buyer. And so that's what we do. You start with 150. We start with close to 10,000 prospects. 150 will raise their hand and say yes. I'll sign an NDA. That 150 melts down to about 50. And that 50 turns into about 15 offers when we ask for them. That's the process. Jeff’s Franchise Exit: 120+ Offers, 10 Finalists, 2 at the Finish Line Jeff Dudan (04:15.9) That's my experience as well. We were represented by Boxwood, Pat Gallaher. Really, they've been exceptional inside of the franchise space over the last five years. I think AdvanaClean, my company, was their second deal in the space. Did a great job. I think we had 121, what would be, indications of interest. And then I think 35, maybe, LOIs. And I think we had 10. Ten came, we put ten in for management meetings, and we ended up with two at the end of the day that were right down to the end there, so. Kevin Short (04:51.826) Yeah, that's an excellent auction result. Jeff Dudan (04:55.808) Yeah, yeah, it really was exceptionally well done. We had a good product. There was people looking. I've shared some of the wisdom in here and I pulled the book back out and I found all my old highlights in it. And again, it's sell your business for an outrageous price. If people are out there thinking about selling their business, it's a highly recommend because the book is so... easy to read and understand. It doesn't get into the technical aspect of finance. But it really, I mean, it'll give you some diligence lists and things like that. But what it really gives you is an understanding of what the process needs to look like. So you're a seller and you're unsophisticated. You've never sold a company before. There's a real chance that you can get taken advantage of inside of that process. And there was four things and I've... I've changed it a little bit over time, but now I got right back to it, looking back in the book again. But there's four things that you recommend as pillars of a good deal and a good process. One is that you need to have a competitive advantage. I've said you've got to have a competitive advantage that you can articulate, that you can prove, that makes sense. The second thing is you've got to find the buyers, which means ultimately you've got to run a competitive process. Four Must-Haves for Selling a Business at Maximum Value so that you can find enough buyers of interest so that you can find the best buyer inside of that. Number three, you've got to have a seller who, and this is the way I've said it, is who will keep their mouth shut and who will be willing to walk away. I mean, even inside of our deal, and we were clearly represented by an investment banker, I was getting calls on the back door, people trying to. you know, get in touch with me and see where I was, maybe emotionally around the business, or, you know, just trying to, you know, break, you know, subvert the process. And so really, the seller has to, has to maybe just watch the process happen and then be, people have to believe that the seller's gonna be willing to walk away. Because if you don't have that, then you're really putting your representation at a disadvantage in their negotiation. Jeff Dudan (07:12.992) If they know you're not gonna walk away, then I've just cut the legs out from under you if you're advising us. And then the fourth thing is, is you've gotta have proper representation. You've gotta have a great advisor that's done this before, has relationships. I would even go farther as to say what I've learned in the last five years is somebody that the industry trusts, that when they do the diligence or quality of earnings and they put the SIM together, Kevin Short (07:13.302) Yeah. Kevin Short (07:19.202) Correct. Jeff Dudan (07:40.844) and it's all out there that you're a reputable company, they know you've done your homework and that you're gonna be able to defend at the end of the day what you put in that SIM. So. Kevin Short (07:50.41) Yeah, that's an excellent, all those points are dead on, of course. Uh, the buyers have to be able to check out the investment banker and they've got to be legit. If they're not, they don't even play because that, that becomes too expensive for them. But you're right on. And what started the journey, Jeff, going back to one of your earlier questions, it's been 15 years ago that I had a company that I took to market and a steel service center. And the only. We had several buyers that came to the table. They were bidding around a five multiple. And that's what I was expecting. One buyer offered a 10 multiple. I thought they'd made a mistake. I did not mention that to them. And we kept moving forward and we closed the deal. And I ran into the CEO about six months later on a golf course. And by this time, I assumed he had figured out that he paid twice what he needed to. and he's holding a driver in his hand. I thought, oh, this could be nasty. And he I went up to ask the pet, tell me how it's going. He said, it's unbelievable. He said, you know, we close that one plant that was losing a lot of money. We have rid of the union. We did this. We did that. All the things they knew they were going to do. I did not know as a seller rep. I did not know any of that. He did. The buyer always knows what they're going to do. And that's part of the process for me to assume that I know what this is worth to a buyer. Jeff Dudan (08:53.452) I'm going to go ahead and close the video. Kevin Short (09:20.35) is a critical mistake. You have to assume nothing. You have to assume that the buyer knows what you're doing, you give them the data, you then have to work your process to get them to go to the highest level they can. So today, that's what our process is built around, how to find buyers that will pay two times or more the average EBITDA, the average multiple in that industry. So in your industry, EBITDA was probably quite a bit less than you got. you found the right buyer that was willing to pay more. So that's the magic. We were all trained in the investment banking business that you go for an average EBDA because nobody's going to pay you more. Why would a sophisticated buyer pay you more? The answer is if they have to, they will do it. The “Outrageous Price” Deal That Sparked the Book Jeff Dudan (10:08.912) Yeah, in our process, all business owners generally that have a business of size are going to get inbound solicitations from potential buyers, strategics. And over the years leading up to my sale, I had gone through the process with very large industry players, sophisticated players. And I... Engage the process, you know Not that seriously, but hey if I can give some information and figure out what somebody's willing to give me and I worked really hard with one inbound buyer and Ultimately, you know it came down to it and they made me this offer And I know I know they felt good about it But I when I was sitting with the ceo and he made the offer I could see his eyebrows went up and he really wasn't like It's almost like, is he gonna take me seriously on this offer? And then less than 14 months later, I sold my business for five times what that offer was by running that process. Kevin Short (11:16.61) Right, exactly. But you did the critical part. You read the buyer. You knew, because we do it over and over again. I will explain it often to clients. I might make my money, I would earn my money, in about a 10 or 20 second bite. If you saw the eyebrows, you've earned your money. That's where you made your money, right there. You knew he wasn't serious. You knew that was not his top number. Jeff Dudan (11:23.553) Yeah. Kevin Short (11:46.626) So you're right on, you're right on. Jeff Dudan (11:46.832) That's right. Yeah, that's right. And then, you know, and of course, we weren't running the process. So there was nobody else. So and they knew that. There's buyers. You know, everybody tries to make money when they buy something. OK. Kevin Short (11:53.611) Right. Kevin Short (11:59.338) They're professional buyers. This is what they do for a living. Sellers are not professional sellers. It's a big difference. Jeff Dudan (12:05.172) That's absolutely right. Yeah. So going down these pillars, competitive advantage. You know, if you're kind of in a me too business, what would be an example of a competitive advantage that somebody might not even know that they had, or if it doesn't exist, then is it more difficult to get two times the average EBITDA multiple? Why Competitive Advantage Depends on the Buyer’s Blind Spot Kevin Short (12:31.814) It is because the competitive advantage changes. The competitive advantage to one buyer may be very different to another buyer. We sold a company that was in the fresh produce processing business. So truckloads of lettuce would show up every day on one side of the building, and it would move through the building and be washed and sliced and diced. Nothing magic about that, right? It's a plain Jane business. Jeff Dudan (12:41.218) Oh. Kevin Short (13:00.13) What we found was a buyer who was very big in the industry, but their coverage was the perimeter of the US. So there's this big donut hole in the middle. So we went to the buyer and said, we have somebody that fits right into your donut hole. We are willing to sell for a seven multiple, which is what the industry multiple was. So we're not asking for anything more, except. we're going to multiply the amount of EVDA you're going to make by eliminating all that deadheading going back and forth to the middle of the country, all that wear and tear on trucks, all the new business you're going to make up and pick up because you're going through the middle of the country. And our estimate was we had to build a model that said that our EVDA was going to double because of these changes. And so we're not asking for a higher multiple, but we doubled the EVDA, which then doubled the price. So we got there through a different way, but that wouldn't have applied to almost anybody else. This was a very unusual situation. So their competitive advantage for this buyer was very different than the rest of the industry. Jeff Dudan (14:10.924) Well, that's exceptionally well done because typically, or at least what people have tried to tell me is that the efficiencies go to the buyer. So if, right? I mean, so, but if, yeah. Kevin Short (14:22.57) They tried that. Yeah, they tried. They tried that. But think about that backwards. They weren't going to get these efficiencies with anybody else. So that was that was our advantage. If they wanted those efficiencies, they had to buy us. Jeff Dudan (14:33.348) That's right. Jeff Dudan (14:38.496) Yeah, so really it's like a big puzzle when you're going out to the marketplace and, you know, taking what you have against all the different strategic buyers, even P.E. backed or not, and trying to find the one that's going to get the biggest lift immediately by integrating the company. Kevin Short (14:58.87) Absolutely. We sold an IT company. They were building software for prisons and jails and court systems. And we held an auction, 10 offers. They grouped around a five and one PE group offered 11. And again, we didn't point that out. And we closed the deal. How One PE Buyer Paid Double Because of an Internal Problem Jeff Dudan (15:24.464) Thank you. Kevin Short (15:27.438) come to find out they had bought another similar company six months before but much larger and they had all kinds of trouble and our client was going to fix those troubles. Our client, they fit together so well that the PE group said look we know we paid too much but it didn't matter because it was fixing a multi hundred million dollar problem we had. That's exactly what happened. See again I would not have known that unless I could have read the buyer's mind. Jeff Dudan (15:54.872) right. So we've talked about competitive advantage here. We've also touched on process earlier. That's kind of what we opened with. I wanna get to the seller behavior. And the way that you said it is, you gotta have a seller who's willing to walk. How does that manifest in behavior or inside of a process? How did they know? How do you communicate to a potential buyer who may be re-contracting that? this seller is ready to walk. Kevin Short (16:28.438) Well, because they generally don't believe that when you say it. So part of what we have to do is train the seller. We call it, when a seller gets so excited, their eyes get big, eyebrows go up. They may puddle out. They get up from their chair, there's a big puddle in their chair from all the excitement. So if we have a seller like that, we have What Makes a Great Seller? Trainability, Discipline, and Silence Jeff Dudan (16:32.281) Right. Kevin Short (16:58.338) their access to the buyers. That's job one. Job two is we train them like crazy. Because at some point they're gonna meet that buyer. We have to train them to be able to impress and convince that they're going to walk away, that their advantages are truth. And don't be counting your chickens. We had a seller, you would love this guy, bigger than life. He was in the hazardous waste business. He's hauling away all the sharp containers from hospitals. And that business goes for about a four or five multiple. He had gotten an offer from the big dog in the industry, the biggest dog in the industry. It was, I didn't say that. That's exactly who it was. Jeff Dudan (17:38.564) probably stare a cycle, but you didn't say it, I did. You didn't say it, I did, but I know they rolled up, I know they rolled up like 30 businesses in like seven years or something. Kevin Short (17:49.994) Well, so they know this story because they've heard me say it at different conventions. They don't like it. So they offered our client a four multiple of a one and a half million dollar EBDA. Okay, six million bucks. Client came, but they walked away at the 11th hour. We never knew why. So he hires me 11, 12 months later, tells me the story. So we spent two weeks in my office brainstorming on a whiteboard. Jeff Dudan (17:55.426) Ha ha Kevin Short (18:18.682) Why in the world were they here in the first place? He was awfully small. And we came up with some theories and those theories became the premise of our marketing effort. So we had a premise that we thought that he was so good at marketing that he had wrapped up St. Louis market, but he hadn't expanded. You know, imagine his skill sets in New York or Philly or Chicago. So we went, the good news is, in the hazardous waste business, the good news is when you pull a permit to open up a location, It's public information. So we went to those cities exactly and pulled permits that we were going to open a facility there. He gets a call within a day. You know, Regis, what in the hell are you doing? You're going to hurt yourself. You don't know what you're doing. If Regis, we had scripted everything. Tell them, look, we're not for sale anymore. Cause they said, why don't we come down to St. Louis and talk about buying you again? He said, I'm not for sale. He said, but if you're willing to sell some of your locations, we can talk about it. So this threw him completely off balance. And I said, all right, hang up the phone, let's go quiet. In the meantime, we pulled some more permits to other cities. And they said to him, how are you gonna do this? He says, I have a private equity partner, I have an investment banker, we're going to grow like crazy. Well, they were the big dog in all the markets. For him to grow, the market share, the market itself wasn't growing, he was taking share away from them. So they knew. And they... knew his skill set. So they called back two weeks later. They called me this time. And they said, we want to buy your client. I said, no, thank you. I hung up. Now, this is a guy who puddles out on a regular basis. And I had to keep calling him and saying, Regis, they call. I told him to get lost. He said, I hope you know what you're doing. I said, me too. So they call again in two weeks. And I said, well, let me save you some time. We believe this business is worth, let's see, about a 20 multiple of the EBDA. So we were talking about low $20 million. And they said, you're crazy. I said, okay, thank you, goodbye. Hung up. I never hung up on somebody so many times in my life. They called back the next day and said, all right, we're not gonna pay you $22, $23 million, but we could pay you $14. I said, no, thank you, and hung up. Now, I have a problem. The Hazardous Waste Deal That Jumped from $6M to $20M Kevin Short (20:46.846) I've got to call Regis who needed the money a lot and tell him it is offered 14. He goes, hey, that's amazing. I said, well, I hung up. He goes, what? I said, yeah, they'll call. They'll call back. They call back an hour and a half later. They said, well, we'll pay you 18. I said, no, thanks. I said, save me the trouble here. If you hit 20, we'll do the deal. I don't want to keep hanging up on you. He said, all right, we'll do the deal. So the next problem was we had to go through due diligence. You know, if they're going to spend $20 million for a company that's worth $6 million, they want to make sure they're getting something for their money. And I prepared Regis, I said, Regis, this game is far from over. They're going to try to walk away and call your bluff several times. And they did. We kept walking away. And gluten the day of closing, which is what they did to him the last time, because we knew that was coming. So we said, no, thank you. And they called back in an hour and a half and closed the deal. He was so excited. He's still living large. off the closing. He calls me on a regular basis as he drives by my office in his Bentley. He said, I just got a new Bentley. Thank you. So it's a great story. Great guy. He was a good seller. He studied hard. He came in here one day with six suits. He said, pick the one that's going to make the right impression. So he was really into making the impression and studying his script. Jeff Dudan (21:54.436) Love it. Kevin Short (22:13.11) But you have a client that has to take, you got to have an investment banker that believes, that he believes in because it's going to challenge his logic. And so they have to believe it. I've had attorney, you have to have attorney on board, either will stay quiet or believe in the process. I've had attorneys say to the buyer, I don't know why you're talking about 11 multiple, this business, you could get it for six. I'm like, the hell are you doing? I called a client, told him he fired the attorney, of course. Jeff Dudan (22:13.53) Yeah. Jeff Dudan (22:42.841) Yeah. Kevin Short (22:43.126) But people just don't believe that people, that buyers will pay twice as much for the same business, same EVDA, as everybody else is paying half price. So you learn a lot. You learn a lot doing deals. Jeff Dudan (22:57.328) That's the ultimate game of chicken. And in my experience with the investment bankers I worked with, in my deal, I know when the money was, I know when they earned their money and it was right at the end. And I did a testimonial for these guys and I was just like, you gotta have somebody that's gonna be able to stand tall in that pocket. Kevin Short (22:59.506) It is. Kevin Short (23:15.485) Exactly right. Jeff Dudan (23:23.348) at the fourth quarter on the 10 yard line going in. And it has to happen because, you know, there was a couple of pullbacks there. And he ended up getting me like, I have just an extra several million dollars for something that was already included in the deal, but they didn't understand that it was. And I heard him quote it. He quoted it to him and I'm like, well, that's art. And he's just calm and... Kevin Short (23:43.983) Right. What you do with Jeff. Jeff Dudan (23:52.076) you know, Tom Brady like, so it was awesome. Kevin Short (23:55.355) Right. All the mistakes they make like that, well, we didn't understand that. It's always in the same direction against the seller. They never make mistakes the other way in overpaying. So it's fascinating. Picking the Right Investment Banker: Ignore the Suit, Ask Their Clients Jeff Dudan (24:06.548) Yeah, fascinating. So if you were going to advise somebody how to pick an advisor, an investment banker, what are the couple of things that somebody should consider? Kevin Short (24:17.218) Well, as I say often, be careful because investment bankers all buy their suits in the same place, have the same haircut, they look sharp, look professional, they speak the language. None of that matters. You've got to talk to their past clients and tell them how it actually went. How did it go when that 300-pound lineman was breathing down Brady's neck? Did he stand tall or did he bail? So the clients know that. Jeff Dudan (24:30.48) Yeah. Kevin Short (24:46.198) So you've got to have documented proof that they can do this. And there really are not very many people that can do it. There's a lot of investment bankers in the world that get paid very well because it's a very profitable industry, but there aren't very many people that do it well. So you've got to find the one that does it well. Jeff Dudan (25:05.368) Yeah, and you can't really be that fee sensitive. Everybody, all the good ones have a very similar model. But when I had that single inbound offer, I was working with somebody who was a tax advisor, but they were also a business broker. And I would happen to be meeting with him. I said, well, this is what this company offered. And he knew what my financials were. He goes, that's a pretty good deal. That's about what we would get you. And I like, but I already knew what I thought market was. because other people that had sold. And so I knew that it was way short and that I was gonna ultimately go and run an auction. But again, if this was my trusted person and they told me that that's what it was worth and I went with it, then I would have ended up with 20% of what I ultimately ended up with. And things would be really, really different. Kevin Short (25:55.089) Yeah, yeah. Your intuition was very good. Jeff Dudan (26:19.062) Yeah, and Jeff Dudan (26:25.216) associates working on deals. Well, I mean, I've got, you know, my son's a finance and econ major. He works with me now. My daughter's a first year law student in NYU. Her boyfriend's working in investment banking in New York. He's working on deals, right? So there's junior people that are doing the work. But I would also suggest that people should know who's the quarterback on my deal. And if you take too small of a deal to too big of a firm, Kevin Short (26:42.59) Absolutely. Kevin Short (26:48.15) Yep. Jeff Dudan (26:52.62) you might not get the talent on your deal that you need. Kevin Short (26:56.842) You don't want you're exactly right. You don't want to settle for low talent. You want the highest level talent who has the experience that you need and do not settle. Price vs. Terms: Why “All Cash” Isn't Always All That Jeff Dudan (27:07.34) Yeah, yeah, 100%. So I do trainings occasionally for franchisors. And on the second day, I open up, I bring in my deal binder, which is about 15 inches of paperwork, maybe in four or five different binders. And I slam it down on the table. And I say, I said, this is the paperwork. Kevin Short (27:08.851) expensive. Jeff Dudan (27:37.004) from when I sold my company. And I ask him this open-ended question, what do you think is more important, price or terms? Kevin Short (27:47.466) Right. It's terms. Terms. You get the biggest price in the world if you never collect it. Jeff Dudan (27:47.692) I'll ask, and I'll ask you. Jeff Dudan (27:55.928) Yeah. Tell me, tell us what you mean by that. Kevin Short (28:01.814) Well, they could wrap you up in earnouts and all kinds of weak notes for a big price and you'll never see the money. So you want the big price and you want excellent terms. You gotta have both. But the terms, the terms gotta be there. All the non-competes, all the intellectual property ownership, because we carve our deals out. It may be better for you to keep the intellectual property as a seller and sell that later. There's all different ways to skin a cat, but you've gotta have somebody who understands all that. Jeff Dudan (28:17.007) Yeah. Jeff Dudan (28:34.136) Yeah, so if you have all your IP in a separate company and you've been charging 1% lease to the company for it or something like that, and maybe you put that... I know a guy who has a 4,000 unit chain in one of the franchising here and I was talking to him and he took all their IP and their trademarks and it's a place where... It's a well-known place that cuts hair and he put... all their IP into a separate company and they lease it back to the franchise or and that's in his trust for his kids. So it's, you know, yeah. Kevin Short (29:11.21) Yep, that's smart. In case it doesn't work out, he can start up a different company the next day using an IP, because they will have blown the non-competes by not paying him. So that is very smart on his part. Jeff Dudan (29:24.608) Yeah, yeah, so sharp, sharp guy there. The other thing is like what kind of a basket, how reps and warranties insurance is a big thing. You sign off on all these representations and all these warranties and it's 50 pages of things that there's gotta be all kinds of little gotchas in there. You do it with the best of intent, to the best of your ability, but then will the buyer pay for. Insurance that if something does come up that was a violation of a rep or warranty that you made that it first goes to insurance And you know, that's important how much hold back how much of a basket how long? And are there any financial markers that have to be hit for you to get the rest of your money? I mean Um, I know I have a horror story here And i'll share it because people need to know Had a friend they had a contracting business They were in business with family. It wasn't really working out. They had started, some of the family had created the misalignment by creating a compatible but separate business without all of the original shareholders in it. So they were looking to sell and cash out of the original business. And I mean, it was only a $15 million deal or something like that. But it was negotiated over a very long protracted period of time. and there was only 30 or 40 percent of the money down and the rest of it was on an earn out. And the day after closing, the acquiring company filed a massive lawsuit challenging all the reps and warranties on the deal. And it devastated this guy. And they spent all they spent more than half the money that they had gotten up front in legal bills over the next two or three years, trying to work it out. And ultimately they didn't get. Kevin Short (31:07.722) Well, well. Jeff Dudan (31:21.568) I don't think they ever got anything more out of it. So that's the worst story I've ever heard. And come to find out after the fact that as they investigated it, they were able to find people. This was a pattern of behavior from this buyer. But they tie everybody up with gag orders. So you can't find anything about it online or whatever. So. Kevin Short (31:42.954) That's sad, that's sad because the entrepreneurs worked their whole life to build these companies. Jeff Dudan (31:48.268) Yeah, and I mean, possession is 9 tenths of the law. So if you would have got all your money up front and maybe a million dollars in escrow, then okay, they can argue over that million, but you got the majority of your money and you walked away with it, and then now they've got to come get it. So that was. Kevin Short (31:50.582) Yeah. Yep. Deal Killers at the 10-Yard Line: Surprises, Employees, and FBI Agents Kevin Short (32:05.258) Yeah, to your point, you don't want to be chief with your attorney. You want the best M&A attorney you can find. And to your point, the referent warranty insurance has decreased the escrows from 10% to 5%, and that often the amount of cash in escrows are around 1% because you have referent warranty insurance. So the buyer is protected. It's good. It's money well spent. Jeff Dudan (32:10.893) Yeah. Jeff Dudan (32:26.732) Yeah. Yeah, not cheap, but again, on the terms, you put it in the stipulations that the buyer has to pay it. Kevin Short (32:36.886) Yep, yep, exactly right. Jeff Dudan (32:38.976) Yeah, and then they're not arguing with you. It's probably easier too. They just make a claim. They get their money. You're not litigating over it, that kind of stuff. Kevin Short (32:46.59) Yeah, in the insurance companies, you'd be in the middle. So they know they don't have a rookie defending the claim. They've got a sophisticated insurance company defending the claim. Jeff Dudan (32:59.256) So you're in a deal and you're driving down, you're on the 10 yard line, you're going in. At that point, what are some of the more common things that kill a deal? Kevin Short (33:13.206) I would say things that pop out of due diligence that the seller didn't tell anybody, including us. That's a biggie. Sellers believe they're going to get away with it and they don't. We are very aggressive about keeping it quiet because the other thing that happens on the 10-yard line is key employees get wind of it and they either come in and try to hold the seller hostage. I understand you're going to get rich next week at a closing. Jeff Dudan (33:20.969) Oh. Jeff Dudan (33:35.919) Yeah. Kevin Short (33:42.57) I want $10 million or I'm walking out the door today. I've had that happen. We use stay bonuses a lot to make sure the key employees stay during the process. But I would say surprises and due diligence are the number one thing we worry about at the 10 yard line. Jeff Dudan (33:45.614) Right. Jeff Dudan (33:53.583) Yeah. Jeff Dudan (34:02.756) So it could be a payable or a liability that they conveniently forgot to tell you about. It could be a legal thing, a claim that was in their past or something like that. Diligence is pretty thorough nowadays, especially in our industry. There's been so many deals inside of franchising that there's specialty firms. If you just hire the right three or four specialty firms, they're gonna go through all the franchise agreements. They're gonna call every franchisee. They're gonna talk to them. They're gonna... Kevin Short (34:14.826) Absolutely. this. Jeff Dudan (34:32.2) They're just gonna dig, right? So. Kevin Short (34:36.458) And there's the unexpected, the surprises. We had a company that was manufacturing military-grade equipment, and we were within a week of closing, and a client called me and said, bad news. Last night, the FBI hired our China sales representative. He was selling secrets to China. And that, of course, blew up the deal. You could not have predicted that in a million years. Now we got it back on track and closed it. Jeff Dudan (34:57.886) Mm. Jeff Dudan (35:02.841) No. Kevin Short (35:05.634) But it was really a curveball at that point. Jeff Dudan (35:08.94) Yeah. So Kevin, when did you write this book? And was it written for anybody in particular? I mean, obviously, it's a great tool for business owners like myself to read and to get a little familiar with the process. It's also a great marketing tool for you, because you are definitely an authority inside of this space. You know, when? did you decide to write this book and what was the catalyst that triggered you to do it? Kevin Short (35:42.11) Yeah, going even further back than I said earlier, I had written it with a ghostwriter and we wrote it over a year and it was terrible. I just couldn't get onto paper what I was trying to say. It's hard to explain why somebody would pay twice the average price, the average multiple. So I finally found an editor. Jeff Dudan (36:06.189) Yeah, right. Kevin Short (36:10.494) And she and I would talk every Monday morning for two hours. And then she'd spend a week putting it on paper. And then we would review the next Monday. And this went on for five years. And it, oh yeah, it's, we, because we were, it was such an abstract concept. And our publisher, Amicomp out of New York, they did a worldwide search trying to find who had written a book about this subject. And surprisingly, nobody had. Jeff Dudan (36:21.68) Oh my goodness. Kevin Short (36:39.626) So it wasn't even a guide to use. How do you talk about this kind of pricing? So that, it was written for owners. Those were my clients, but it's become a textbook. It's used a lot in seminars all over the country. And advisors buy it quite a bit. We're about to go to our fourth printing because advisors are buying them up to give to their clients. They want their clients to sell so they can manage their money. So all those markets we didn't really expect. We sold about 25,000 copies. People bought it in Barnes and Noble in Vancouver to get on a plane in two days and come down and visit me. Crazy, crazy stories. But that was the whole goal. We didn't know where it was going to go. We just felt like if people were to read it, that they would get it. And they do. Jeff Dudan (37:38.816) I've recommended it to so many people and have borrowed from the insights as I coach people on how they need to think about what it looks like at the end. More just trying to slow people down and just say, look, hey, I got a call. I'm an owner in a men's clothing business. And it's... Kevin Short (38:05.827) Whoops, whoops. Jeff Dudan (38:07.712) It's no, it's good. It's a franchise. It's, you know, trunk shows and all kind of that. It's a really Kevin Short (38:09.408) Was it? Okay, good. Kevin Short (38:17.214) They stayed current. Good. Jeff Dudan (38:19.064) Yeah, it's a really, really cool business. Great product, good service, still kind of at startup phase, but a lot of people are jumping on board with it. And lo and behold, we put a suit on an athlete that wins a national award, and that commercial comes out, and now all of a sudden, there's a multi-billionaire reaching out saying, I want to invest in the business. And... Kevin Short (38:47.388) Smart. Jeff Dudan (38:48.436) And he's, but he's engaging one-on-one with the founder. And I'm just like, hey, this is a sophisticated group of people that you're dealing with, an entire team of finance people. I said, you know, if you're serious about taking on this, and I mean, they were, you know, there'll be an investment, right, if the deal goes through, but I mean, don't think for a minute that there's not gonna be claws for people to claw up. you know, above 51% or, you know, whatever the game of it is, or you're going to have to hit markers on it. So I kind of use the, you know, I use your book to say, look, you know, read this, look at this, look at these chapters. And you know, when you need to be, you need to be very thoughtful about, you know, trying to thinking that you can negotiate with somebody that's made billions and billions of dollars buying and selling companies. Kevin Short (39:46.522) That's a good thing. So sellers, you know, these entrepreneurs that we all know and love, they've made their living by their wits, right? They're very good at selling, they're very good at reading people. They think it applies to this process. It does not. Selling, you know, I-beams for skyscrapers does not equate to selling a business to Blackstone. So you have to accept that you're overmatched in bringing professional help. Kevin Short (40:42.946) Yeah, I didn't get it. Mine says we're still recording. Okay, we can do that. Okay. No, no, of course not. Kevin Short (40:55.171) Okay. Kevin Short (41:53.517) I can. Can you hear me? Kevin Short (42:00.616) Hello, hello. Kevin Short (42:42.779) How's that? Kevin Short (42:46.81) Can you hear me now? Kevin Short (42:51.174) Hello, hello. Jeff Dudan (42:51.386) Yeah, it's so crazy. I didn't even have to hit the record button, but I can't hear him. So see if you can hear him on your... I know you can hear me because he just refreshed. Jeff Dudan (43:04.984) It's so strange. It just started recording itself. Jeff Dudan (43:11.076) Kevin, do I got you? OK, yes, sir, thank you. There, I don't know. That hasn't happened for a while. We used to have that, where it would stop. But we're recording, and we're going, and Jim, we'll edit this right together. What was my question? Where were we? Where do we leave off here? We were talking about. Kevin Short (43:11.13) Hello? Yep, can you hear me? Kevin Short (43:33.498) the value of the advisors, not doing this on your own, no matter how good of a salesman you think you are. Jeff Dudan (43:35.668) Yeah. Not doing it on your own. Yeah, yeah. And we were talking about your book. OK, how it was used and all of that. Awesome. All right. Jeff Dudan (43:51.372) Kevin, what's the most creative deal name that you ever assigned to one of your deals? Kevin Short (43:57.054) We don't do that. That's funny you say that. We just put numbers on them. Yeah, yeah. Jeff Dudan (44:00.772) Oh really? So when you call somebody it's not project seaside or project airplane or jet. Kevin Short (44:06.202) No, no, we just did do, you know, we did do one recently for the first time. The client wanted to use a name instead of a number, but we use numbers so we can keep track of all of them more easily. Jeff Dudan (44:17.96) Well, sure, it's yeah, that makes sense. Yeah, all right, well, so much for that theory. I have that theory. Kevin Short (44:20.502) over time. That's funny. Kevin Short (44:27.653) Right. Jeff Dudan (44:33.664) So one of the things that you do, how much are you working doing investment banking? And then I also would love to talk a little bit about your radio show. Kevin Short (44:43.474) The radio show, this one, so we did a podcast for a couple years. Did two, two years of podcasts, about a hundred episodes. And then KMOX came to me and said, what do you think about being involved in the show? So I joined them as a sponsor first. And I sat in the studio doing recording and watched, and then just became an on air host, co-host. with a legitimate Radial personality in the stainless market and so I'm there asking questions. So that's that is all You know, we're going I say bigger time this year with the show but we've been doing this for probably four or five years and lots of Video and podcast over the years a lot of speeches So we learned how to market probably 15 years ago and learned that there was never enough marketing. There's cheesy marketing, so we avoided that. But if you're putting out a good product and you're building good lists, there's never enough because you never know when that next lead's gonna come from. And the marketing is what's fueled our business. In the book, the book really was, put us on the map. Jeff Dudan (46:11.092) Yeah, 100%. The show is The Business of Family Business. It airs on KMOX, which is 1120am throughout the Midwest. It's a pretty strong signal. And based right there in St. Louis, what day and time are you on? Kevin Short (46:25.894) Saturdays at 2 o'clock. Jeff Dudan (46:28.008) Okay, is it an hour? Man, how fun is that? And you've got the same co-host every time? Kevin Short (46:29.614) It's an hour. Yes. Oh, it is. Yep. And I get to meet crazy people. I love business owners. I always have. And I really have a lot of respect for them. Jeff Dudan (46:46.916) Is it like a Dave Ramsey thing where you're just constantly taking calls? Kevin Short (46:51.202) No, we don't take calls at all. We actually record ahead of time. We've talked about that. Can we get enough listeners that we could do a live show? As of right now, we don't do that. Jeff Dudan (46:54.621) Okay. Jeff Dudan (47:04.96) I started doing a navigating entrepreneurship webinar once a month, six in the evening, Eastern time. It comes out of our Facebook group and navigating entrepreneurship on our Facebook group. We got a lot of, it started small and now we've got more people showing up. It's the closest thing that I could do right now to a radio show where you've got interaction with an audience and people popping questions in there and things like that. I find it to be a lot of fun. It lights me up. It's, I mean, we had everything from, we had a guy who's an international board director and was the CEO of a huge company that sold for maybe $500 million and he pops in there, right? And then I got another guy that's a yoga instructor. And. Kevin Short (47:53.019) Right. I've had the same experience. But you have to love entrepreneurs because they're not perfect. You're not perfect, but they are very talented at what they do. Jeff Dudan (47:58.593) Yeah. Jeff Dudan (48:02.412) Well, what's interesting is they're engaging with one another and respecting one another and solving, you know, everybody has similar problems regardless of the scale of the business. So it was really, really interesting to see who shows up on that. But then I would love to do a live radio show or even record it or something like that. Kevin Short (48:21.262) Oh, it's interesting. It's, it's, it's fun. People over town here on their car radios and call me and say, I heard it. Uh, but you know, these entrepreneurs, as you and I have figured out, they all have a very different form of genius. And that's what's put them on the map. It made all their money. Jeff Dudan (48:36.435) Mm-hmm. Jeff Dudan (48:40.212) Yeah, yeah, it's interesting. And you spent a lot of time, it looks like, with charities in and around children. Kevin Short (48:47.618) I do educating children. In St. Louis, we have a race issue. And my solution to it, going back 30 years, was to try to develop schools that would lift these kids up out of poverty. And so I teamed up with the local archdiocese, and because they had the schools and the teachers and they had empty desks, and so we found donors, the big corporate donors in town, to provide the... tuition. So we launched that formerly 15 years ago and raised about $200 million over that 15 years and educated about 5,000 kids a year, which in St. Louis was a lot of the kids in poverty. And it was a grand slam. And those kids went on to college. And so we tracked all of them. And there's a national program for this called the Children's Scholarship Fund out of New York. that I'm on the board of and have been for a long time. And so I learned a lot from these programs around the country. But we were very, very lucky to have the board members, the staff and the donors, they were willing to support the cause. It was unbelievable. And to me, it was, since I've been in business for myself for a very long time, I don't have all that corporate training that the IBM guys do or the Goldman Sachs guys. I learned my training in the not-for-profit world. Jeff Dudan (50:12.341) Yeah. Jeff Dudan (50:17.3) Yeah, the same here. I've, it's been a long, long time since I worked for somebody. And all of my professional development I've had to pay for and learn through, you know, not failures, but, you know, I'm learning, but 100%. And, you know, we're passionate about Kevin Short (50:22.735) Right. Kevin Short (50:33.397) A chapter, they were chapters. Jeff Dudan (50:39.432) similar things. So we've partnered with Ben and Candy Carson and the Carson Scholars Foundation and Homefront Brands is building reading rooms across the country in schools in partnership with them and also participating in their Carson Scholars program where they give thousand dollar scholarships out and you can the kids can win them year after year after year. The money's put into an interest bearing account and then whenever they go off to school the kids get the money to use towards their education, tuition, books, or whatever it is. But as importantly as that is the events that they have where these kids who may not have had the opportunity to ever participate in something like that, they get to come to a banquet, they get an award, they get to be around other people, I mean, internship opportunities and all that kind of stuff. You know, and we like to say, there's the manufacturing analogy that says the earlier in a process that you can... repair a defect the cheaper it is to the overall production process. And it's kind of the same thing with children, the more that we can pour into them early. And we actually have a collaboration now that I think of it that was brought to me last week where they're looking for us at Homefront brands to build content that's targeted towards teens that are entrepreneurial, but is going to be safe for the kids. parents can comfortably go and say, you can send your kids here and there's gonna be guests and there's gonna be content for them that they can learn about business or about leadership or these types of things. And you don't have to worry that it's, people are gonna be swearing on it or there's gonna be other stuff that maybe they might not want their kids to be, they already consume enough of other places. So yeah, so I'm excited about that collaboration. Kevin Short (52:28.568) Right, right. Congratulations, that's a lot of hard work. Jeff Dudan (52:33.928) Yeah, yeah, it'll be good. But you know, we're kind of over that target already. I mean, it's not that big of a diversion for us to create that little channel of content there. And we've got great guests like you and other people that are coming on. So we're very excited about that. And we'll pursue that. Kevin Short (52:54.542) It's amazing what people will do. It's amazing what people will do to help others. You just got to show them the path. Jeff Dudan (52:58.612) Oh, that's what it's all about. It really is. All right. Well, this has been amazing, Kevin. I really, really appreciate you jumping on with us today. And again, I want to thank you because what I was able. I mean, I just on a whim, I said, I need a book that's going to teach me how I need to think about selling my business. This name popped up. Outrageous Price is attractive to anybody who's looking to sell. And so I just clicked. buy on Amazon and it really helped inform my thinking in a time when I needed it the most. So I appreciate that. Yeah, 100%. How can people get in touch with you today if you choose for them to or where would you point them to consume more of your content? Kevin Short (53:31.203) That's exciting. I'm glad it worked. Kevin Short (53:46.287) Yep, Clay You can reach me by phone, by email, and there's a lot of content that we keep up to date. There's other websites. So the outrageous word promoted a lot of marketing. So there's ThinkOutrageous.com. So we've had a good time with all that. So, but Clay dot com is the easiest and fastest way to reach me. Jeff Dudan (54:19.113) outs and spelled just like it sounds, C-L-A-Y-T-O-N, capitalpartners.com. And last question, if you had one sentence to make an impact in someone else's life, what's your go-to? Kevin Short (54:36.686) Don't give up. It's not about the fanciest degree or the fanciest anything. It's about understand yourself, spend time figuring that out, and then don't give up because it will happen. But many people give up on the 90th yard line and if they'd just gone a little bit further, they would have won. So don't give up. That would be my life story is just by persevering. Jeff Dudan (55:07.328) Words to live by with Kevin Short. I'm Jeff Duden and you have been on the home front. Thanks for listening. Thanks, Kevin. Kevin Short (55:17.179) Thanks, Jeff. That was excellent. Good job. All right. Thank you. Jeff Dudan (55:18.752) Yeah, man. Cheers. Hang on.
Brief Summary In this episode of On the Homefront, Jeff Dudan sits down with Stephanie Postles, founder and CEO of the Mission, a modern media company producing high-impact podcasts for Fortune 500 brands. From humble beginnings on the Eastern Shore of Maryland to working at Google and building a podcast empire, Stephanie shares her journey, insights on sustainable media, the future of storytelling, and her bold plans to transform kids' content, comedy, and more. It’s a masterclass in entrepreneurial grit, creativity, and purpose-driven media. Key Takeaways Early Hustle Creates Future Leaders : Stephanie’s childhood side hustles and DIY education in investing helped shape her unconventional career path. Google Recruited Her for Her Side Projects, Not Her Résumé : Her entrepreneurial experiments caught Google’s attention more than her finance career ever did. Media Must Be Owned, Not Rented : After Medium shut down her monetization, Stephanie committed to never building on borrowed platforms again. Podcasts Built for Brands, Not by Them : The Mission creates and owns its own shows while securing aligned sponsors—ensuring creative control and brand integrity. Internal Talent Is Strategic : Most hosts at Mission are employees, not influencers, allowing the company to maintain control, consistency, and culture. Kids Content Is Next : Stephanie is passionate about building value-based storytelling platforms for kids that go beyond screens and junk content. Featured Quote “You are 100% responsible, 100% of the time. Everything around you is being created by your thoughts, your actions, and the energy you’re putting into them.” TRANSCRIPT From Raking Yards to Rolling Silverware: Stephanie’s Scrappy Childhood Stephanie Postles (00:00.109) locally so it doesn't normally matter if it misses a few beats. Jeff Dudan (00:02.414) now. Welcome everybody. This is Jeff Duden. We are on the home front today with Stephanie Postles. Welcome Stephanie. Stephanie Postles (00:12.397) Thank you. Thanks for having me. Jeff Dudan (00:14.542) Yeah, very excited that you're here today. I had the opportunity to meet you over the last couple of months and learned about your podcasts and your interesting take on the podcast industry and how you've built a really powerful business off a really interesting business model. Before we get into all that, would you care to take us back a little bit and tell us who is Stephanie Postles? Stephanie Postles (00:42.189) Yeah, who am I? It's such a good question. So maybe I'll go, yeah. I mean, I'm like, wow, where do I even start? When I was four, who am I? Yeah, I'm like, that's still a question I'm constantly figuring out. Who am I today versus yesterday? But if I maybe go back to younger days, earlier days, you know, back in Maryland is where I grew up, Eastern shore of Maryland. And I grew up in a very scrappy household where, Jeff Dudan (00:45.71) Is it? Is it really? It's the one we have. Yeah. Stephanie Postles (01:10.957) It was known that you go and you do what it takes to get what you need, to get what you wanted. And so from very early on, like age seven, I just remember raking neighbors yards, doing really random things for people, putting some little stickers on the mailboxes for our neighborhood. I mean, anything that myself and I have a twin sister and brother could do. We were out there hustling, hustling all of our older neighbors to just give us a dollar to rake their yard for like two hours. And so that was kind of the early days of just. doing what it took, learning a lot. Got into the restaurant industry at 14, rolling silverware for about eight hours a day during the summers, just all day, outback steakhouse rolling silverware. And that was at 14, definitely highly illegal. Now when I look back, I'm like, pretty sure I know why I was getting paid cash now. And when I say sign no paperwork to get into that place and red lobster too, I was like, just in the back, just rolling silverware for so long. Jeff Dudan (01:51.854) at 14. Jeff Dudan (01:59.182) Yeah. Jeff Dudan (02:06.542) Nice. Stephanie Postles (02:07.437) But that was kind of the moment when I realized I don't like hourly pay. This doesn't work for me. I'm like working so long, so many hours, and it doesn't feel like I have a way to compound this quick enough to get where I want to go. And I knew what I wanted. I knew I wanted to get off the Eastern shore of Maryland. I wanted to expand my horizons. I just didn't see a way out really. I mean, my family was not wealthy growing up. Um, but what I did have was a really smart dad who was brilliant when it came to finances. lost a shit ton of money in the stock market though. So I also watched that too, where I'm like, he's really smart and whoa, over -hedged and lost everything. And it took, I mean, fast forward to today, I still don't know if he ever really climbed out of what had happened back then, but he taught me a lot about finances and he offered to open up a custodial trading account for me when I was 14. And he showed me how to read different stocks and how to think about diversifying. And for every hundred dollars I would put in, he would put in a couple of dollars too, just to kind of incentivize me to like put some money in your E -Trade account and just play around. And that was when I started seeing that there was a way out in different ways. Maybe it was going to be investing. Maybe it was going to be starting my own company. I didn't know what it was going to do, but it just couldn't be an hourly thing. So that was my aha moment. Stayed in the restaurant industry for a while because then I realized bartending could make you outsized returns for your investment of hours. So did that and yeah, I was like, this is actually pretty good now that I'm not on the hourly wage system. You know, I can use this personality for something and get paid. And then it got to 21. I had a finance degree at that point. I got out of college in three and a half years. Um, and I got an investment finance degree just because I was like, I don't want to invest other people's money, but I want to know how to do it myself. Um, and that was when I realized, I don't know if degrees really matter that much because I actually learned more just investing my own money. Jeff Dudan (03:30.638) That's right. Stephanie Postles (03:57.869) in my custodial E -Trade account than I did going through and learning the technicalities of, you know, how to do math by hand, which I'm like, this is dumb. I don't know how to do this and I don't really want to, but got out of school, um, got recruited by Fannie Mae, got to get into the whole mortgage space after all of that had crashed. So it was a really interesting boot camp to jump in, learn what the housing crisis was about, see how many people were underwater and then rotated through different finance and economics groups, um, for about two years. Jeff Dudan (04:26.83) So was that maybe 2009 you were in that? 2011, okay. So we were clawing our way out of it. Yeah. Stephanie Postles (04:29.261) That was 2011. Yeah, but it was still. Yeah. Yeah. I mean, the numbers were still, at least when I went in there, I was like, Whoa, I didn't even know this was still a thing. And it definitely was. There was just so, I mean, there was so much data to look at. And that was when I started realizing, like, if you have access to data like this, you really can create a lot. You can create a lot of, I mean, we were writing housing reports. I was so new and young, but because I had this power of data all around me and I was learning how to use SQL code to pull it, I felt super like powerful on top of the world. I can do anything if I have a lot of data and I can. Jeff Dudan (04:43.086) Yeah. Stephanie Postles (05:03.693) tell people a story around this data because most people don't know, you know, maybe how much in fees they're paying just to see if they actually own their land or how, you know, what should your debt to income ratio be? And what did it look like back in 2007? So super interesting. But then I started looking around one day and this was what I thought I always wanted. Every day I manifested where I got. Every day I would wake up in Maryland, in my parents' home and I'm like, one day I will be in Washington, DC and I will be in a white walled building with people in suits and it's gonna be so impressive and I'm gonna be so fancy. And then I remember looking up one day and I'm like, oh shit, I just got myself into this. I thought my way into this scenario and I put myself exactly where I imagined every single day without realizing it until a couple of years in where I'm like, I really don't like this. I don't like corporate. I don't like corporate finance. I don't like economics. Jeff Dudan (05:56.11) Yeah. Stephanie Postles (05:59.469) And I don't like, like being so far detached from the consumer where it's like, you don't even know who you're serving really. And so that was my first moment realizing one, the power of your mind. And I got myself into this now I need to figure it out. Um, and thankfully the universe came in and provided and Google reached out and recruited me. And that was where it kind of like many, many things changed. Um, but. Jeff Dudan (06:23.918) Were you a big reader growing up? I mean, I would think you would have to be. Stephanie Postles (06:27.213) Yeah. Yeah. I definitely read a lot of books, a lot of business books. Um, so the one part I kind of left off was that from about maybe senior year of high school, all the way up through Fannie Mae, I was always tinkering on things. And I was always thinking, how do I build a company? How do I build a product? How do I drop ship? I was looking into things that probably most 14 year old girls were not looking into. And I knew that because I had my twin sister reading the exact opposite from me. I would look over and she'd be reading these really sad, like teen drama girls dying from cancer, cancer when they're 15. And I'm like, Oh my God. I'm like, we're so opposite and we're twins. And I'm over here reading, you know, how to create a brand that lasts a lifetime or something. So definitely read a lot. My parent, my mom took us to the library quite often. We could get, you know, any books we wanted. And yeah, so I was always tinkering. Jeff Dudan (06:54.126) Right. Jeff Dudan (07:12.174) Yeah. Jeff Dudan (07:21.07) Who was the entrepreneur that you saw? Because generally, so an early entrepreneurial experience is almost always an indicator of future entrepreneurial success. People that are thinking that way and always trying to maximize their time and scrap for a buck. When you find successful people, you go back and that's what you find. But generally, they were exposed to somebody. Was your dad an entrepreneur? Was it somebody else that you knew? Stephanie Postles (07:49.805) No. Jeff Dudan (07:50.67) that you knew or the other side of it is you just needed money. Like that was mine. Like I needed money. Stephanie Postles (07:56.205) I think I just, yeah, I needed money because my parents couldn't pay for us. My mom was a teacher. And then we had a family of five and my dad didn't have a job a lot of my life. I mean, he was a stay at home dad for a while after the stock market stuff and then in and out of jobs, but really he didn't have one until today. Still he's at home. So I think I just saw to me like a scarcity mindset. Jeff Dudan (08:00.43) Okay. Jeff Dudan (08:13.454) Okay. Stephanie Postles (08:24.621) And then what it looks like to be confined in a salary and how I would see people around me wanting this, these big visions of like, I want this, I'm going to have a boat. I want like a condo in Ocean City. I mean, big visions, but even me when I was younger being like, well, if you don't change something drastically in your life and make some humongous decision that's outside of the path you're on, there is no way you're going to get there. Like there is no amount of interest that you're going to save or even a certain percent on the stock market that will get you there most likely. And so. That's, I think it was more of the need of like, okay, I can't do that. And it was just seeing what I didn't want. And I didn't have anyone around me. My grandfather was in finance. My grandmother was a teacher. The rest of my family's in Germany and other places. And I think it was more just the need for, I want to be able to make money. Jeff Dudan (09:11.694) I remember, and I don't know where it came from, but having a real fear of being trapped. And so taking, when I looked at, when I graduated college, I didn't take one job interview because I thought about it and I'm like, oh, I remember here's Ernie and Julio Gallo. They were recruiting on campus. They wanted to interview me and you know, it's like, well, you know, in the job and I read the job description, I'm like, well, you can be a wine distributor so I can go around to. Stephanie Postles (09:17.805) Yeah, yeah. Stephanie Postles (09:26.381) Mm -hmm. Stephanie Postles (09:34.413) Mm -hmm. Jeff Dudan (09:41.614) do whatever they do with their wine to put it in the stores and whatever. And I'm just like, yeah, but if I do that, then I'm trapped. And I'm trapped inside of that. So I think I've spent early in my career, in my first life, it was the avoidance of being trapped. And how that's manifested with me is I react negatively to leverage. I don't like, now I be very careful to put myself in situations where I lose my leverage. Stephanie Postles (09:48.045) Mm. Stephanie Postles (10:03.981) Yeah. Jeff Dudan (10:11.566) And sometimes when I've gotten situations where I've lost leverage, that's where I've lost money. So I don't know. But yeah, we're unemployable, Stephanie, is actually what we are. Yeah. Stephanie Postles (10:11.597) Mm -hmm. Stephanie Postles (10:15.725) Mm -hmm. Stephanie Postles (10:23.245) I know. Yeah. I think I felt trapped too, but in a different way, I was trapped to the Eastern shore of Maryland where I was like, just looking around and no one ever left and no one in my family ever left. Everyone just stayed there. And I saw how a mindset can get trapped in a location of just how easy it is to not know what you don't know. And so just be like, okay, I have a finance degree. I'm going to go and work at a bank. That's the Jeff Dudan (10:31.95) Okay. Stephanie Postles (10:49.293) or at the hospital, like that's the two best options for having a finance degree in my hometown. And just knowing that no one leaves and you stay with your family and here's my mom, like she wants us nearby and your grandkids, like it was just such a culture to stay there. And I just didn't know any different. But I had a feeling if I just got out for a little bit, I always thought if I go to DC, I'll come back. I'll come back to home and I'll just go and test it. I just want to try it. But then once I did that, then I kind of realized, oh no way, I cannot go. Jeff Dudan (11:13.326) Yeah. Stephanie Postles (11:19.213) back somewhere where it feels like any of my ideas were, yeah, squashed by anyone. I was really around because they just couldn't imagine things that I was talking about. And then when I went out to California and started working at Google, then I'm like, oh my gosh, I really didn't know what I didn't know. I mean, I, you just, the more you move around, the more you try, the more you experiment, the more you realize like how limited your mindset is and how small you're thinking until you just go and, I mean, to me, try things that are riskier, which now it sounds like you don't want to go too risky. I'm like, Jeff Dudan (11:29.454) Yeah. Stephanie Postles (11:48.845) I just want to try it all. I want to live my life and try everything. And even if it fails me in a big way, sometimes I'm pretty confident I can recover. I can get out of it eventually. Jeff Dudan (11:57.678) Yeah, yeah, for sure. So Google was recruiting and was it one of the puzzles where they put it up on a billboard and you have to, and only the smartest people can figure it out or did they tap you on the shoulder? Stephanie Postles (12:08.877) No, no. Yeah. So they tapped me on the shoulder, but they did not tap me on the shoulder for my corporate history. They, on my LinkedIn, I had listed a couple apps that I had built, an iPad magazine I had written, some books I had published. I had all these side projects of things that I had launched over the many years and they reached out and they were like, we have a couple of jobs we want to interview for. And when I got there, I realized they didn't even ask me once about Fannie Mae. They didn't even care any bit about my technicalities of finance. They were just like, we do have these jobs here, but we actually really just like all these startup projects that you've been doing. So tell us about those. And so that's when I also realized, yeah, yeah. Jeff Dudan (12:50.094) Yeah, smart creatives. Yeah, yeah. So like, I don't know how Google works, the book, I've referenced it several times, but basically built their entire company on smart creative, understanding how to identify those people and that just putting them in and giving them a lot of latitude to be great and to create. Was that your, that was your experience? Stephanie Postles (12:59.789) Mm -hmm. Stephanie Postles (13:05.517) Yep. And that's what they did. Yeah. And I'm sure I know it's not that for everyone, but when I came out, I interviewed for about five different teams and I got offers from all five, four of them, and they were finance offers, but four of them felt very much like I was going to become a part of a system. It was YouTube, it was ads, it was, you know, they're very well -known brands who were already built up. And so it felt like I was going to be going in there, just being a part of the financial system to report to Sundar. One of them though, felt complete opposite. It was a group called GEO and it was Maps, Street View, Google Earth. It was a whole mix of groups and they had never really had a finance person. They had a billion dollar P &L. And so when I was interviewing, it was very much like, well, we don't really know what you're going to do. So like, if you can come in and just like help tell us what to do, but then also we need you help over here and we need you to probably come to Japan and figure out the Street View cards there. And can you help us acquire this satellite company and - It was just all over the place. And I was like, yes, this is my style. I don't love structure. I don't like someone coming in and being like, here's your 10 things to do. And then you're done. I want chaos. I like chaos. That's where it's fun. Where I get to come in, build the systems, build the structure, and then get pulled into different things where I'm expanding my excitement into virtual reality. And then it does something very different in Google brain. So I took that offer and had the best time there. I mean, it was so much fun and so much chaos and. I saw what it looked like to really work under a really great manager. And it also made me realize how terrible my manager was at Fannie Mae back in the day where I was like, and it's good to have both. I was so grateful. I'm like, I didn't know. But then when I had a really good one who the one I was working for at Google, I mean, she would put me, I mean, there were no levels. There was no hierarchy. It was just like, here's Steph, go present this to the CEO. You want to do that with the budget? Okay. I mean, there was so much freedom to make the choices I want. And then. And I just didn't realize who I was working for in corporate finance back in the day versus how it could work if you really have a manager who stands for you and, you know, wants to promote you many, many times. Jeff Dudan (15:16.718) Yeah. Jeff Dudan (15:22.926) You know, as a couple, both of us building companies and I'm just, I'm the autonomy guy. Like I'm not a great manager, right? In terms of the blocking and the tackling. Well, part of it is definitely, I've never had a job. So, no, no, I had lots of jobs, but not like a real job. You know, like a perfect, like an adult, I've never had an adult job. Yeah, I've never worked in corporate. Stephanie Postles (15:40.845) You've never had a job? Like not even one job? Stephanie Postles (15:46.509) Yeah, yeah. Like corporate. Yeah. Yeah. Jeff Dudan (15:51.758) So I didn't, so I had to go out and get all of the training and stuff and all that methodologies, but, you know, you know, voracious reader, lots of professional training, lots of all through the years and all that stuff, just from, you know, the organizations and things like that, that you go to. But I still always come back to, if you want to have great people and you want to have A players, you've got, you can't define, the boundaries in which they're gonna run around and do it. I mean, you use your culture and your values to set the fence. So you give people a big yard in which to run around. You make sure that there's a clear mission, clear goals. Everybody knows like who, what we're really trying to accomplish, who the customer is, keep them front and center. You know, we build franchise brands and everything we do is keeping the franchisees at the center of everything that we do and every decision that we make. Because that's gonna keep you, that's going to keep you on track as to what's most important. But then, you know, as we build, we get all kinds of different managers that come from all kinds of different backgrounds and people want to put systems and constraints and these types of things in there. And, you know, really great people love to operate in a scrum or a small team to create things, to be brilliant, to test and fit, to see if it works. And, you know, if you over, if you over manage, and you over -checklist things, then that tends to be just what people do. Now, we also run a call center. So you gotta show up at this time. That's much more structured. So getting the right level of autonomy based on the team and based on the goals and the responsibilities of that area is critically important. But I've read How Google Works more than once. I highlighted it. I keep going back to it because, Stephanie Postles (17:20.973) Mm -hmm. You got to have a checklist for a call center. Yeah. Yeah. Jeff Dudan (17:45.102) That's the kind of company that I'd want to work at. That's the kind of company that I'd want to build. And, you know, I believe one day they'll be very successful. Stephanie Postles (17:53.517) Yeah. Yeah. I mean, I'm, I hope so. I mean, I don't know with all this stuff coming out right now. I'm like, Ooh, looking a little bad, looking a little scary with how fast the market's developing. So to be a big company right now, I hope they figure it out because they were really fun. And I mean, the smartest people in the world that I was working next to every day where I'm like, this is such a treat. Yeah. Jeff Dudan (17:56.686) I'm not there. Jeff Dudan (18:03.534) They'll figure it out. They'll figure it out. Yeah. Jeff Dudan (18:11.502) 100%, 100%. Awesome, so how long were you there and how did that run its course for you? Stephanie Postles (18:20.557) Yeah, I was there for four years or so. Um, and after about two years, I started getting a little bored because I had a process built. I was like, okay, this is how we run the finances for this group is how y 'all get the budgets. It's how we do experimental projects. And so then my manager was like, well, let's put you over here. Let's try and promote you into this group. And so we tried and we tried to move me around in different ways. Um, but in the meantime, I started mission. Jeff Dudan (18:24.59) Okay. Stephanie Postles (18:50.445) Mission started though, as a very small side project on a platform called Medium. And I started it with my ex -husband, now ex -husband, but back then it was just a blogging platform where we were just submitting our stories to our, you know, our Medium publication. And we were trying to pull other people into the writing of it as well. And so we were reaching out to all these writers like, Hey, would you want to come and submit your story here? We saw a really great story you posted here. Can we put it on our publication? And so it was really just this very scrappy act of we wanted to tell the stories we wanted to tell. I wanted to tell the stories of these executives that I was sitting next to at Google and some of the trends that were happening in Silicon Valley. And then also just stories that I thought were really interesting that needed to be told. And we wanted to promote other people's work that we liked as well. So that's how that started. It was super slow on the side. A lot of working on the morning, working on it throughout the day, the evening, trying to just pull people into the vision of like, you should write for us for free. And give us your content and we'll put in our publication that one day we'll have a lot of views. It doesn't right now, but I think it will one day. So that was how it started. Um, and then over time it actually did grow and it became the top publication on medium. It had millions of people viewing our publication every month. We had hundreds and hundreds of some of the best writers who were. Actively pursuing us because they knew if they put their article in our publication, they were going to, going to get a lot of views on it. And so it started just taking up a lot of time and we thought. We should monetize this because right now I have no incentives to be working with all these writers who are texting me all day and begging me to approve their content and edit it and asking me about metrics and why they are something. I mean, it's just so much time. And so we thought we should get a sponsor for this publication because there's so many millions of people coming and reading our content. Why not? I think that's how this works in this world. If you have a big audience, you should get a sponsor. And so we struck up a couple of very, very small ad deals, just banner ads. And we put these banners on the publication and very soon after the medium team who was on their own, trying to create their own publications and they were competing with us and they were trying to get our writers to go to them. And they were trying to write similar content. So it was kind of already was feeling a little bit weird where I was like, don't you want this? Like, don't you want us to have people coming here? And now you have these competing publications that of course you're going to win. This is your platform. You know, the rules, you can change the rules whenever you want, but. Jeff Dudan (21:14.574) Right. Stephanie Postles (21:16.749) We kept building, we put these banner ads on and then soon after about two weeks later, Medium was like, you can't do that. You guys are not allowed to run any ads on your, any of your stories and we're building an ad platform and you have to run through us. And that's the only way it can work. At that point, we didn't have any of our readers contact information, emails. I mean, we really didn't even know who we were really talking to. We just knew it was a lot of people. And that was kind of the aha moment of we don't want to build anything on someone else's platform. Like we don't want to be. I mean, they can just change the rules anytime they want and it's their platform. And then you're shit out of luck. And you're like, okay, I just kind of built a business on someone else's platform. And now, you know, I can't do anything with any of this. And so that was back in 2017 and podcasting was still pretty new back then. Um, but we saw the potential and one of the stories that we had written on this media and publication was called the story. And it was telling the unknown backstory of people who changed the world. And we would keep their identity hidden until the climax. So very hero's journey, but we did it for a reason because we saw that a lot of people in the Bay area were very pessimistic towards people who were literally changing the world. They were like, Oh F Elon Musk. Oh, that person's stupid. And like, we're like, man, I feel like this person did a lot before what you see now. So maybe if we just tell you the story in a human centric way, without telling you who they are, you'll have a little more respect towards what these people are doing. And so. Jeff Dudan (22:18.702) Oh, yeah. Jeff Dudan (22:35.438) Yeah. Jeff Dudan (22:42.926) Yeah, some objectivity there, right? You know, like, okay, I'm judging it on the merits of the fact pattern that I'm reading. And when you get to the end of it, and I'll tell you what, Mike Rose podcast, he had little bits on there, like the 15 minute things, but like he had a podcast and he would do the exact same thing. And at the end, it was always some like hook about, and that's, you know, that's how Pringles were made or something, you know. Stephanie Postles (22:44.717) Mm -hmm. Mm -hmm. Stephanie Postles (22:49.421) Yeah. Stephanie Postles (22:54.253) Yeah, yeah, dirty jobs. Okay. Stephanie Postles (23:08.749) Yep. Yep. Jeff Dudan (23:09.486) And it was all but like it was you never knew where it was going in the story and you couldn't click away because you had to hear the end now that you were invested in it. So what a brilliant strategy. Stephanie Postles (23:15.629) Mm -hmm. Yep. Yeah. So this format's definitely not new. I mean, I think there was a radio show in this exact format a long time ago that did really well as well. Um, but yeah, this one, it was just super fun. And we got to tell so many stories and looking to so many people's backgrounds that, you know, a lot of them, I just didn't know about and didn't know all the stuff they had done to get where they were. And so that medium pub or that story really took off. Um, the whole, all of them did. And that was when we saw like, man, this could do really well if it had audio, if it had. something to really pull you into the story. And so we took this format and essentially pitched it to Salesforce because they were already in our network. We already had someone connected there and we just pitched it to them and said, Hey, do you want to sponsor this show? And so that's how the company mission really turned into a media company was because of realizing like we have a great story here. It's already doing well in written format and we think we can turn this into a podcast as well. And so. Jeff Dudan (24:16.814) Yeah, so it's podcasting in reverse. It's, yeah, finding a sponsor who would be the perfect fit for the show that you want to produce and then building the show for the sponsor. Stephanie Postles (24:19.789) Yeah, for that one it was. Yep. Stephanie Postles (24:31.885) Yeah, we don't build it for the sponsor though. So they can always sponsor our stuff, but it's not theirs, which is very intentional. But yeah, for almost all of our shows since, and now fast forward to today, we've built 33 different podcasts. And we call them shows because they're also all in video like this. They've got video clips and all that. But fast forward to today, we do, before we ever build a show, we also already have a sponsor probably lined up for it. But Mission, it's still a Mission -owned show. We're hosting it. Jeff Dudan (24:35.758) Okay. Stephanie Postles (25:01.389) We're growing it, producing it, distributing it. And then we've got these big sponsors like Salesforce or New York stock exchange. They're sponsoring these shows because it's aligned with what they want to do. So it is a bit different of a model. Um, and like I said, it was very intentional because I saw what media was turning into on medium and has always been that way of just race to the bottom, you know, get as many views, as many clicks as you can fear -based. And I just didn't want to operate in that model. So I thought, how can we. Like, how can this be sustainable? How can we do this long -term? How can we actually partner in a way that isn't just more, more, more, but quality, reach the right audiences, get the right guests on, have good content, and just create a sustainable company instead of one that probably will be competing with the gimlets and the wonderies who are all just trying to get more eyeballs on them on everything. Jeff Dudan (25:53.07) What is your strategy around talent? Stephanie Postles (25:57.165) Yeah, you mean like the hosts of the show, the shows? Yeah, so it's an interesting question. Well, look, you're already one, you're already a famous host. Oh man, I knew there was an ulterior motive. Always, yep, at the end. So most of our hosts are mission employees. I do this because I'm unsure and I never wanna say, Jeff Dudan (25:59.47) Yes. And how can I be one? How can I be one? Now this is just an audition for you. Jeff Dudan (26:11.374) Yeah, there always is. There's always an ask. Stephanie Postles (26:25.453) never and I, my, most of my strong opinions are very weakly held and so they can always change if I get better information, but I'm not sure if I want to deal with talent, really someone who, you know, there's so many creators out there, amazing ones, but they want what they want and they're the star of the show. And that's great. If you're already getting millions of views and you've got your audience, like, Keep doing it and then get the brands who want to reach the consumers, get the B2C brands who are selling the socks and the meandis like perfect. But if that's not you already and you don't have that, and then you want to be, you know, a host for instance, I just think it can get tricky around making sure that mission, my company's happy, the host is happy, and then the sponsor's happy. And there's so many people to keep happy. And I find that if someone is like, I'm the talent. It can turn into a bidding war. It can turn into, okay, well, even though mission, this is your show. Now I've got this captive audience and it's, you know, this is my thing. And I mean, you've seen many podcasts hosts run up the price of like continuing a podcast. And so that was also just a game that I didn't really want to play. And I do hire hosts, um, outside of, uh, my employees sometimes if I create a show and we have a sponsor and I'm looking around and I'm like, man, I really don't have someone on our team who. Jeff Dudan (27:18.67) Yeah. Jeff Dudan (27:32.526) Yeah. Stephanie Postles (27:45.005) is the subject matter expert about that. And so, for example, Experts of Experience is a show that we have and it's around customer success, customer experience. And I was looking around, I'm like, I don't know anyone on my team who can really speak well to that, which most other topics, I'll say you can. I've hosted a commerce show, I've hosted a marketing show, most other things you can learn pretty quickly just by interviewing 20 people. And all of a sudden you're like, okay, like for e -commerce, I'm like, I can talk to you about supply chain and logistics and all the things now just from. researching, getting on some newsletters and then interviewing. But some things I think you might want to be a bit more of an expert in, especially for bringing on the Fortune 500 to get onto a show as guests. Like that's who you're gonna be talking to. And so for that show, I was like, we need to find a different host outside of the mission team. And so we found an amazing one who was recommended to me, which I also think is very helpful when your friends are sending people to you, because they're like, you know who Steph likes, we know what she's looking for. Jeff Dudan (28:24.558) Okay. Stephanie Postles (28:40.045) Um, and finding someone who this could really benefit them. So it's a win -win. It's not someone who is desiring to be the talent and the influencer or anything like that. It's someone who, you know, they are in customer success, customer experience. They maybe want to start a newsletter. They do some consulting work. Um, and this is a great opportunity for them and us. So I try and find win -win scenarios like that where it is, um, it's just a win -win and it's not someone holding power over the other. Jeff Dudan (29:07.15) You make an excellent point and I just want to double click on it for the audience because it went by really fast. And it has to do with when you're building a business, where do you allow yourself to be middled? Like where are the opportunities of failure for you? Because, so I'm big on collaborations. When we were there, when we were together, we were at an event and there was sessions on collaborations and collaborations are great because everybody's sharing their expense. Stephanie Postles (29:35.533) Mm -hmm. Jeff Dudan (29:35.63) in a way to build a project. And okay, that's great. But at the same point, if you don't have control over it, now there's different leverage points inside of that project inside of that deal. And then like you did on medium, you built this great property, and you spent all this time and energy and skill and expertise to pull that together. But at the end of the day, you didn't have control over it. So you decided you had to go another direction. So by having Stephanie Postles (30:01.069) Mm -hmm. Jeff Dudan (30:05.518) control over who the hosts are, you know, you just can't be middled and you can't be leveraged by something. So, but guess what? You have to pay those people. So, you know, the bigger budget you have or the more risk you're willing to take, you can definitely shift the risk in your direction and, you know, minimize it and things like that. So for people that are building a business, those are decisions that you make every day. And sometimes it's not at startup. Stephanie Postles (30:24.621) Mm -hmm. Jeff Dudan (30:34.99) because you do whatever you can to spin the wheel and get the business going. But then as you grow your business, you're going to be faced with these things. And I see it a lot in technology. I see it a lot with marketing vendors. Hey, we have this incredible platform and it does everything. And we'll just drive all the leads and we'll do that. I said, well, okay, what about the data? Well, that's going to be on our platform. I said, well then. you know, how do we disengage, how do we break up and how do we get our data? Oh, well, we're going to have all the data. And, you know, so there's no build, you just start right now, but just realize long term value, 84 % of the value of transactions today are in the IP and in the data. So, you know, if you abdicate your data, which is probably the wrong word, somebody can look that up. Stephanie Postles (31:07.149) Mm -hmm. Jeff Dudan (31:27.758) If you let somebody else own all your data, then you've really devalued your business. So I just want to, it's really interesting to me that you came to the decision to employ all of your talent. And because the other side of it is I was thinking, I was actually thinking it was going to go the other way, because I was thinking about the analogy of reality TV. You know, I've done some reality TV. Stephanie Postles (31:41.773) Yeah, yeah. Stephanie Postles (31:49.037) Mm -hmm. Jeff Dudan (31:51.982) And it was amazing. It only costs about a million dollars to produce an episode of Undercover Boss, where an episode of Friends, it's $10 million, and it's all in talent. So it's the same production cost, but so the reality TV is so pervasive because there's no cost for the talent. People just do it for free. They'll do it for their 15 minutes of fame. For whatever reason, they want to do it. Stephanie Postles (31:59.373) Mm -hmm. Stephanie Postles (32:05.453) Mm -hmm. Yeah. Stephanie Postles (32:13.613) Yep. Jeff Dudan (32:18.862) And podcasting's a lot the same way. I mean, we're just regular people, but trying to build a platform. So anyway, interesting, but sorry for the digression there, but I just found that to be a really thoughtful strategy that you employed there. Yeah. Stephanie Postles (32:38.477) Thanks. Yeah, it was very, very helpful for sure. And yeah, you just see how when your employees get the choice also to work on things that maybe they might feel they're not even qualified to do. And they're like, I mean, I remember a couple of people I hired. They were just like, wait, you're going to put me in front of Fortune 500 chief marketing officers. Why? I don't even know marketing. I'm like, you don't need to know marketing marketing. You just need to like know how to pull out a good story and know what things to drill in on. Jeff Dudan (32:51.662) Yeah. Stephanie Postles (33:06.765) You just have to be curious and be smart. Like go read some newsletters. You'll figure it out. But I mean, it doesn't, for most of these shows, it doesn't take someone who is an expert. And actually when someone is an expert in the space, then they're just going to do all the talking. And I'm like, that's not what I want. Like if you're, if you're too much of an expert and you're like, well, I've been a CMO for 50 years, who's probably going to run the conversation. So I'm like, I would rather have someone who, you know, is actually a little bit more of a newbie and ask the questions that everyone wants to know anyways. And. Jeff Dudan (33:28.302) That's right. Stephanie Postles (33:34.925) Yeah. If you can be a heartfelt person who just wants to bring out a good story, you can interview almost everyone. Um, I will say our one show that that does not work for us. It visionaries where we interviewed chief technology officers and chief information officers. So very technical it people. And thankfully I did have someone on my team who has a background. He used to be a CIO at this big company. And so he had the background, but that's one where I'm like, just being loving and heart centered doesn't work for like that group. You really actually have to know it, but. For the most part, many people can host if they're just curious. Jeff Dudan (34:08.75) Yeah, it makes sense. So what was your breakout podcast? Stephanie Postles (34:13.069) So, I mean, right now of all the years, I'd say the one that I'm hosting Mission Daily is probably our breakout one. That one gets about a million to 2 million downloads a month. So that one's our top performer, but I will say most of our shows, we don't just want more. We don't just want more downloads because our shows are focused on a niche audience. They're focused on having the chief marketing officer listen to it or the customer experience officer. So a lot of our shows, we don't want... Jeff Dudan (34:19.502) Okay. Okay. Stephanie Postles (34:41.549) a million downloads on it because we're actually probably not reaching the right people. If we're getting that big of an audience on a C level marketing show. And so most of our shows, we don't view it that way. We might view the, like the success for those shows as who were the guests that came on? Like, Oh, we just had today, the CMO of Sotheby's come on. Like that's a pretty big company and that's a great person to have on and to share their knowledge. And they've never really done a podcast before. Like those are the metrics for success for some of those shows. Um, But then mission daily is much more entrepreneurial focused. I mean, I talk about so many contrarian things sometimes on there. I think of course it's going to draw a bigger audience because I'll talk about almost going bankrupt, getting divorced when I'm pregnant, building mission backup, crypto, psychedelics. I mean, I talk about so many things that are a little more click worthy where people, yeah, they just want to listen to that more. It's just a bigger audience. So that one does do well. Jeff Dudan (35:33.422) Yeah. Jeff Dudan (35:40.526) Most shows that I've seen fall into categories of either educate, entertain, or even inspire. When you're looking at a show, most of yours are going to fall in the educate category. Stephanie Postles (35:45.645) Mm -hmm. Oh, yeah. Yep. Stephanie Postles (35:55.341) Well, do you remember when I pulled out my notes about this too, where I was like, that was like the vision of mission is inspire, educate and entertain in that order. Yeah. Where we both were like, what? We both have the same vision statement for our companies. Jeff Dudan (36:03.054) Oh, that's right. Yes, that's right. Jeff Dudan (36:08.686) Yeah, and you asked me, said, well, what does the show do? I said, well, we educate, entertain, and inspire. And you pulled it, and you had it on your paper. That was so, yeah, that's right. Yeah. Stephanie Postles (36:12.941) Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yep. Yeah. So, I mean, I'd say a lot of our shows, we want to do all of that. Um, yeah. So it's in that order though, for us inspire, educate and entertain, but a lot of the content we're like, just because it's executive, you know, executives being featured, doesn't mean it has to be lame. It can still be fun. Um, and interesting and exciting and how you can cut these clips up can be fun. So I think you can do it with all kinds of content. Everything is just how you structure a story and how you can relate to that person. Jeff Dudan (36:36.046) Yeah. Stephanie Postles (36:46.253) Yeah. Jeff Dudan (36:46.99) So what makes a good guest for Mission Daily? Stephanie Postles (36:50.381) So for Mission Daily, I sometimes have guests on there. It used to be very guest -driven. And then we kind of shifted away from it, but guest -driven as in it'd be the people that, like authors like Annie Jacobs would come on or Marissa Mayer came on. So it was like higher profile people in the Bay area where it's like, those people were very exciting to have on back then when we started this show. And then over time, it just... Jeff Dudan (36:56.494) Oh. Jeff Dudan (37:06.126) Sure. Jeff Dudan (37:15.534) Okay. Stephanie Postles (37:20.237) To me, I'm like, those conversations weren't always the most interesting. Sometimes they were, but sometimes if someone was a brand name, they came on, you're like, eh, you're a little too like PR focused talking and that's not fun for me. So, yeah. So it shifted a bit away from that where now if I have someone on, they're probably my friend. They're probably someone that I think is just doing fun things. And, um, yeah, I want to bring more attention to what they're doing. So that's. Jeff Dudan (37:30.766) Yeah, little too careful. Stephanie Postles (37:48.077) kind of what's happening now. So right now it's mostly just me and then my COO at the company who he's been at Mission for a long time. He has seen Mission through so many ups and downs and we have a very great dynamic because he's so opposite from me. I'm like woo spiritual, like doing things over here and he is very like logical, just not woo at all. And so it's an interesting dynamic because we're always on such opposite ends of the spectrum when we go through just different topics. Jeff Dudan (38:08.686) Yeah. Jeff Dudan (38:16.686) Interesting. So what's going on with Coachella this year? Tickets are available. Have you heard that? Stephanie Postles (38:20.749) No, I don't, I've never been to Coachella. So what's up with Coachella? I feel like that's what younger people go to, right? Jeff Dudan (38:24.974) Okay. Well, I would have thought well, that's why I thought you'd have been there Stephanie Postles (38:31.085) No, I go to Burning Man. Burning Man is a yes, but Coachella just feels like, I mean, I'm sure it's cool. I don't know, but yeah, I would probably keep going to Burning Man instead. Jeff Dudan (38:33.55) Oh, okay. There you go. Yeah, I'll... Yeah, absolutely. Are you going this year? Nice. OK, I think we talked about that too, actually. Yeah. So, well, awesome. So your vision for the podcast going forward, what's the next iteration on this? Have you thought about how to grow it? I mean, obviously, it's doing very well. Stephanie Postles (38:44.397) Mm -hmm. Yeah, that'll be my third year. Yeah. Yeah, yeah, I think so. Jeff Dudan (39:08.686) It's gotta be very rewarding financially and otherwise. What's next for you? Stephanie Postles (39:15.021) Yeah. So next is, I mean, continuing. I know, right. I did actually, someone called me out there like, wait, are you just bored because mission's working now? Because they're like, you seem like you were having a lot more fun when your company was almost bankrupt and you were getting a lot more exciting out of like excitement out of saving it. And they're like, and now it's stable and you're talking about moving on. So for mission, I mean, I am still so excited about bringing more like B2B enterprise, SaaS companies. Jeff Dudan (39:16.622) Cause you're bored by now. I know you're bored by now with this. You've been doing this too long. Jeff Dudan (39:29.262) Oh. Yeah. Stephanie Postles (39:42.381) into sponsorship of our model because our model admission is so different than any other podcast. And so just bringing more tech companies into it to show them how to really use media strategically and how to actually get an ROI on media. So I still love that space. We have more new sponsors coming on than we have before and really fun ones and great ones that I'm super excited to work with, which is I think a very big shift this year is anyone I work with gets to be fun. I get to like the team, I get to like the product, and I get to like the partnership, which was not always the case. And there's been a client in the past that we actually had just be like, we're not working together anymore. And that's a new thing for me. And so this year, just finding really innovative, amazing SaaS companies who want to tap into the sponsorship model. And then... Jeff Dudan (40:30.702) Yeah. Why are people like that, Stephanie? Why are people like that? You know? Like, I want... Stephanie Postles (40:37.197) I don't know. And I think when you're an entrepreneur, you just say yes in the early days because you're like, well, I have team members and I've got payroll and I have things to do and I just have to pay my bills. And you say yes. And then six months later, you're like, God, this person's annoying. Like, why? Why am I letting them pay me pretty small amounts at this point? Jeff Dudan (40:49.294) Yeah. Jeff Dudan (40:53.87) I don't know why people like it's being hard to work with makes the work harder. And it's it really does. And it's it you know, I don't get it. I do pick and choose a lot who and some of the networks that I know you go to and that I'm involved with, man, it just seems like these are really high level people. They set a financial bar where if you want to work with me, I just hired somebody and. Stephanie Postles (40:59.789) Mm -hmm. Mm -hmm. Jeff Dudan (41:23.726) great marketing mind. And literally he said, it's a $25 ,000 rate card. And then he wouldn't tell me with any detail what he was gonna do. He wouldn't like, and then so I just said, well, give me some references. So I call these references, like this is the best person ever. They've 10x to my business, just do everything that they say. It's so great. And I really had some great conversations with this person and I liked them, but he had just decided he didn't wanna fight over money. Stephanie Postles (41:35.501) Yeah, uh -uh, that doesn't work for me. Stephanie Postles (41:47.629) Mm -hmm. Okay. Stephanie Postles (41:53.069) Mmm. That's good. Jeff Dudan (41:53.358) and he knew that he was good and he knew that his reputation and his references. So I just paid it. And then we had our first call and it was the greatest thing ever. I'm like, this is the most brilliant marketing mind I've talked to. And he says, that's included. I said, well, tell me how this is gonna work. No, we're doing it all. We're doing it all, we're gonna handle it. It's only gonna take this long. We've already got started on it. Stephanie Postles (41:59.661) Hahaha Stephanie Postles (42:06.893) Okay. Jeff Dudan (42:21.774) And it was just, it was the best experience, but like the $25 ,000 was a qualifier so that he didn't have to work with people that he didn't want to work with. And he didn't have to jump through hoops trying to sell it. And I think kind of the higher up you go into things, you know, you're going to find people out there that take that position. And I, you know, I just find it really interesting, but man, I do, I just want to work with people that are up to something, going somewhere creative. They're cool. They have good perspectives and um, Stephanie Postles (42:26.797) Mm -hmm. That's good. Stephanie Postles (42:47.757) Yeah. Jeff Dudan (42:50.766) And they're out there. You just you just have to. Yeah. Stephanie Postles (42:52.077) Yep. You just gotta take, it takes a while to learn that. I mean, I think, and you can't demand those things upfront. Like you have to work with shitty clients, some like in the beginning to then figure that out. And like, that's something where I'm like, man, started this company in 2017. And as of like this year, I'm finally like, no, now I can demand that I want to work with cool people. It took that many years of really taking what I had to, to build a company. And I think, so you have to be a certain. Jeff Dudan (43:01.582) You do. Stephanie Postles (43:19.405) space in your life and with referrals like he has and a background to be like, okay, now I've elevated and I don't need to actually prove myself because my referrals will speak for me. So that's pretty baller. He sounds great. Jeff Dudan (43:31.79) So if somebody came in and bought the whole thing from you today, of course, you've got a young family, but you were completely free to go and do anything that you wanted to do and you had no more, they didn't even want you involved at the company anymore. Where would your feet be in three to six months? Stephanie Postles (43:57.389) Well, I mean, I actually think about this often, because I think it's a good thing to think about. It would probably be doing something similar to the things I'm doing now around these new shows I'm launching. So we have all this business tech content, executive content, founder content. That's been our network for, you know, since we started. But this year we had a goal to launch 10 new shows in Q1. And these 10 new shows were not business tech or any of that. They were... Jeff Dudan (44:02.35) It is. Stephanie Postles (44:26.861) very outside of that space. They were around spiritual concepts or one's called like sacred echoes. And it's highlighting these spiritual sites around the world and what's happening there, just showing like the unification of experiences of what's happening in Russia is happening in Sedona, it's happening in here. And so these things I didn't care about 10 years ago, but then after many different experiences and having kids and all this kind of stuff, fast forward today, I care about a lot of different stuff. And so, that kind of content we're putting out. We have a show coming out on Shipwrecks. I've got kids content coming out, which I have four kids. So looking at the media space for kids is like appalling to me. And my kids don't do screens. And so it'd be good for them to listen to good stories with good intentions behind them. So just launching new shows and probably getting into comedy and some reality TV, which now that I know that you did that, I might talk to you, but just trying new things in media, because I do think... Jeff Dudan (45:03.118) Yeah. Stephanie Postles (45:24.973) media has the power to impact and influence generations to come in such a great way if you have good intention behind it. And so that's what I would still do just, and I'm doing in a different way. Even if I had all the money right now and mission was fully taken care of, I'd be like, okay, what new things can I launch that will change the world? Jeff Dudan (45:39.118) Yeah. Jeff Dudan (45:46.702) Well, so what's beautiful about that answer is you're already doing it. Stephanie Postles (45:50.413) Yeah. But it's because I was asking myself that question a year ago, two years ago, um, because building a company is not always, you know, like it's not probably where you can make the most money always. And so I think it's good to step back and check of like, is this still worth it? There was many times where I'm like, I could just jump back to my job at Google and make more money right now and have a way easier life working nine to five than I am right now worrying about X, Y, and Z. Jeff Dudan (45:52.078) Yeah, that's awesome. Jeff Dudan (46:06.094) Yeah. Jeff Dudan (46:15.854) right? Stephanie Postles (46:20.109) And so there was so many times of me thinking of like, okay, would I want to do that? Cause you know, that's a lot easier. And yeah, asking myself that question and being like, okay, I still would do this on the side though. I would go back and I'd work at Google and then I would start doing this on the side again. And then I'd be back here again. So it's definitely not the money that's driving this always. Um, and you know, it's nice, but it's a good question to ask yourself. Jeff Dudan (46:44.558) I'm interested in the kids content. We were just asked to do a collaboration with a charity and a pretty notorious popular figure. They've got about 15 million followers on different platforms and things have a pretty good name. And they were interested in doing content, entrepreneurial content, but focused towards children. So they wanted to say, you know, they have these foundations and a lot of they do a lot of stuff around children. They said, we want a safe place. Stephanie Postles (46:58.669) Mm -hmm. Stephanie Postles (47:07.021) Mm -hmm. Jeff Dudan (47:14.35) to be able to send people to, to build so that they're, you know, young people can get entrepreneurial content, but it's going to be, you know, clean and you know, what they would want to see. And so we've got, you know, this on the Homefront podcast here. And I thought, Hey, we can build a whole of a library of content in that way. I mean, it would just, for me, for us, it would be easy because it's the direction the horse is already going. And it would just be getting the right guests on and then making sure that. Stephanie Postles (47:25.453) So good. Mm -hmm. Stephanie Postles (47:40.717) Mm -hmm. Jeff Dudan (47:43.918) the content and which is, you know, my background is in coaching, lots of kid stuff, man, just all about that. So it's very, it's an interest that I have, something that I'm interested in. And I hope we can pull the project together because I think it would be great. And also I think we'd be bringing in a lot of viewers into something like that. So. Stephanie Postles (47:47.245) Mm -hmm. Mm -hmm. Stephanie Postles (48:04.941) Yep. I mean, the market's there. I've looked at the numbers and I see the need and I mean, it depends on the age group, but I mean, that kids project, um, ours is that missionkidsapp .com. And that's where it's showing all the different kids stories that we want to tell. But I mean, depending on the age group, there's really nothing for ages like five to eight or so, which is such an important milestone. And like that time of life is so influential before age seven. Jeff Dudan (48:12.206) Yeah. Jeff Dudan (48:20.974) Yeah. Jeff Dudan (48:28.014) Okay. Stephanie Postles (48:34.349) And so if you have stories that are in a way that kids can understand what the characters that they get to know and love, and you're learning about grit and resiliency and entrepreneurship and long -term thinking and compound interests, I mean, if you're learning about these things through a story, that's what changes the world. Stories are the things that spread through generations. So I love that. Let me know how we can help with that too, because that's something I'm super passionate about. Yeah, for sure. Jeff Dudan (48:40.398) Yeah. Jeff Dudan (49:00.238) All right. Well, all those things. Those are some unpopular topics for kids you just mentioned, but very, very important. Very important. Yeah. Well, take it or leave it. Click away if you must. And the comedy angle, are you a frustrated standup? Stephanie Postles (49:05.293) yep I know. yeah oh well. yeah I know yeah yeah. Stephanie Postles (49:22.477) So this actually comes because so many of my friends, they're just like, Stephanie, you are so ridiculous and funny. And like, why don't you do more of that? And my mind feels like it's a constant circus of like, just immature. That's what she said jokes, even when I'm like talking to executives, I'm like, I need to hold back from the ridiculousness of my mind. And so I started thinking more about this and just thinking of like, man, comedy is one of the highest forms of intelligence, I think, if you know what you're doing. Jeff Dudan (49:50.734) It is. Yeah. Stephanie Postles (49:51.725) Like to me, I mean, I don't know if you've ever seen Joe Rogan, I'm here in Austin. So I saw him and I'm like, he's got a lot of truth in there, a lot of messages and people aren't offended mostly because it's through humor. Same thing with South Park, same thing with Silicon Valley, don't look up, Book of Mormon. Like these all have interesting messages in them. And to me, that's how you spread awareness of things without overly triggering people. You'll still trigger people because... Jeff Dudan (50:12.206) Yes. Stephanie Postles (50:18.829) and many people will get triggered just by you saying hello. So it's not about that, but it allows for a message to spread and the right people will look further into it. And so that's why I think it's a very powerful medium and I really want to get into it. And I just think it'd be fun. Like just, why not? Jeff Dudan (50:21.934) Yeah. Jeff Dudan (50:33.422) Yeah, I've got that eye too and it gets me in trouble because I think everything's funny. Like, I mean, we, yeah, I mean, it's just everything I look at is just like, oh man, I got the joke right away. I mean, but you know, you can't when you're in business, you gotta, you gotta pick your shots. Have you been to the Comedy Mothership? Have you? I'm coming out. That's gonna be, yeah, I haven't picked the date, but I'm just, I'm coming. I gotta be there. I've got a friend who's been, Stephanie Postles (50:38.125) Me too. Me too. Yep. Yep. Stephanie Postles (50:52.269) yeah yep yeah Oh, are you. Jeff Dudan (51:03.31) going out there and hanging out a little bit. So I'm probably gonna hook up with him and go out and do a trip out there, but I'll let you know. Stephanie Postles (51:05.485) Okay. Tell me. Yeah, I'll definitely come. You just have to make sure Joe is actually at the comedy club. Cause a lot of times it's like Joe and friends and then it's just his friends. And I'm like, no, I actually want Joe. Yeah. Okay. Jeff Dudan (51:16.558) Yeah, you know what, that'd be okay. I want to see his club and see what he's built there. I'm sure there'll be good acts and all that kind of stuff. If we can inside scoop and figure out when he's going to be there, that would be great. Well, look, this has been awesome. I really appreciate you coming on. Had so much fun talking to you. I'm so glad we got a chance to meet this year. Stephanie Postles (51:26.029) Yeah, they are. They are. Stephanie Postles (51:40.013) Same. Yeah, me too. Thanks for having me on and yeah, well have to do it on mission daily sometime, by the way, bring you on my show. Jeff Dudan (51:42.542) Yeah, 100%. Last question. Hey, well, look, I wasn't going to ask, but okay, how about next Tuesday? So last question for you, Stephanie, if you had one sentence to speak and make an impact into somebody's life, what would that be? Stephanie Postles (51:49.677) We'll get you bugged. Stephanie Postles (52:05.197) Wow, that's a really big question. Probably that... Let me think about this one. Stephanie Postles (52:17.229) It would probably be. Stephanie Postles (52:22.381) understanding the power of your thoughts and just realizing how your thoughts are creating your reality and how when you start seeing that and you realize that you are a hundred percent responsible, a hundred percent of the time, everything around you is being created by you and your thoughts and your actions and your energy that you're putting towards those thoughts. I think your life can change. And there is one book that I recommend for that as well, that is super old called the game of life and how to play it by Florence Goebel Shin. She wrote this book in 1925 and her concepts are so interesting around this, around what's showing up in your life. And it's like, this is life. How do you actually play this game? It's a mix of spiritual and religion in a way that is grounded. And I actually could get through it because I'm not a super religious person. I didn't grow up in the churches. I didn't, you know, so this was a helpful book to bring it all together. Um, but that's a good one to start that if I were to go back, I would have started reading that because. that would have helped me realize why I ended up at Fannie Mae. Jeff Dudan (53:24.11) Perfectly said and Stephanie, thank you so much for being on. Stephanie Postles (53:29.613) Thanks for having me, Jeff. Jeff Dudan (53:31.278) Yep. This has been Stephanie Postles. I am Jeff Duden, and we have been on the home front. Thanks for listening.
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Brief Summary In this heartfelt and purpose-driven episode, Jeff Dudan sits down with Ben Higgins—former Bachelor, author, and founder of Generous Coffee. From growing up in small-town Indiana to national fame on reality TV, Ben opens up about identity, loneliness, addiction, and the shift from spotlight to service. Now building a for-profit company that funds nonprofits, Ben shares what it really means to live generously and lead a life of impact, not just attention. Key Takeaways Fame isn't a finish line—it’s a fork in the road : After The Bachelor, Ben faced a choice between chasing relevance or building something meaningful. He chose purpose over popularity. Generous Coffee is mission-first : The company donates 10–15% of revenue to nonprofits and builds community through ethically sourced, specialty-grade coffee. Loneliness can be a teacher : Ben’s book Alone in Plain Sight was born from personal pain, addiction, and the realization that vulnerability connects us. Reality TV isn’t reality : Ben shares the pressure to perform, the manufactured drama, and how staying grounded helped him avoid the post-show crash. Purpose-driven entrepreneurship attracts talent : Ben now leads a team of high-capacity leaders who left traditional success behind to create impact-driven businesses. Your story is your superpower : Whether building a brand or healing from brokenness, Ben emphasizes owning your narrative, even the messy chapters. Feat ured Quote “Live every day that you give more than you take.” — Ben Higgins TRANSCRIPT From Bachelor to Business: Ben Higgins' New Mission Jeff Dudan (00:03.961) All right, three, two, one. Welcome everybody to On the Homefront with Jeff Duden. Have a great guest on today, Ben Higgins, who was the bachelor and is now an entrepreneur with Generous Coffee and really has made an incredible splash in our social scenes and on our televisions and now really making an impact with a very purpose -driven business venture. Ben, welcome to On the Homefront. Ben (00:31.36) pumped to be here. Thanks for having me. Jeff Dudan (00:33.081) Oh, right on, man. Right on. So let's dig right into it. Would you mind just sharing a little bit of your background, kind of how you grew up in Indiana? Who is Ben Higgins? Ben (00:44.768) Yeah, definitely. So I grew up in Indiana, northern Indiana, so in a small little town called Warsaw. It's best known really as the orthopedic capital of the world. So it's a super wildly set up town where you have five major headquarters in a town of about 10 ,000 people. And then there's really nothing within 30 minutes outside the town. So you have this really small area of Indiana that has an incredible economy. A lot of really intelligent people, a lot of really good jobs, and then outside of it you have nothing. And so I grew up there. It's a great town. Really love my childhood. I'm an only child. Great parents. And then went to Indiana University in Bloomington for college just as a student. Athletics or huge part of my upbringing, huge part of my life, but after a. A knee injury. I had to kind of refocus and re identify myself, which was a wild journey. And that's what led me to Indiana to to go be the biggest fan of the basketball team because all of the guys that played a you with pretty much went and played basketball Indiana. And so instead of me joining them, I became their biggest fan, which was a humbling experience, a really fun experience. Jeff Dudan (01:59.481) Ah. Ben (02:09.546) But it definitely was a big kind of pivot point in my life and how I viewed myself. Jeff Dudan (02:14.553) Yeah, so I didn't realize it when I saw you on television, but you're like 6 '4", right? Ben (02:18.848) Yeah, yeah, taller. It's it's it's it is weird people nowadays when they when we meet in person like you're taller than I expected. And I said, well, I don't know what you expected. Typically, you know, you go to Hollywood. If I go out to Hollywood still, I'm taller than everybody about about six inches. Yeah. Jeff Dudan (02:20.761) Yeah. Jeff Dudan (02:35.481) Yeah, well, I mean, the Tom Cruise, like the majority of the good actors and they, I think it's just the way they look on. Yeah, man. And they just look good on film in that way. I don't know. I guess, you know, but well, also, what were you like a, were you a shooting guard too? Were you a one, two, three? What would you do? Okay. Ben (02:56.16) I was a three so kind of had to learn to slash shoot a little bit. If I want to go play in college, you know I can't claim I would have gone to play. You but if I want to play in college it was kind of transition for me from being the biggest guy on the floor to now not being the biggest guy on the floor but all but you know. Being a taller three and in Indiana basketball is the thing like you know they say in 49 other states is basketball. That's true. Jeff Dudan (03:07.641) Right. Ben (03:25.984) Like it's in Indiana, basketball is the thing you do. It's the thing that you, if you're good at, you're known for, uh, that people celebrate you for. And for a long period of my life, like I was pretty decent. And so, uh, to have that kind of be taken away or for me to switch from it was a, it was a big shift. Jeff Dudan (03:32.825) Yeah. Jeff Dudan (03:46.041) Yeah. So I was like, I was sick. Basketball was everything to me until I was a junior in high school. I switched over to football because I was, I'm still, I'm about 242 right now, about 62, 42. So that, you know, that, uh, it doesn't work on the basketball. I wasn't going anywhere playing basketball and I was, uh, took three charges, used five fouls, average six points a game. You know, yeah. Oh, you gotta have somebody's got to do the dirty work and let you guys score. Ben (03:57.664) Yeah, it's a salad. Ben (04:10.688) We need those guys. Somebody's gotta do it. Yeah. Jeff Dudan (04:15.673) Yeah, well, cool. So did you do any acting or modeling or in front of camera work growing up? Ben (04:24.608) Goodness, no. Not at all. I mean, I went to Indiana and I left Indiana. In fact, my buddy and I moved to South America, moved to Peru because I didn't have a job offer out of college. No, I didn't know acting, nothing on camera, no television. I then came out to Denver to take my first job because it was the only job offered to me. And I was working in a cubicle in the basement writing user manuals. And so my social scene was very limited. I knew I had no friends in Denver. I moved out here really only because of the job. I had no experience until obviously I showed up in a limo on national television. Jeff Dudan (05:09.101) Tell me a little bit about how that happened. Was that just online? Let me send a picture in and see if I can get on. Did somebody, did mom tell you this is something you should do? Ben (05:19.806) Mobbed and not know it was actually the marketing director of my company. So like I said, I was in this basement. I was at this company. We kind of had an outdated software. We were supporting some clients. I was writing the user manuals and test scripts. I wasn't great at my job. Definitely didn't love my job, but I was working a lot and the marketing director came down. She's very sweet. She said, Hey, I love this show. Um, Jeff Dudan (05:23.831) Oh. Ben (05:47.904) and you're the only person at our company because the company had a pretty old demographic that I know would even be available to be on the show. Yeah, that was not a thing yet. And so she asked if we could go to her office and sign up, like go on the website, sign up. And we did. And then they call and you kind of go through a process. You go through. Jeff Dudan (05:57.881) And the Golden Bachelor was yet to be founded. Ben (06:11.296) obviously the online application, then you go through a video application, and then if you pass it that, then they send you out to LA and you do a psych test and a blood test and more in -person interviews. And then the next step is the show. And so I went through the whole process. It kind of took about six months sent from my application date. And then all of a sudden I got a phone call saying, hey, can you be in LA on this date? And I said, let me check. So I went back to my company and I asked, I didn't want to get fired. So, you know, the risk is you go there, you're there two days, you get sent home, you're jobless now, I didn't have any money, I needed my health insurance. And so my company was nice enough at the time to say, hey, how about we just give you a sabbatical and unpaid leave? You come back whenever you come back. And nobody knew it was gonna be like two and a half, three months off for me to be on the show, but that's what happened. And then I became the bachelor. And so there's another three months off, but I stayed at the job the whole time. kind of would work Monday through Thursday and then they gave me Fridays off to flat to LA and do whatever I needed to do. Jeff Dudan (07:16.057) I've done reality TV, I did the undercover boss thing. So when there was a moment for me where it was this go or no go, and I don't know if you had that or if you knew where you were when you had it, but it's like, you're like, ah, you know, because there's always, especially if you don't come from it and you weren't looking for it, and now all of a sudden, oh man, they're gonna put me through, I'm gonna be on this show. Like. What could go wrong? What's the upside? What's the downside? Did you have any of that hesitation? I had a family at the time. I knew that people were going to look at my kids differently because they had no idea the size of the business that we owned. We didn't, because it was a national, it was interesting because it was a national business. There wasn't that much local presence. So people didn't really know that we had 240 locations out there. And. Ben (07:55.582) Yeah. How an Office Prank Led to Reality TV Fame Jeff Dudan (08:08.109) If this show goes through, they're going to have to go to their school and kids are going to see me giving away $250 ,000 and all this other stuff. So that was it for me. Did you have anything that was holding you back or was it all gas, no brakes for you? Ben (08:23.552) Oh, it was very much holding me back. In fact, once they asked, I took a bunch of time and faith is a very big part of my life. And so I kind of said a prayer at the time, it's the only prayer I knew. I said, hey, if this isn't meant to be close a door, like make that any important door to me, just close it, make it very clear that I, this is not a good step in my life. And so I said that prayer and kind of went out into the world and then I asked my buddies, what do you think? And they said, I think you should do it. Ask my family, my family was like, this sounds wild, but you know, let's spice life up a little bit. Let's create a new story for you that think you should do it. So then the final step was really my job. And like I said, I'd moved out to Denver. I was renting a house at the time. I wasn't making a lot of money. I didn't have much in my bank account and I'm 25 years old and I'm thinking I can't leave my first job, go do this because I don't know what I'd do next. And so I, Went to my, the CEO of the company, it was a smaller company. And I said, hey, here's this opportunity to have, I do want to do it. It is something I think could be fun and exciting and tell a cool story in my life. But I'm not going to do it unless the company here approves it because I can't lose my job and I can't lose my health insurance. And he said, I think this could be good for all of us. And he's like, when you come back, how about you move into sales and get out of user manual writing. being a business analyst. I said, that sounds great. That's what I want to do anyways. And so when he said, go do it, I was like, all these doors have been flown wide open. There was no hurdles. And so then it was kind of all gas. Then it was like, Hey, this is meant to be, this is going to be something. Something's going to come from this. I don't know what, but something good is going to come from this because again, because of my faith and because of the steps I took, I felt like I had crossed all the boxes off and said, okay, you know what? I gave the opportunity for somebody to say no and they never did. Jeff Dudan (10:23.417) What principles or beliefs based on making that decision to walk through that door and to go for it have you incorporated in your life as you continue to make big decisions that could change your trajectory for good or for bad? Ben (10:30.24) Mm -hmm. Ben (10:39.04) Well, I think taking risks is a big one. I think as an entrepreneur, that's about all I do is take risks and try to do my best to alleviate the risks at some level, but then always know that the risks are very much there and there's unexpected things at every turn and every day and every moment. So being more comfortable with risk, I think is one. I think the second piece of that, Jeff Dudan (10:41.145) Mm -hmm. Ben (11:05.248) is it's not easy for me. It was kind of my journey on the show as well was to have confidence in myself a little bit to know that, hey, if I put in the work, if I try to stay a man of integrity, then, you know, maybe good things will happen or at least the bad things will be a little minimized. And so being more confident myself to not change who I am. depending on the situation or change who I am, depending on the environment, but to stay true to who I am and try to be the best version of that in these, in really every moment. And then the final piece I would say that I've taken in is, is to also have the humility and know that nobody knows fully what they're doing and that everybody's kind of building the plane and flying at the same time. And, uh, kind of having some like comfort in that to know, again, there's some ways that I can try to learn and, you know, base my base and decisions on experience, but to know that all of us are kind of in the same spot. We're all trying our best here. Jeff Dudan (12:07.481) Right. Look, nobody knows what you forgot to say. And they can't show anything that you don't say. So if you're disciplined enough about keeping your emotions under control. Ben (12:21.824) Yeah. Jeff Dudan (12:22.169) And you're a little bit thoughtful and you just take a beat. Cause I know like undercover boss men, like they put you under massive stress. Like they're trying to create drama and something's going to go wrong and you fire somebody. Like the worst it can go, the better TV it's going to make. And then you got to have the ones that go great and very emotional. So, so they're pulling you back and forth. And I just, I mean, I would just had to fight them off for like two weeks, man. Just like, I'm not going to say that I'm not, no, that's, no, that's not the way I would handle it. Ben (12:44.832) Yeah. Jeff Dudan (12:48.985) You know, don't you want to go in there and just yell at them? And I was like, no, I don't. But, and then, you know, I think the big thing is nothing is fatal. At the end of the day, like if you die filming the show, it's not, it's because of other life choices and a bad diet. It's not because of the show, right? So, and then we, you know, we had a set of family values. I set my kids down and the last three are fail fast and move forward. Trust yourself to take chances and always do more than is expected. Like that's kind of the last three in our little family crest. And when you look at that, it's like, well, we can say no to this and we can play it safe, or we can look at this as a new adventure, a new opportunity and have this as an inflection point in our life. And if you're going to be true to your values and it's not just talk, then we didn't have a choice. Like we had to push forward with it. And they have to participate. be on the show and all that. So it was very cool. And now for us, and I'm still active in business, so whenever it plays around the world, we get a whole influx of opportunity and brand and exposure and all that kind of stuff. Do you still get, how far is it in your rear view mirror or? Is it something that today with your work with Generous Coffee or other things that you care about, is it a, when is it a big positive for you to have that on your resume, you know, on the big Instagram, like, you know, the big social media accounts don't hurt. Like that doesn't hurt. And then when is it, when is it ever a negative? Faith, Risk, and Saying Yes to the Unknown Ben (14:24.992) Yeah. No. Ben (14:30.944) Um, you know, I think that in a sense, and I'm, it's a loaded question because I think there's a lot of like my story that has to play into answering that. And, you know, you go a couple different directions. You come off the show and it's, you know, you're everywhere and you're getting paid to show up places. You're getting paid to not show up places. You're getting paid to sign stuff. You're, I mean, it's, it's, you know, it's about six months, I would say of just full till, uh, craziness of, you know, being you is the most beneficial financial asset you have. And then it kind of dies off. And once it started to die off for me, you kind of go one of two directions at that point. You either try to stay relevant, meaning you're trying to create new headlines, you're trying to date people, your agents are setting you up on dates with more famous people and they're calling upon the paparazzi to get a picture. or they're wanting you to cause a little chaos in life. And that can be on the front of a headline and people are interested in that chaos. So they wanna hear from you again. And that search for relevancy can be a path that is very lucrative and can really last a long time. The problem is you're consistently working at keeping your name in the headlines. For me, I wasn't good at it. I wasn't good at trying to stay relevant. It was exhausting to me. It felt like it was very much soul sucking for me. It was not when I had a mentor of mine kind of say, hey, Ben, what did you dream of as a kid? Or what were you really good at as a kid that kind of set you apart from everybody else? And maybe that's your dreams now. And so as a kid, it was the creation of things. It was being involved in story. It was being involved in the kind of making things happen. And so me just trying to stay relevant just felt like it was. an empty pursuit that led to great financial gain. So I had to have a come to Jesus moment for me where it was, what do I want to do with all this? And a buddy of mine recommended to me, maybe this is never meant to be about you, what if this is meant to be about something greater than you? And once he said that, my life kind of switched to, okay, I have the social media following, I have the platform, I still have name recognition, but I don't want to build brands based on me. Ben (16:54.944) So can I build brands that could even outlast me? Could I build brands or businesses or could I get involved in things that are not about how famous I stay but still allow me maybe the financial freedom, the personal freedom, but also allows me to stay very actively engaged and involved in these things and then, hey, you know, God forbid something happens to me where I'm no longer on this earth, right? The brand still continues or maybe I do something super stupid. Jeff Dudan (17:20.057) Thank you. Ben (17:21.92) You know, wake up one morning, I say, I'm going to cause a lot of chaos in life and a bad headline comes out, right? And I get pushed aside by society. Well, the brand maybe can still continue, right? They can still pick their feet back up, build up and continue. And so that was kind of my trajectory. So to answer your first question, it's always been a benefit to me. There's been moments where I definitely could see where it would have been a hard, but since that kind of. Jeff Dudan (17:33.559) Yeah. Ben (17:48.992) pivot point to where it's no longer about me. I no longer feel the pressure to use the bachelor necessarily for my own gain. But oftentimes it's just kind of if people know about the show, if they've seen the show and I'm on a call trying to, you know, close a deal and they're like, Hey, you were on that show. Typically, I've never had a moment where it hasn't happened. They're like, that's cool. Tell us more about it. It builds a different relationship. They feel like they know me and and good things come from it. So for me, I've never been resentful towards the show. I also had a pretty good ride on the show, right? The show was pretty good to me overall. And I don't necessarily even know how I can answer like why that was. Maybe because I didn't try to say stupid stuff and cause fights and get myself into trouble. But, but no, overall, it's been a really good experience for me, one that I'm very grateful for. And icing on the cake was that my wife responded to my direct message on Instagram. Jeff Dudan (18:35.001) Yeah. Ben (18:47.968) because I had a blue check mark and I know she was getting hit up a lot on Instagram by people. I just stood out maybe because I'd been vetted a little bit by social media. Jeff Dudan (19:01.177) Really a huge compliment to you because I'm older, I'm more senior in my career. Although I was thinking I was in the fourth quarter and I've reset back to halftime now. I actually just, I'm having so much fun now. Dude, I turned 56 like in 30, in May. And, but I don't know, man. I've never, last kids out of the house, I've never felt more purposeful. Ben (19:12.544) Oh, let's go. Jeff Dudan (19:27.033) and had more ability to be more purposeful and also having more perspective and resources to be able to be even deeper into my purpose. And, but for somebody your age to say, you know what, I've got, I've got this going because it's exactly what you said. I really hadn't connected the dots, but when people are, or they get notoriety, next thing you know, they start showing up everywhere and all this click baits and they're popping up and all of a sudden it's like, I'm like, oh wow, those famous people, they must all date each other. I didn't know that people were setting you up to, you know, to, cause everybody's furthering their career to see who's dating who and who's, you know, your brands gaping and swapping audiences and all of that. Okay. Well, that's all fair. That makes sense. That's the world we live in. But, Post-Fame Burnout and the Pressure to Stay Relevant Ben (20:00.224) Yeah. Ben (20:11.168) Yeah, I'm not, and I don't say any of that, say that path is bad necessarily. It's business. It's, you know, I think for me, it just, it exhausted me at a level. I couldn't continue it, you know, but some can do it. And those people are very impressive to me, but you know, different strokes. Jeff Dudan (20:14.477) No, no, it's business. It's just business. Jeff Dudan (20:33.433) Yeah, well, so like, here's the deal, man. Our will is an exhaustible resource. So you only have so much every day. And then we all have a personality profile, who we are. And then there's another personality profile, who we need to be at work or in public in this case. Depending on the size of your battery, you can only be somebody you're not for so long until it just starts to wear you down. And you said it was exhausting, right? To try to... keep all this stuff straight. Well, it just wasn't who you were. And you very early in your life came to a place where you see a lot of other celebrities do this much later in their life as they decide, you know what, I'm going to use what I've got for good. And I'm actually going to go into, you see it with clothing companies and all kinds of business stuff. So, but the fact that you came to it so early and, uh, you know, it was really, it was really impressive, uh, really impressive. So. At some point you decided to write a book and I heard you on a podcast as I was preparing to talk to you today that you said it took you a couple of years to get done. Which means you, which means you wrote it yourself. I think. Yeah. I mean, like we all have editors and ghosts. You can dictate stuff and there's all kinds of services out there, but. Ben (21:34.56) Mm -hmm. Ben (21:46.464) Yeah, for the most part. For the most part. Jeff Dudan (21:54.361) They would have kicked you the curb long before two years. They would have got you. They would have got you done in 90 days. But so what what motivated you to write it alone in plain sight? Ben (21:57.182) Yeah. Ben (22:06.912) You know, I kind of going back to, I think I had a self -fulfilling story. As a kid, I felt very, for a period of my life, like as a little kid, I felt very much like the outsider looking into life. Kind of felt like nobody understood me. I didn't really understand others. You know, I'm an only child, so I spent a lot of time around adults and around my parents. Went into school. uh, had a kind of a weird time trying to make friends and, but really desired friends and really desired like that, those relationships. And so then I, you know, obviously I talked about sports a little bit, which is, you know, some people dismiss it because it was in high school. But for me, sports was such a huge part of my life. It was also a huge part of how I made friendships and how I made connections and what I was known for. So then I got her tore my knee all up, had to kind of switch what I was going to be in life at that point or at least in the, you know, for the next chapter of life and got incredibly down on myself and ended up forming an addiction to opioids because I was on painkillers for prescribed painkillers for six, you know, six months straight. And so then I never really got out of it for four years. Kind of came out of that and felt more lonely than ever because I felt like I had pretty much pushed aside every good relationship in my life. I really didn't know who I was as a man. I didn't know who I was to others. And that's when the book really started. And so I hadn't started writing it, but I had this notebook that I had all these feelings and quotes of mine in, that I would sit at my little desk in college and write down all these thoughts going through my head. So obviously the show happens, Bachelor happens about five years later for me. and come off the show. And on the show, I had this moment where I was in the bachelor at the time. And one of the producers came up to me one day and he says, I don't like you. And that's like the one thing you could say to me that would like make me feel as small as possible is I don't like you because you don't let me get to know you. You say the right things, the right moments, and then you hide when moments get hard. And he goes, you've been here how many weeks and I don't know anything about you. And it was always kind of my thing. Ben (24:31.456) Right? Like I always kind of desired to know others better than maybe I even knew myself or how I would ever let them get to know me. Because my fear was that the more they got to know me, the less they would like me. And we, you know, that could be five hours of us unpacking how that kind of build up. But that was my general consensus is the more people got to know me, the less they would like me. And so I admitted this on national television. I said at the time I felt unlovable. I kind of have re Assessed and said I think I was meaning I felt more unlikable. I felt like it was really hard to like me which would be hard than to love me and I say this on television get off the show and the response was crazy. I've never had anything in my life even today where more people have reached out said I feel the same way. And so that's when the book started from that moment on so started writing it started telling my story. Jeff Dudan (25:06.393) That's fair. Ben (25:28.544) And then I started telling the stories of others, some people in my life that I've ran into who maybe had every excuse to feel like outsiders, yet they had chosen not to, or they had some good tips on how to keep grounded. And so, yeah, it took a long time. A lot of it took a long time because I was kind of unwilling for a while to admit and write some of the stories in the book that I thought could really be, this were just were hard for me. to vocalize or ones I had kind of forgotten because I pushed them so far down in myself. And so two years later it came out. It's about connection. It's about loneliness. My hope is that people read it and they feel less alone after reading it. The problem with all this was, and it wasn't planned this way, it came out right in the heart of COVID. So all the good book tour plans and all the good activities to help people get connected again weren't happening. But at the same time, it was kind of a good time for the book to come out because a lot of people were feeling lonely. Writing Alone in Plain Sight: Addiction, Identity, and Connection Jeff Dudan (26:32.345) Yeah, that's fair. You've mentioned several times that you've got some somebody shared some experience with you, gave you some advice. Is there one or two people in your life other than a family member who you would point to and say they've had a huge impact speaking into your life? Ben (26:51.968) You know, a lot of people come to mind like when you say that, but I was at a leadership summit in college and the guy that was speaking got up on stage and he said these words that really stuck with me. He said one of the best lessons he learned later in life. And anytime you say, hey, you know, as a 22 year kid and there's somebody up there who's 60 years old and they're saying, hey, this is something I wish I would have learned at 22. I'm, I'm listening. I'm in like, all right, tell me, tell me what's going on. And he said, I wish I would have been willing to learn from anybody. And so I've taken that with me is just to be very willing to learn from anybody. I'm going to agree with everything I'm hearing. But if you're speaking from a place of your story has led you to this belief, you know, be it politically, religiously, from business, personally, family, whatever the big topics of why you hold on to your strong convictions. If you're telling me that this is where life has led you to believe, I want to hear what you're saying. and I want to understand how you got there. And so maybe not, maybe people, like there's some people that I would lean on maybe more consistently than others, but over the last, you know, 10 years of life, it's really just kind of having a listening ear and being open to hear what, you know, what others are saying. Jeff Dudan (28:11.353) My best advice is to don't take advice and don't give advice, but look for shared experiences. Because some of the times when I've made decisions that I tried to inform with other people, they gave me their advice, but they really didn't have experience in it. And I'm in a group called YPO, which is Young Presidents Organization. And I learned that late in... Oh yeah? Yeah. Ben (28:33.184) My father -in -law's in it. Yeah. Jeff Dudan (28:36.569) It's a great room. It's a great room to be in, but they, that's it. If you don't have an experience to share, whether you're in forum or whether you're in one of the meetings is like, don't say it just because it's not your job to spit ball other people's problems on something that you have no experience with. Uh, so it's, it's interesting, but it's very subtle. Uh, but now when I'm, I have mentors and people that I look up to and. I'm fortunate to be able to get in a lot of different rooms and I really seek other people's, I even ask specifically, like have you had experience or what's been your experience with that? And so for the 60 year old to share his experience, I guess he, it's different man, advice and experience, like they're cousins, they're close, but. Ben (29:24.64) Yeah. Well, they kind of build off of each other in a lot of ways, but I'm with you. And another thing that's kind of been fun for me is I look for people who've experienced, kind of gone through the valley of the shadow of death, like gone through it, because those people are the ones when they come out the other side, they just have a whole different world. And it's also been really, in June of three years ago, I went through a really weird, very kind of like solemn state. I just noticed, hey, I'm not who I am. I was engaged to my fiance at the time. I was like, I'm not who I want to be. I just feel super down. I have a thousand questions. I have a thousand concerns about what kind of husband I can be, what this marriage thing even is, where my career is going, how I'm even going to help support our family alongside of her. And I just kind of went through it. And I... actually kind of left Denver went back to Indiana where a place I was familiar with. I sat on the lake for about a month and a half and all of a sudden it kind of hit me. It was like, you know, you're going through it right now and you're going to this mental kind of like note in my head, like you're going to make it through this and you're going to learn a lot during this season. Like this is not you losing yourself. This is not you being less than. And here's the thing. Four years ago or four years before that. when I would have went through, I would have beat myself up so bad about how can you be this type of guy? Like how can you have these types of questions? How can you be so down? Life's so good. Like instead I was like, no, you're learning something here. Be willing to learn it. And when you come out the other side, you're gonna be able to speak with and to people based on this experience and probably relate with them in a way you wouldn't have unless you had this time. And it gave me this whole new like purpose, this whole new mission. Ben (31:19.104) And I actually came out of the other side, I think healthier than ever. I don't know if I'll go through it again. I might, you know what, life's weird, who knows, but it gives me this whole new kind of like perspective on when you go through your times of trials, the benefits then of what you're gaining on the other side. Jeff Dudan (31:35.385) Yeah. Look, man, your ability to self -correct is noteworthy. So like negative progress is the greatest dissatisfactor in life. Nobody likes to be worse off than they were. That's why child actors and celebrities who you've been it like even my little bit on the show. You were the star. Everybody's taking care of you. They're taking you to the trailer. They're putting your makeup. They're doing all this stuff. I mean, imagine if you're a child actor for 10 years and you're living in this fantasy land of everybody's just taking care of you. doing everything for you, everybody wants to be around you, you grow up in that. And then when that goes away, like people really struggle to make that transition because it feels like negative progress. So, you know, you blow up on the bachelor, you've got all this great stuff going on, it goes on for years, they bring you back, you're one of the most popular ones. Ben (32:16.896) Mm -hmm. Jeff Dudan (32:26.777) It's some, you know, you transition into a different life and a different, a different season in your life. And there's going to be the bends, you know, it's just, it's going to happen because most people make the mistake of thinking that the trend line always goes up into the right. And, you know, they just keep going. I mean, you know, why do people make a hundred million dollars and then they spend the rest of their life killing themselves trying to make 500 million. It's because they've got a. You know, they you can't self everybody's just got to keep climbing for that next that next mountaintop, which is fine, but done incorrectly. It'll kill you. I mean, it'll just it'll it'll like, oh, I, you know, I'm going backwards now and and which isn't generally true, but definitely you can feel that way. Well, very cool. Man, I'd love to. spend the rest of our time on Generous Coffee. I've been on the website. It's a purpose -based organization where profits are, it's a for -profit company that gives your profits to nonprofits. And I don't know the percentages or anything like that, but like that's the concept of it all. How did you first get involved with the coffee business? Ben (33:45.024) Well, it's actually interesting on base on what you're just saying about, you know, the trajectory up into the right. And like, what exactly does does that look like? I think there's some great ways that. We've tried to quantify what success looks like, and there is some very, you know, distinct ways, right? But some of the coolest people in my life are Franciscan monks who have never, you know, really made a dime and they're wise and they're peaceful and they're joy filled and they have a ton of time for others and they have crazy cool stories like, you know, There's a lot of markers of success is my point here. Generous Coffee: Building a Brand That Outlives You Jeff Dudan (34:17.337) Yeah, and they're 100 % good with it, probably better with it. Yes. Ben (34:20.736) They're content with it. They're happy. They're in it. So the story goes like this. So when I was 15 years old, I went to Central America for the first time with my local church and I saw deep seated poverty. So like, and this poverty was mostly coming from some type of corruption or injustice placed on these communities all around Central America. And so with this organization that I went with, It was me and a few of my buddies with our families. We went, we did this thing where we go into these communities and we passed out food boxes. We told people to come to church with us. Again, I want to say, you know, faith is a big part of my life. Church is a big part of my life. I'm very much in favor of healthy, good church relationships. So this, you know, comes with that dynamic. But we would say, here's a food box. You get this food box if you come to church tonight. Then they would come to church and we'd do this whole thing. And then next year we went back. The following year we went back to the same communities. and they were still very thirsty, very hungry. They didn't have jobs. They didn't have education. They didn't have any better infrastructure. Uh, and we did the same practice and I got pissed. I left and I was fired up. Uh, and I didn't know why I was like 16 years old. I couldn't really conceptualize why I was so mad, but I was like, this feels, uh, one, I feel a ton of guilt that I'm going back to my home to, um, I feel like what we just did was very purposeless. And I took a bunch of pictures with some poor people and came back home to tell my friends how, how cool I am, that feels very weird to me. And so I lived about three years of my life in this just like anger at a lot of things. And I didn't know it was like a righteous anger at the time. I thought I was really like losing myself in this. And finally, one day my buddy comes to me and he goes, hey, I know you've been mad about this for three years. You've been very outspoken about this. I got this idea. Jeff Dudan (35:48.857) Right. Right. Ben (36:14.4) What if instead of this transactional relationship with these people who've been hurting by injustice is placed on them. What if we go into these communities and we ask them, what do you need? What do you want? What do you dream of? And how can we help? And we let them guide us. So we come back to the US where obviously fundraising is a little easier. We can get some support, some rallies, some networks around us. Go back in and do it. let them lead us on, hey, if they want jobs for women, let's figure out what jobs their women can do and let's help them build these businesses. Or if they want clean water, let's help them pay for a clean water tank, right? But they're owning this thing. And we started the organization and it's awesome. I mean, it still exists today. It's great. It's not like super unfamiliar to new modern age missions work. Like the 80s, 90s, 2000s kind of like transactional come, do this and get saved kind of idea is no longer as popular as it was back then. So this whole kind of partnership idea is now common. People aren't shocked by this anymore. But it was new back then. The problem was we were all in our 20s and resources for donations were limited. We could only tap into our parents, grandparents and friends so often and our friends are all poor. So like Jeff Dudan (37:29.241) Yeah, and you gotta save them to sell them the Cutco knives. Ben (37:32.16) Yeah, exactly. Exactly. So we so went on the show, kind of fast forward, still involved in the organization, ended up joined the board of another nonprofit called Project Hope. Project Hope is one of the top 10 largest nonprofits right now in the U .S. So it's huge. So I'm on this dynamic where I'm on the board of a organization fighting to stay alive. And another one that's, you know, blessing endowments and doing massive, massive medical like hospitals. And so I came back, kind of had that moment where I talked about where I was like, this thing has to be for, I have to do something greater than myself, something that's not built on me. What if we started a business because I love business. I don't want to lose. I don't want to lose my touch on skill sets that, you know, helped me stay involved in business because I don't know how long this bachelor thing is going to go or how long my fame is going to pay for pay for me. So what if we start a business that's for profit? Uh, the executive team and the ownerships agree to never be repaid from it, to never take a salary from it. And then we donate 100 % of our profits to nonprofits so that we can become a sustainable fundraising source for those organizations that are doing great work, but just having a hard time figuring out where to tap into. And... So I said it, you know, to kind of go on what you're just saying. One of the cool things I found when we started generous. So to date we donated close to $200 ,000. We're sit seven years in. We're trying to grow our business. We're about 70 % wholesale kind of promo corporate gifting wholesale accounts and 30 % retail. But one of the cool things we found was as I, as we launched generous and I kind of ran it myself for two years, then all of a sudden we had these people. Like my co -owner now who was 30 years old the CEO of this huge insurance crop insurance company and He kind of goes at 40. He's like I'm kind of done. I don't know what to do next Right, but he's financially set perfect person right comes into generous whole new You know complex business to try to figure out and run but the benefits for him are not financial what they are is story and impact Ben (39:54.684) And the benefits of this is beautiful for him because he lived a lot of his life saying, I just need to make the next hundred million. I need to make the next hundred million. And all of a sudden that wasn't working for him anymore. And he didn't know where to turn. So now he turns to generous and he says, let's let's rock and roll here. Like, let's build something that is is creates a better story. So we're able to donate anywhere between 10 and 15 percent of our revenue. So outside of, you know, once we pay for everything else. larger volume years we can get to 15 % lower volume years we haven't dipped below 10 % yet. That's the numbers, the percentages of what is actually being able to be given. Jeff Dudan (40:33.145) And is it mostly online sales? Ben (40:35.904) Yeah, yeah, mostly online. I mean, we have some boutiques and like some some smaller box stores that sell generous. The problem with us is because of our donation model, we can't really get into the large retailers because of the margins that are already cut. But, you know, those smaller like local towns and homes and then are, you know, really here over the last year and a half, it has been more of the branded merch. Jeff Dudan (40:49.657) Right. How the Coffee Model Works: Profits, Partnerships, and Purpose Ben (41:02.752) partnerships that have really helped us, you know, take the next step. Jeff Dudan (41:06.553) Nice. And where's the roastery and where do you get the beans? Ben (41:10.656) We get the beans from all over. So that we're specialty grade coffee. So we get smaller lot coffee. So this coffee will be from anywhere from Africa to Mexico, South America, Central America, all over for beans. And then we roast in War Sandia in my hometown. In fact, in May, we have a building right now that's never been open to the public. So we bought this old warehouse, put a roaster in there. We have some offices from some of our employees. And. Jeff Dudan (41:19.257) Okay. Ben (41:38.496) We've always package shipped, done everything out of there. Well, we just bought a new building that will open in May that's going to be open to the public. It's going to have a little counseling center in there. It's going to have a place where people can hang out and, you know, drink coffee, not necessarily a coffee shop, but just more of a chill area where you can work from there. And then we'll roast in the back. And it's a super cool 1890s building that we've renovated over the last six months that I hope because. just becomes this kind of like really proud moment for the small community. And then also just a really good like kind of location for people to gather and connect. Jeff Dudan (42:16.313) My mind is going crazy with partnership opportunities for this business. And I know I have a friend who has a pretty big addiction related charity and I know they do lots of things and you know. Fundraisers things for people to do things for people to sell things for people to package. I don't know. I don't know where you are. I was on the website. I saw you had a lot of partners partnerships and affiliations, but I really wasn't able to discern what each one did or what they meant. Uh, have you explored that with generous to say, Hey, let's, let's partner up with another, you know, maybe a nonprofit and then be able to further the brand and further the agenda that way. Ben (42:57.6) Yeah, so just for anybody listening out there that maybe is curious about how they could work with generous if you're interested, I would love to kind of explain how we're set up. So right now our partnerships come through a program that we call highlight hope. So if you get on our website, you'll see these highlight hope bags, which is probably what you're talking about. And every quarter we pick four new nonprofits and these nonprofits then design their own bag. So these these bags that you'll see. are designed by the nonprofit. It tells their story on the back. There's a QR code at the bottom that links to their website. And then it's our retail back. So it's what you would buy if you got on a website and subscribe to Generous Coffee. If you went to a store and bought Generous Coffee, these would be the bags that Generous are selling right now that we're known for. And then when you buy a bag, you're kind of voting with your dollar. And so you can just to be, you know, Uh, conservative here, you could know that 10 % of your purchase of that bag is going to go directly to the nonprofit that you chose. So you can choose what nonprofit you want. So it's kind of, you know, if a nonprofit sells a hundred thousand bags of coffee in that quarter, well, that's a lot of money going their way, right? If they only sell 25, 500 bags of coffee that quarter, not as much money going their way, but they get to kind of use that then for their fundraising. They get to go out and buy it at wholesale and go resell it, you know, in their shops or whatever with corporations. Um, Jeff Dudan (44:06.169) Sure. Ben (44:20.512) It's really cool. So like we just did a program with Capital One, where Capital One put us in their headquarters for a month's period of time. And then one of their employees actually helped is helping run this organization out of Haiti that you would see in our highlight hope campaign. And they bought this coffee and then we designed kind of a storytelling around it. It was like, hey, buy the purchase of Capital One. This money is going to be going to this organization. And so there's some employee engagement in there. And there's also some employee satisfaction where like my company cares about getting back even down to the, you know, cup of coffee we drink. And then also finally we do co -labeling and white labeling. So if like, uh, you'd see on our website right now, like Brian Peterson, realty out of Warsaw, right? Every time somebody buys a new house, he has his own bag. Generous isn't even mentioned on it. We package, we ship it. He gives it to his new, uh, purchasers. Jeff Dudan (45:13.401) Nice. Ben (45:16.512) But then on the back end, there's still money being donated because he's buying the coffee from us. So there's a bunch of different ways that we try to give back and that we partner with nonprofits to try to highlight what they're doing. We've just found it more successful recently to do it through maybe the more for -profit space where for -profit businesses or churches are saying, hey, we're serving 3 ,000 cups of coffee a day. Might as well buy your coffee. Then we can give it to this organization. Jeff Dudan (45:39.257) That's right. Yeah. Sustainability, packaging and all of that. When I looked on the website, stuff looks sustainable. Obviously the branding is done extremely well. Is that also part of it or is it just, I mean, is there any sustainable options? And here's the reason I ask. So my daughter's got an internship with a big firm in New York, one of the biggest. accounting, investment, consulting, whatever. And they have a Starbucks in their space in New York that's free to the employees. Okay, well, what if that were a generous coffee thing? And that's more work, it's outside the model, somebody's gotta pay for all that. But companies have these sustainability goals. And certainly from the optics perspective. You know, so I mean, you know, that's that's logistics. That's all of that. I mean, Starbucks does a really nice job with, you know, they they I think they're going to be very successful one day. Let me just put it that way. But one day they'll they'll finally get it right as I as I sit here with my my Trenta that I'm pouring into my speakable future mug. But. Impact Over Optics: Focusing on People, Not Packaging Ben (46:50.208) One day they're going to figure it out. Ben (46:58.688) Yeah. Jeff Dudan (47:03.361) Now, just because my New Year's resolution was two cups of coffee a day. So that's one. I only count that as one. I was like 20, dude. So now I get 230 ounces. Ben (47:08.64) is yet up or down from where you were at. of this. You need to be generous. You'd be our biggest purchaser at this point. Yeah, we you know, we're actually we're doing this really cool thing right now. We're doing them in high schools. So we're launching coffee shops, cafes and high schools where the students are going to run this business. We're going to provide them, obviously, with the stuff they need, but then they get to kind of do this, run the shop, figure out the books. Jeff Dudan (47:16.857) Well, I'm going to as soon as I get, oh jeez. Yeah. Jeff Dudan (47:31.905) Okay. Ben (47:42.048) pay their teams, order all their essentials, make sure their quality is good. I think it's, I actually, I didn't even think about this five years ago, but this is one of the coolest things to me is the idea that in high school I could have been working and running my own business and learning that whole thing. I think it's such an incredible education. I think it also is gonna get so many unique people really fired up about going to school. Jeff Dudan (48:00.185) Right. Ben (48:11.68) Like, oh, I got to show up to school, you know, an hour early today because I got a package, you know, this coffee because it's going out to our teachers. Coffee shops are hard. We've entered into a few of them. I would love to get back into them given the right circumstance. You asked about sustainability. There is sustainability options. So like our brown bags obviously are recyclable. Our bags right now that we saw on retail aren't exactly. Probably I couldn't brag and be like, yes, these are the. Jeff Dudan (48:13.975) Yeah. Ben (48:41.504) the healthiest thing for the environment. But one of the interesting pieces to generous that, you we get asked and I hope more and more from other for -profit businesses, kind of how did you design your give back model or, hey, we have this ESG program in our business and these are our goals. Can generous fit in to help us meet some of those or how would you speak into some of these? I always, my only, my number one, not my only advice, my biggest advice is to pick a lane. Jeff Dudan (48:57.559) Mm -hmm. Jeff Dudan (49:03.321) That's right. Ben (49:10.528) And so our lane is humans. It's what broke my heart first. It's what breaks our team's heart. Like when humans are facing injustice, be whatever that is, right? If it's human trafficking, if it's poverty, if it's lack of things, that's what our team fired up about. And so we've chosen humans as our lane. We love animals. We love the environment. My dog's laying at my feet right now. But we're solely focused on what can we do as a business right now with our capacity. to give as much back to the humans who need it. And then, you know, with scale with kind of greater visions with more resources, I'm excited to always look into the future. But right now we're still a small business and we're still trying to do what we can to make ourselves sustainable so that we can, you know, grow into the future. The Future of Generous: Schools, Storytelling, and Shared Impact Jeff Dudan (50:00.633) Well, well done. Great future for Generous Coffee. Love the brand, love the name. You know, I'm a franchise guy, like that's what I do. So, you know, I'm thinking, well, how can I put a double -sided driveway around a little thing? But, you know, I don't think franchise owners would give away all their profit. I think it would be a, you know, if I can connect that dot, man, I'll call you back. But I don't know, we, we, uh. Ben (50:05.28) Thank you. Ben (50:12.576) Do it. I'd love to. That's a tough sell. It's a tough sell. Ben (50:25.792) But if there's anybody out there listening that you know is has their own business or you know wants to do is for gifting or to provide in their offices like I would be not doing my job well if I said please don't reach out to generous I would love to figure out great ways to do it because that's what we're about and it's been fun for us so yeah anybody's interested let me know. GenerousCoffee .com Jeff Dudan (50:34.745) Yeah. Jeff Dudan (50:51.971) All right. Generouscoffee .com. Ben, last question. If you had one sentence to speak into, speak your experience into somebody else's life, what would that be? Final Message from Ben Higgins: A Life of Generosity Ben (51:07.162) Live every day that you give more than you take. Jeff Dudan (51:11.449) I love it. Perfectly said. We'll end on that. How can people get in touch with you other than GenerousCoffee .com? Where would you direct them to get your attention and connect with you? Ben (51:24.24) Higgins .Ben on Instagram is where I stayed most active. And then I do have a website that updates kind of what I'm up to or speaking engagements. It's a very narcissistic website called TheBenHiggins .com because BenHiggins .com was taken. So it's TheBenHiggins .com and you can kind of get updates on business life or kind of what's going on through that too. Jeff Dudan (51:48.057) Yeah, I actually own benhiggins .com. I squat on domains. So if you'd like it, we can talk after the show. But anyway, hey man, Ben, it's been incredible to have you on. Really appreciate your perspective. Enjoyed the conversation very much. All right, and this has been the Homefront with Jeff Duden. We've had Ben Higgins on here. And thanks, everybody, for listening. Ben (51:49.984) Yeah, I'm gonna check about. Ben (51:55.136) Appreciate it, man. Ben (52:03.104) Hey, thanks for having me. This was great. Ben (52:13.344) Jeff.
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Brief Summary On this special episode of On The Homefront, Jeff Dudan sits down with Sam Hartman —former Notre Dame and Wake Forest quarterback and the ACC’s all-time passing touchdown leader—just days before the NFL draft. The conversation covers everything from childhood setbacks and locker room brotherhood to mental health, NIL reality, and the deeper purpose behind the game of football. Sam opens up about resilience, loss, growth, and what it really takes to lead both on and off the field. Key Takeaways Run your own race : Sam emphasizes staying focused on your own growth instead of comparing to others, especially in today’s social media age. Football is family : The true value of sports is found in brotherhood, shared suffering, and lifelong memories—not stats or headlines. Mental health matters : Sam advocates for performance therapy and emotional awareness for athletes, especially young men. NIL myths : He debunks the idea that most players are getting rich from NIL, sharing the reality of handshake deals and humble earnings. Leadership through self-awareness : The best leaders don’t need to be loud—they need to be observant, consistent, and serve others first. Faith and perspective : Sam recalls formative spiritual moments from childhood that gave him clarity and purpose through life’s hardest moments. Featured Quote “I think the number one thing I’ve learned—from five years old to now—is run your own race.” TRANCRIPT Who Is Sam Hartman? ACC’s All-Time Touchdown Leader Shares His Story Jeff Dudan (00:00) Okay. Welcome everybody. This is Jeff Dudan, and we are on the Homefront today with the phenomenal Sam Hartman. Welcome, Sam. Sam Hartman (00:08) Appreciate you having me. It’s been a while since we’ve talked, and especially not in this setting, but I’m excited to be here. Jeff Dudan (00:15) I’m excited about today, Sam, because anytime we spend time together, I leave inspired, educated, and entertained. We just spent some time together at Donald Miller’s house in Nashville — the great business coach and consultant behind Building a StoryBrand. You were gracious enough to invite me to that mastermind, and I was thankful to be there. So I just can’t get enough of you, Sam. NFL Draft Prep and Dockside Dreams: Sam Hartman on What Comes Next Jeff Dudan (01:01) Let’s start from the beginning. For people who don’t know you — who is Sam Hartman? Sam Hartman (01:09) Probably the kid rolling in the grass at that YMCA t-ball field. I’ve been playing football since I was five, probably throwing a football since I was three. This journey has been filled with great people — teammates, coaches, family. It’s been about resilience, experience, and determination. Jeff Dudan (03:01) I remember that. My son Zach and your brother Joe played together. You were just a little guy running around on the sidelines. It’s incredible how far you’ve come. Sam Hartman (03:21) Yeah, Zach and your family have played a pivotal role in my life. It’s full circle to be sitting here today. The key words for me are resilience — through injuries and setbacks. Experience — six years of college football. And determination — just that drive to never quit. Jeff Dudan (05:17) You were always playing up — with older kids. And you never backed down. That shaped a lot of your grit. Let’s talk about what sports gives kids, especially those who won’t play in the NFL. I Wanted to Quit Football: The Moment Sam Almost Walked Away Sam Hartman (06:01) Yeah. Social media has created a flashy, showy version of sports. But the heart of it is the team. Being around people you have nothing in common with, but who become your brothers. Honestly — I almost quit football. I was fourth string as a freshman. I was about to walk into the coach’s office and quit. Zach stopped me, took me to Cookout, and convinced me to stay. That changed everything. Jeff Dudan (10:22) That’s incredible. Zach didn’t even want to play quarterback, but he stepped in. He knew the chair was warm for you, and that story is just amazing. Sam Hartman (10:50) Yeah — and he came back to help win that state championship. We both played in that game. I’ll never forget that. Jeff Dudan (12:53) So many kids today are chasing highlights, not memories. Sports are becoming ultra-specialized. Kids are transferring schools at 11 years old. It’s tough out there for the ones who just want to play and be part of something. What Football Means to Me: Brotherhood, Adversity, and the Huddle Sam Hartman (14:05) Exactly. My advice: Run your own race. Don’t compare. Don’t worry about who's getting the offers. What can you do today to get better? That applies at 7, 17, or 57. The Blood Clot That Almost Ended It: Sam’s Rib Removal Surgery Before Senior Year Jeff Dudan (19:21) Deion Sanders said it best at our IFA conference: Be where your feet are. You had a huge adversity moment with that blood clot — they removed your rib. Right before your senior season. What got you through it? Sam Hartman (20:30) It was my teammates. Being around the team, hearing the horn, smelling the grass — that’s what I missed. That’s what drove me. I had a yelling match with the surgeon because I had to come back faster. Not to throw touchdowns, but just to be in the huddle. Jeff Dudan (23:27) Let’s talk about mental health and parenting. Kids feel more isolated than ever. If you could give parents one piece of advice for raising teenage athletes, what would it be? Sam Hartman (24:00) Success isn’t touchdowns or money — it’s being present. Living in the moment. Parents need to celebrate their kids’ effort — not just their results. Jeff Dudan (27:22) That’s powerful. I’ve come to appreciate unique ability. Every kid has something that lights them up — our job is to find it and support it. You had great parents. I’ll never forget the sleepover story where you showed up to the basketball game with marker all over your face. Sam Hartman (31:13) Mark Cagno... that sleepover was legendary. He needs to be your next guest. Jeff Dudan (32:19) Now let’s get serious — NIL. You’ve lived in both worlds: pre-NIL and during. What was that like? Sam Hartman (32:35) NIL changed everything. I saw both sides — Wake Forest was the “pure” side. Notre Dame was more business. But people assume I made millions — I didn’t. There was no guaranteed money. No contract. Just handshake deals. Jeff Dudan (35:11) People don’t realize how many college athletes couldn’t afford to go home in the summer. NIL has helped that. But it’s not the golden goose people think it is. Sam Hartman (38:35) Exactly. Most deals are small. And now, with NIL and the transfer portal, it’s just a different game. But I chose Notre Dame because of football. Everything else was gravy. Jeff Dudan (39:48) You were already the all-time ACC touchdown leader — and you chose to have one more great experience. What was it like walking into the Notre Dame locker room? Sam Hartman (41:02) Joe Montana was outside the locker room. Brady Quinn called me. We had mass at the Basilica. It was movie-level stuff. But the best part? Still the team. Jeff Dudan (45:01) Now you're heading into the NFL. You’ve got endorsements, exposure, and distractions. But you’ve always been focused. How are you staying grounded? Sam Hartman (45:14) Self-awareness. That’s the key. I don’t take every deal. I think about how it affects the team. I share my perks with the O-line. If you’re not a servant leader, you’re not a leader. Jeff Dudan (50:00) That level of awareness — understanding cadence and tempo — that’s leadership. Sam Hartman (52:04) It's all perspective. I remember sitting in the locker room at an App State game as a kid. Two players reached out their hands during the Lord’s Prayer. That moment — that energy — it changed everything for me. Jeff Dudan (56:02) I remember that. Coach Moore welcomed everyone into the locker room. The energy was electric. Full circle moment. Sam Hartman (59:04) Now, I’m about to report to camp. I don’t know where I’ll be in ten days. But wherever I go, I’m going to figure out where I fit, how to be an asset, and how to serve the team. Jeff Dudan (1:03:02) You’ve always been a locker room guy. A leader. You learned how to adapt, whether at Wake or Notre Dame. Sam Hartman (1:05:05) Now it’s about doing the right thing — in the locker room, in the community, in the endorsements. People are watching. But most of all, I’ve got to get my playbook and get to work. Jeff Dudan (1:08:13) One last question, Sam. If you had one sentence to speak into someone’s life and make an impact, what would it be? Sam Hartman (1:08:42) “I’m proud of you.” Jeff Dudan (1:08:48) That’s perfect. Thanks for being with us on the Homefront. We’ll be cheering for you every step of the way. u give to a 13:52 young person who finds themselves you know not really sure that they want to make a career of this but yet they're 13:59 they they want to be a part of it right no I mean I I I understand the want and the and I would say it's definitely What Football Means To Sam 14:05 worth it um yeah I mean like I think for me I like you said like when I was young 14:11 right like everybody there's always the kids that just kind of stand out you're like oh that kid's going to he'll be fine and then you yeah when you kind of 14:18 when I would play I'd look and be like oh that kid's really good and then in three to four years you kind of realized 14:23 like I've caught that kid and passed that kid and for me it was always so interesting and I think like you hit it 14:28 on the had was I played up and so I always felt like I was good enough to be there but there was always those kids 14:34 that were way better than me more mature and yeah they had that little Edge on me and so it always I always was chasing 14:40 that and I always was trying to get better but like I showed up to high school like a as a freshman like 120 lbs 14:46 5'8 right and I think in in that instance and then now in this instance 14:53 where I'm showing up to the combine and I'm 61 210 lbs and you got guys like Drake May or you got guys you know that 15:00 are just these Monsters of human beings and you're like wait a second and you start looking and I think the number one 15:06 thing throughout this entire process that I've learned and it I if you could apply if I could have applied it to 15:11 myself when I was 5 years old and I can still apply it when I'm 24 is to run your own race because I think like it's 15:18 so easy like you said to get caught in the social media thing of oh like look 15:24 this kid this kid's in eighth grade and you just got an offer this kid's in you know there's a fifth grader who's you know 61 200 lb like I promise you that 15:31 kid who's 61 in fifth grade he's going to be 6'1 in when he's at my age like all those things are going to and 15:38 there's going to be a kid who's 61 and then he becomes 7 foot and he's going to be the best player you've ever seen but it's all it's all like right here right 15:46 it's like the horse running the race right why do they have blinders on so they don't get distracted by the other Racers yeah and like that whole process 15:52 especially at the combine level is right you're seeing you know these top five quarterbacks all you do you turn on ESPN 15:58 right now who are they talking about not me they're talking about everybody else and it's like how easy it can be to just 16:03 say oh shoot what's he what's he doing what's he doing and there's so many instances throughout my entire life like 16:09 even like as a freshman I'm like well Zach's a starting quarterback what am I what am I doing wrong not why am I not 16:16 why what do I what can I do to get better it was always what's he doing what's that person why is this coach not like me why does this not what what am I 16:23 doing right now to make myself the best I can be so when that opportunity comes whether it's on you know your Superstar 16:28 TR team or it's your local Rec team it's what am I doing with my feet in the ground right now at this point and that 16:36 applies to the 7-year-old 15year old 21y old 24y old 16:43 50y old who's working at this job and is worried about what his cooworker is getting accomplished and not what he's 16:48 trying to do at that moment and it for me is every time a coach like how's this process been it's about running your own 16:54 race not looking over your shoulder not you know why am I not getting talk to you why am I not taking a 30 visit yeah 17:01 what am I doing to get better today and it was something my dad used to say all the time and it's so cliche and I hate 17:07 it and I hated it but it was like have you gotten bigger faster stronger today and you can apply that to anything yeah 17:12 have you gotten smarter have you gotten you know thinner whatever you want to be whatever you want to do it's are you 17:17 doing that and everything else you know you can you can't control and you looked 17:22 at me when you said thinner but so that being said and I will you mentioned it 17:28 again um to put the bow on it um you and Zach had been good friends before that 17:35 um he's in this role uh that you know he was asked to do he did it to the best of 17:40 his ability he knew he was keeping the chair warm for you but to finish that story you both you went on I think it 17:47 was you were maybe 12 and one that year you won the state championship and you both played in the state championship 17:53 game yeah incredible together incredible I I think I threw one completion and one pick I was really excited well you know 17:59 the the the pretty girl came up to me after the game wanted a picture I felt like I was walking on water so it was 18:05 good it was good yeah um awesome what's interesting about what you just shared 18:11 was that there's 10 million young athletes and uh uh 30 million young 18:18 ladies uh you know looking at you and saying man I would I would give anything to be in that position right I'd be be 18:25 anything to be uh all over the media great social media following uh people 18:30 you know almost almost making fun of you during the combine for how good-looking you are and what a good athlete you look 18:36 like and all of this stuff but uh they would think that you have it all but yet 18:41 you still have to check yourself from being envious of other people and envy I 18:47 have found is the enemy of Enlightenment when you can literally do run your own race and you stop being envious because 18:54 you can look at it in business there's always somebody that's uh you know I used to look at it and say oh man 18:59 they're doing really well how old are they and how like how do they get there faster um you know how much how much do 19:05 they have how how big is their business and man it just it is it's Kryptonite 19:10 it's poison uh to do that you got to just be comfortable you know Liv in the 19:15 moment uh and you know Deion Sanders was our speaker at our IFA uh conference The Blood Clot: Having a Rib Removed 19:21 this year and one of the things he said that people really resonated with was be where your feet are be in the moment be 19:29 present you mentioned adversity you've had uh quite a few things surgeries uh 19:36 before uh was it your senior season at Wake Forest with your rib yeah yeah and 19:42 uh so you're you're in Camp and you're um you had had uh surgery on your neck 19:48 before yeah I have the nice nice scar right here from a thyroid procedure when I was like 17 just born with it rare 19:55 defect yeah won the lottery with that one so it was like I'm a case study still I still get text for both events 20:02 like hey can we where you can we use your evidence to you know show it at a a 20:07 medical conference really oh yeah fascinating and then you uh you get a 20:13 blood clot and they end up having to remove your upper rib and this is all 20:18 right before your senior season which is your set up for incredible success right 20:24 what did you tell yourself during that time to keep your head the right place 20:30 yeah I mean honestly it wasn't anything too special like I you know you'd love to have this like moment where I you 20:36 know looked in the mirror and said you know at had I lost all this weight and you know looking at the scar and I can't 20:42 raise my left arm above you know right whatever and it's probably good it was your left side exactly it probably 20:47 wouldn't be wouldn't be here if that was the other way around not going what there um but I I think again it was the 20:53 teammates like I think I never forget the first practice I went to after I got hurt or it was really after I I had 20:59 gotten the blood clot removed and so I was kind of in line to get the rib removed and they wanted to kind of clean 21:04 out the blood clot and I get to go to I get to go to practice I'm feeling fine like it was just a weird I had this huge 21:10 wrap on my arm and whatever and I show up and I'm like I'm like okay like it kind of you remember it right that 21:16 feeling like you hear the the horn yeah right everyone kind of SM the smell there's the grass smell of the grass the 21:22 smell of the turf right and you're like the pads you're like Okay and like it was the first day of full pads too yeah 21:28 it's Camp right there's a lot of pimped up Anger from Spring ball things are going and I'm like wait a second why am 21:34 I not doing this and then that never forget that first team when they go ones ones and ones like team and I'm just 21:41 like tears cuz I'm like that's my job that's mine that's it's that's my 21:47 Ferrari right that's the car that's my you know Fast and Furious that's my you know buildup and you're running you're 21:53 racing that quarter mile in my car and I like and I'll never forget like I hated the the the feeling of not being out 22:01 there so much that that was what drove me to push the rehab and fight the talk 22:07 I got in a yelling match with this like sixy old seveny old lady the doc Dr 22:13 Julie frag who's you know vernacular surgeon known around the world I'm in a screaming match with her about how I can 22:19 I can come back faster than what you're telling me cuz I'm like this there is there is no right you tear your rotator 22:24 cuff there's a six to seven what those weeks or months that you're out right for for this this is like we don't know 22:30 like we've never done it before you no one ever come people are coming back to go live 9 to5 not go play the one of the 22:37 most physical Sports and um and known to man and I'm like well yeah but I feel fine and I'm like little they know I 22:44 can't move my I have no I still don't have feeling on the back of my arm from the nerve damage and it was all these 22:49 things and I'm like but the number one thing was getting back on the field not to go throw the touchdown it was just to 22:54 be around the camaraderie right like the Huddle that is kind of and a probably a 23:00 you know grand scheme of life is the Huddle is kind of dismembering in a sense if we want to go on a real deep 23:05 dive of football at this point especially college football but that huddle aspect I was like that's my spot 23:13 right if I'm on a chest like I'm I'm on that chess board and now I'm off I'm off the sideline and so that was some that 23:21 was the number one motivator for me got it as a society we've never been more 23:27 connected than we are right now and at the same time people have never felt more alone there's more depression Parenting an Athlete 23:34 there's more anxiety there's more mental illness there's more suicide there's there's all of these things um that are 23:41 on the rise and people are trying to get a handle on why if you were to give some 23:47 advice to parents about what their kids need to hear from them in their teenage years what would that be yeah I mean I I 23:54 think obviously that's a pivotal point for a lot of kids and like I can speak to m athletes in a sense and I you know you 24:00 can speak to all but I would specifically say male athletes that are you know trying to reach that next level 24:06 whether it's yep whether it's the next level is you know starting on your high school team or playing in college or 24:11 whatever it is right that's a stressful time I I think there's such a 24:17 misconstruction of how to look at success okay and I and I like I talked 24:23 to it I literally talked to my therapist yesterday I got this new performance coach who's incredible and um we're just 24:29 g i I was in it with another lady and I love she was great and I kind of stopped doing her stopped with her and then 24:35 started moving on to another performance coach and um just breaking down the constructs of what reality is and at 24 24:43 years old you're I feel like I'm so behind the eightball but I obviously hopefully have a lot more time to um 24:48 really dive into but just the years of and what when what ways you behind oh I mean I just think like if I could do 24:55 this if there was a class in Middle School teaching me how to struct failure success and everything in between would 25:01 be the society as a whole would be light years ahead I think especially men and I think you you wouldn't be able to do it 25:08 at in eth grade I think maybe as a junior in high school instead of a sex ed class there should be or there 25:13 probably should be a sex class but a mental health and performance aspect because it's not even mental health it's 25:19 just performance and it's not performance as a football player it's performance as a human as a husband as a 25:25 father all those different things I think you can it's like a muscle you can grow and 25:31 strengthen okay and I think to not go way off track but for a kid right he's 25:38 going to as a teenager you think success is money you think it's girls you think it's throwing touchdowns you think it's 25:44 starting I would say success is living in the present moment being at where 25:49 your feet are at winning the moment right we call all those different things that's going to be what makes the rest 25:57 of your life successful because right I can sit here and remember the times when all I was thinking about was the um 26:04 Senior Bowl while I was training how is that helping me when I'm 26:09 not thinking about okay I got to get my feet underneath me right pun intended in 26:15 this moment and make this throw while I'm still thinking oh what if like I miss a call at the Senior Bowl right and 26:22 then you can I now let's put it into the high school terms or the middle school terms it's like I'm an eighth grade 26:27 quarterback I want to be the St as a freshman I'm out training this offseason getting ready to go to my freshman year 26:32 and all I'm thinking about is oh man like what if you know the coach you know it's too hard I don't understand it when 26:38 you're not focused on the moment you're in right now and for the parent right it's like okay well that sounds great 26:44 that'd be great I'd love to just manipulate my kid I think it's the belief in them and it's the belief not 26:50 that I love you and you're my favorite because you're the starting quarterback as a freshman it's because you're 26:56 working your butt off for me you're not you're working your butt off to get to that goal and I'm proud of you for doing 27:02 that whether you're the starter whether you're the four string whether you're the water boy I love you for your intensity and I 27:08 love for your intentionality of what you're trying to accomplish and what you're trying to do and anything after that is that's not success that or 27:15 that's not the find of my relationship with you yeah I've come to appreciate um 27:22 the concept of unique ability and everybody regardless of what they do if 27:27 they're a teacher if they're an artist if they're uh a videographer you know uh 27:32 the people we've got working here with us today everybody has uh unique abilities that need to be appreciated 27:39 and I think parents can do well to identify really what makes those those 27:46 kids light up and then to unconditionally support them in those things and then there's also getting 27:52 them tools paying paying enough attention being situationally aware enough to say you know what 27:59 um you know it this might not be what they're good at but you know I see that they've got these Tendencies let me put 28:05 them in this and let me give him exposure to several different things and just see where it clicks for him it's 28:11 kind of the same way with uh Jack you know my youngest and you know he we played football for seven years you know 28:19 it's good um but you know never you know never asked me to you know put him in a 28:24 camp or anything like that uh but then when he found lacrosse it was something that he really liked uh it was you know 28:31 a lot of the contact of football and a lot of good skills a lot of speed and 28:36 stuff size didn't matter matter quite as much and then you get to hit people with sticks ex which You Know Jack that's fun 28:44 so um uh so finding people's unique ability and uh supporting inside of that 28:50 and I know you've had incredibly uh support of parents marking l so we've been friends really since that day I 28:56 mean I think we started doing travel baseball together at 7 and you know it just went right on through which leads 29:03 me to a story and I don't know if you remember this but um there was a uh it 29:09 was during basketball season and I don't know if we were in steuarts of the game I think I something like this and you 29:17 know we there was uh it was somebody's birthday maybe y I know exactly it's a good one and we had a sleepover at my 29:25 house y right and yeah you know I'm I'm big about autonomy right let the let the 29:32 let the big dogs hunt you know let them do what they want to do so I went to bed 29:38 uh and we had what an 8: a.m. game or something like that yeah cuz we already we already lost every game the night the 29:44 day before so we had like an 8: a.m. game and uh you guys I think stayed up till 5:00 a.m. for sure or something 29:51 like that so I Rouse you guys out and I you know put your put your jerseys on you and I take you in and your father's 29:59 there and you kids showed up you had bags under your eyes and we all swollen 30:04 all pale you could barely talk uh you're warming up um one of the kids Mark had 30:11 his hair straight up and then you he had fell asleep first of course he had markers all over his face and uh and of 30:17 course I'm just walking in like here they are and your dad he was so I don't think you talked to me for uh for got 30:24 month but um and but the comment was is you know do you want to be sleepover kids or do you want to be do you want to 30:31 be athletes and um there's a lot of Truth to that uh I know that you guys 30:36 did um uh one of the things you guys did was which I really really applaud was you guys did you and Joe did 60 Minutes 30:44 of uh activity every day and it didn't matter what it was you could go down in the batting cage you could throw you 30:49 could catch you could do whatever it is 60 Minutes is a is a yeah that was let's bump that number up so 60 minutes but 30:56 like it's like it's a you have a 60-minute practice on a Thursday you know before your big practice it goes 31:02 two and a half hours that's right okay well and you're late to your 10: a.m. yeah like go so um so I don't know I 31:07 think I think you've done pretty good for a sleepover kit yeah holy cow I just I just imagine like just the fly on the 31:13 wall cuz like I'm sure the other team looked like that too dude you guys were throwing the basketball at the bottom of 31:19 the rim like you couldn't even I mean it was it was the oh my goodness I can 31:24 remember like I remember you remember cag's face with the marker on it all swollen yeah oh man that's awesome oh 31:32 well you know but um I'll tell you what uh there's a book there's a book out there called uh the 2 a. principal and 31:39 it says all great stories uh start after 2 a.m. I don't endorse that I don't think that's true I don't think anything 31:44 good happens after that but you know it was some good that's some com I mean the mark cagno like 31:52 sleepover I'm just I have so many great like memories of him like the chapstick 31:58 story at my h house in Lake Norman is just Infamous with Mark Mark cagno I feel like he should be the next guest 32:04 like I just what is he doing I don't uh I think he's living in New York and uh doing something in finance yeah there 32:11 you go kly that's awesome yeah makes sense so um moving on to 32:19 college and now especially for high-profile positions it's a business NIL 32:24 oh yeah how are you dealing with that or how did you it's different now did so 32:30 how did you deal because Nils happened right when you were in school yeah so 32:35 how did you deal with that yeah I mean I think um it was cool because I got both worlds I think I got the pureness you 32:41 know in 2018 and 2019 then kind of as everybody's world did it got flipped on its head during Co and 2020 um but I 32:49 mean I I I think the the great thing for me was I saw the game at for what it was 32:55 at the beginning 2018 2019 of It's A Team game it's selflessness we're at Wake Forest where when the nil stuff did 33:02 start coming we're like yeah but that's not us like that's everybody else right we're Ohio State yeah we're not touching 33:09 that and um as as it progressed right you could see that you know the there 33:14 were guys on the team where the wheels were turning and and you know the the money is kind of coming and going and it 33:20 was kind of you know a a miniature NFL idea of like yeah hey like what if I 33:25 could get this deal hey what if you know this guy just made a million dollars like I can make a million dollars it's like no no you can't and I think that's 33:32 the misconception of this whole reality is like there is a 5 to 10% of college 33:38 football and that's a that's probably an overestimation that are generous that's right making that money and then there's 33:44 the rest that are making a $500 deal a $300 deal hey you get free food for a 33:50 week or right like all of that stuff one in the grand schemes if you are serious 33:55 about the game and serious about going to play at the next like the NFL like that money's chump change in comparison to what you you could but there's also 34:03 the great side of it where kids are able to pay you know to to fly home instead of hey you get a $2,000 stien like yeah 34:10 you got to save that for food hey maybe you're making 10 grand now and you can fly your your family out for you know a 34:16 a game or the you can fly home for the weekend like those things are incredible like I that was something that being 34:22 able to be around guys and seeing that was so nice you we had kids that with Notre Dame you had such a Outreach of 34:28 you know kids were from Hawaii so it's like their they're able to fly their whole family out all those things are 34:34 that's that's what I think nil is meant to be for right to help compensate the guys for not being able to go you know 34:41 work get a job all those things and the money they bring in um look when we were in school people we had a Fieldhouse 34:48 that had an equipment room and people lived in there oh yeah over the summer because they wanted to stay there and 34:53 work out and there was a month they couldn't afford to fly I mean we had kids from all over the country they 34:59 couldn't afford to fly home they didn't have money for an apartment the scholarship was going to pick up when they were going to get to move back in 35:05 the dorm they had a gap for two weeks and they' sting and live in the in the equipment room in the Fieldhouse yeah no 35:11 it's it's so unnecessary and then they go out and you know sell 50,000 tickets on the weekend exactly and that's 35:18 they're making a million dollars and like you know a million dollars in concessions and that's without ticket sales it's without owns so there is 35:24 obviously there was a need for it there's a great the great things there's the bad things and then it becomes the business side of it yeah because the 35:32 cool thing one being at wake and then going to another Dame is you you kind of see both sides of the spectrum where you 35:38 see a Wake Forest team that struggled this year and partially it was retention and Coach Clon has said it right there's 35:45 the the retention of players that you normally on a on a normal no nil you you 35:50 keep or they go to the NFL and now they're out on other teams and in my 35:55 case I have to play them and so yeah um that part of it you see and then you go to Notre Dame and you see the the 36:02 benefits of it where you get to bring people in and you get to create kind of these teams that have you know Talent 36:07 from all over and they're older and developed and um but then you also see it where it's like these kids are 36:12 bouncing from school to school to school to chase this offer to chase this deal and it's like hey you can do all this 36:20 but then like what happens when you stop performing like is it going to become something where hey you stop performing 36:26 I'm going to take that money back and you're cut like the NFL right cuz then you're cut from the team you're out of 36:31 the organization you don't have a college degree because you've transferred three times right and you're you your money yeah maybe you made 36:38 $100,000 that's going to last you how long and like all those different things 36:44 are what you have to start realizing as this thing progress more and more is like you said it's a business are are 36:50 you going to become an employee you're going to get health benefits are you going to get like yeah are can you get cut like a coach can get fired yeah like 36:58 all those things right and that's great because you learn early right like that 37:03 okay now that when I go into the real world like these things are implications like taxes like I'm getting hammered on 37:08 taxes right now cuz I don't have any assets I need to buy stuff yeah not like shoes and stuff like this but like real 37:15 estate but um all those things was like something like you asked was just like that's the part of the business and it 37:22 was okay the reason for Trans Notre Dame wasn't for me I think Comes This 37:27 misconception of oh all this money that he got oh you know the nil you know he 37:33 wanted the deals I'm like I wish I I won't say the number but the number was nowhere close to anything that everyone 37:39 has estimated like the number that they put up there it was nowhere close I had no guarantee of money like they was say 37:46 hey we're going to get you to this number but there was no signed papers there was no nothing okay there was no so it's a handshake deal it was a 37:52 handshake deal and the money comes from boosters so the money is like there's a collective that they create and then we 37:57 do like a Notre Dame it's really cool you get to you go do like charity work and I got hooked up with um the Ronald 38:03 McDonald House in mwaka and there's obviously Ron McDonald houses all over the world or the country and so I still 38:10 do stuff with them like I did um when I went I went to the Super Bowl and did a stuff with Turbo Tax and they donated 38:17 portions Beats by Dre donated headphones to the kids and during my pro day I had to go back and you know give out to the 38:23 kids in the hospital and it so like there's that side of it too can donate money to the Charities and do all this 38:30 stuff but that's how Notre Dame ran it but it was all this like talk of that and then like when things go south we're 38:35 like oh the fans are like oh they we brought in this kid and we're paying him a million doll I'm like no you weren't I promise you that you weren't if I was 38:42 making a million dollars trust me you would know I'd be driving around in a Mercedes I'd be driving around a 38:47 Lamborghini I'm not smart with that stuff I would have bought something sick you would have known I'd have been private jetting in and out of there like 38:53 I promise you my mom knows she she sees my bank statements there spend money but 38:59 it was for the the game aspect of it yeah and I think that that as you say 39:05 it's a business to me I still see football as the game I play and love since when I was 5 years old and I'm 39:10 playing now but it was just another opportunity because as I know the business of the NFL and what I'm getting 39:17 ready to go into it's even more Cutthroat than it's already is that's right in the in the college level and so 39:23 I said hey I go to another Dame there's an there's an opening in a spot to play at school like Notre Dame and play with 39:29 the golden helmet on under the golden dome under Touchdown Jesus in front of 80,000 people sign me up yeah and then 39:35 they're like yeah but you can make money this way and I'm like oh cool like yeah and that was so that was just gravy on Notre Dame 39:42 top of the fact that it was the next adventure you already had become the what the leading touchdown thrower in 39:48 the history of the ACC yeah whatever something like that yeah something like that you know if you check look that up 39:53 but um so you've but you had accomplished that you'd really elev that program been a big part of it great 40:00 coach great coach uh and you still have a year of Eligibility to go and have 40:07 another incredible experience and that was a driving Factor yeah no I mean it was football and it was the Huddle it 40:13 was they huddle there at Notre Dame we still right this year this going into this year they don't huddle anymore 40:18 that's a new thing but we huddled right you get to go and and on your it'd be on my left was Joe Al you know and you have 40:25 audri ese on my right and you got a bunch of other guys around you wow yeah it's both those and so that whole the 40:33 camaraderie there and you do mass in the Basilica and you do the walk and I I mean the at the the thinnest Parts 40:40 there's five deep people and at the biggest Parts closer to the stadium there's 30 to 40 deep as you're walking 40:46 down you know through this campus that feels like you're in a movie and um you get to go in there and you got Joe 40:52 Montana standing outside the locker room and you know you're that's Joe Montana 40:57 like holy cow and you know Joe thyman called me last night just you know checking in making sure everything's 41:02 good Brady Quinn's another it's good tough that's tough um but again 41:09 those those moments and those things and it again it's all the kind of revolves around the beginning of this whole yeah 41:16 sit down was the team and the teammates and the people around the game that have you know impacted me and impact the game 41:21 and impact the legacy of it for years to come it's not how much money this guy made what deal did he get what you know 41:27 what's like this going on it's what we did on the field together in the locker room right off the field all those 41:34 things that you understand and know yeah right at your time at app is like those are the moments you remember you don't 41:39 remember like 100% I don't remember like you said the touchdown I don't like I I remember celebrating with those guys 41:45 like after we won but I don't remember what touchdown was which and when is this and the ball and all like it was 41:52 it's funny my first college game that I played in I I played my real college game was was App State at Wake Forest 41:59 here you go it was uh our first game of the season 1989 Ricky PRL yeah uh was 42:04 the punt returner and he you know we had some locker room material because the year before app had tied them and kept 42:11 them out of some bowl game or something so the next year we come back and he said something the effective if we beat 42:17 them by it won't if we beat him by a 100 it won't make up for last year and that was the locker room material um you know 42:24 we uh it was my first you know real college game so I was pissing in my pants right you know I was on the 42:29 kickoff return team in the middle and then started at tight ends and um we 42:35 beat him 15 to 10 and what but what I remember I don't remember the plays I remember I graded out well uh and we had 42:42 like average like eight yards on toss around our side so like me and the T we had a tackle that went to the league for 42:48 like 10 years uh Derek Graham and um but what I remember is that after the game 42:55 they had fireworks go off and but we had one and then we're running around the sidelines and all of 43:00 our fans crushed down like it's just that yeah it was that that's honestly I 43:05 don't remember much else about I mean I would have to really think about it but that's the one moment that pops in and I 43:11 remember with all the teammates getting on the bus and how just everybody's just going absolutely bananas uh so um 43:19 amazing so now we're you're heading into the draft um you're going to be an NFL 43:26 quarterback back and you've got all of these 43:31 business opportunities now you you your profiles been raised uh quite a bit and 43:39 yet you need to be focused on getting on making a team winning a job and you know 43:47 moving into this next phase of your career the adversity is going to be there I can't imagine the pressure uh 43:54 hardest probably the highest level SK job in the world if you think about it 44:00 right you look at NFL quarterbacks I mean there's there's 10 that stand out 44:05 and there's another 10 or 15 that are you know serviceable and then everybody else is rotating through and winning 44:12 jobs and it's just the the um the skill level is just so it's so 44:19 fast and it's so High um so you're going to be focused on that yet you have all 44:25 these other opportunities because you're Sam and uh people like you and you've shown 44:32 the ability to come back from adversity to win massive football games and then 44:39 to have the composure after a game to give a great interview to give the credit where the credits do uh other 44:46 people the coaches the team the fans and even in the case of Duke go over and check on uh Riley who was hurt and 44:53 things like that so you've been able to to really be in the moment to be who you needed to be when you needed to be and I 45:01 think that's a skill that's going to serve you exceptionally well in the NFL because of the ability to focus um that 45:07 being said how are you dealing with the distractions of endorsements and all of Dealing With Distractions 45:14 that stuff because unlike a lot of draft picks you have a lot of opportunities yeah yeah I mean I I think it's a 45:21 perspective okay um I mean I think when I was a you know a young guy right like if you told my fresh yourself crying 45:28 getting a cookout milkshake with your son like hey this is where you're going to be this is what you're going to do I'm probably going to be tell you you're 45:34 crazy man and probably screams stranger danger um but also not believe you and I 45:41 think the perspective of that is also saying okay let me sit back and and truly analyze everything that's going on 45:48 right in in a moment in a situation like you were kind of talking about sometimes it's just the nature of it it's how I 45:53 was raised it's the people that I've been put around me to you know mom always talks about just do the right thing right it's pretty simple right 46:00 what's right like it's not you know sticks and so we can go back to the advice to your you know you want to give your kids if you're you have teenagers 46:07 just tell them to do the right thing like kids are smart right like if it doesn't seem right probably don't do it 46:12 and um and I think that goes along right in line with the endorsement deals like there's some deals that you get 46:18 presented and you're like it's just not me and I think that's the authentic part 46:23 and and kind of you know the words and and I really kind of butchered it at the beginning was you know I said resilience 46:29 I said experience and the other one really is self-awareness okay and I think self-awareness it it is such a 46:35 huge thing that not to say that I'm perfect like my mom my girlfriend they'll tell me and my brother and 46:41 probably these people will tell you I'm the least self- Weare person in the world but I've over you know six seasons 46:48 of college football being a captain for four of those years two different schools that's the number one quality of 46:54 a leader that I find so important and find so like readily missing and people 47:03 need awareness self-awareness self-awareness because it's so easy to get caught up in the I got to give my 47:10 employees the best speech in the world I got to make sure everyone's happy I got to make sure but it's sometimes it's how 47:15 am I as a leader presenting the information it's not about the 47:21 information you're presenting cuz if you come in and you're so above the top and so 47:27 oh my goodness we got to get this done we got to how is that affecting this you know you're you're one coworker here and 47:34 then how is it hitting the cooworker over there and that's not a that's not something that you the way you know oh 47:39 the PowerPoint the colors were off or how we just you know we didn't spend enough time on it sometimes it's like 47:45 okay well I know that she doesn't like you know this kind of coaching technique or this and I can I can't really relate 47:51 it to a workspace I know that this receiver does not like to get talked to in front of people he he's a private he 47:58 he like they pull him aside pull him aside not even pull him aside like don't even it's like the subtle like sandwich 48:04 like hey man dude you've been crushing it this is coach Clawson taught me this right you've been crushing it right that's the bread dude you're you're the 48:11 best you're my favorite receiver throw too oh really you know it's like okay thanks I'm talking you're my tight Jeff 48:17 you're my favorite tight in the throat too you're always open when we're going fast tempo like we 48:23 just you need to get set a little faster but when you're when you're set and you're driving off the ball you're the 48:28 best Titan we got there you go so what did I feedback delivered gave it the sandwich right and it's like those 48:35 things are simple but it's like that self-awareness to not just go Jee you got to get you know sorry you got to get freaking lined up dude yeah 48:42 like and then you're like dude screw you all you do is sit back there and drop back and and then like those moments of 48:49 like okay all right the team had a bad practice right the the organization had a bad week right it's been you know 48:54 we're sluggish we're you know we're dragging our feet all right we got to get everybody up maybe it's instead it's like what am I 49:01 am I doing am I is my energy right different is my is what I'm doing different than than what it should be am 49:07 I holding the standard and it's like you say um they call it like the servant leadership I don't really I think if if 49:13 you're not a servant leader you're not a leader right right like if you're not if you're not upholding the standard if 49:18 you're not doing the right things that you're preaching like you you're going to get fired you're going to get replaced your company's going to fail 49:24 your team's going to stink those are that's the check like you're just checking boxes at that point I think the 49:29 self-awareness aspect comes from these people see me as somebody especially as a quarterback like we talked about as 49:36 you're kind of on a different scale you're on a different level you have the endorsements you have all these things but sometimes I don't take a deal 49:41 because I don't want these guys to get jealous of the deal that I'm taking or I keep it undercover or I take the deal 49:47 and say hey like I do with my old linen it's every deal I did at nerd a and wake had something with them in it nice like 49:53 Joe Walt was in my Google ad or the dove stuff I give my Dove products away to those guys like that that's the 50:00 self-awareness aspect and that's something that like you don't think it's a big deal and then like when you go 50:05 back and they're like like oh like dude we missed like the cuz I got them car heart jackets like dude these car hard 50:10 jackets are great but it's not I'm not you know like some of it's you know selfish because I want them to block for 50:16 and I want them to do their job but it's also like cuz I have the platform because I have the thing that I have my 50:22 self-awareness tells me to do those things because it's the right thing to do well they're not they chose you 50:28 haven't forgotten about them uh you're recognizing and rewarding them another thing I've learned in leadership that's 50:33 important and it's more difficult to do as an organization scales is really being aware of tempo and 50:40 Cadence people can't nobody can Sprint forever so if you want to Peak and 50:47 you're an athlete you're an athletic team you're uh you you want to make sure that you're bringing maximum effort in 50:54 the over the biggest opportunities so sometimes sometimes you got to take a little bit of a break and sometimes you got to let people rest and then you got 51:00 to build towards it and I think great coaches I don't know how Clawson did it but you know the our coaches uh at App 51:07 State I think they could sense when we needed a break and then they sense when we needed to go and it's the same thing 51:13 in any organization here it's like we're pushing we're pushing we're working late 51:18 we got to work overnight to get this done uh we want to get something out for 51:24 Friday you know for the draft out out of this so somebody in this room is going to have to put in some extra effort to 51:31 make that happen uh but then you know then you know when people take a break and things like that so uh 51:40 interesting okay so uh we're we're going into the draft now and uh you're going 51:45 to be watching it here any thoughts or anything you care to share about uh how 51:51 you're thinking about what's going to happen over the next few days I think I mean it it always overwhel around 51:57 perspective I think that's something that you I I've harped on and I harp on I probably said it already but just take 52:04 me back to sophomore year in college take me back to freshman year in high school take me back to when I was five A Core Childhood Memory 52:10 right when I you know saw the NFL I have a great story and this is this kind of revolves around but I wanted to share it 52:16 do you remember taking me and I think it was just Zack to an app State football game when um they had uh what's his name 52:24 the receiver sweat was it sweat or Swift yeah tall 52:29 guy and then um uh what's his name de Edwards um Armani Edwards Armani Edwards 52:36 I I used Swift it might have been yeah I know the last name that was like and we 52:41 went to and we got in a locker room yeah with and um somebody else was there with us because I have a funny story to tell 52:48 after that I can't say on here about that but we went in a locker room after the game and they did the Lord's Prayer 52:53 and I remember sitting there this is one of it was this and a going we went to a Michigan game I know after they beat him but we went that was the 53:00 other reason why I played but we went there and I remember they did the Lord's Prayer and I'm you know you're a little 53:05 kid in this locker room these dudes like you're like oh my like what's going on like and then like everyone takes a knee 53:10 and you're kind of like what's go like and I remember sitting there and then I'm like sit I take a knee and I'm kind of like looking around there's this you 53:16 know Giant football player in front of me and I just two hands there's two football player hands and they're like 53:22 reaching out to me like I'm a part of the team and I'll never forget like that um like those moments of like okay me 53:30 being there at that point yeah and the trajectory it put me on of saying like that's the coolest thing in the world 53:35 like these two football players they had their glow like the tap I can remember the tape kind of like you know that classic after a game tape's kind of 53:41 coming offat up and and they these gloves I mean it was just like and I put my hands and they didn't like look at me 53:47 like what the heck's this little kid they just put their hands out and I said the Lord's Prayer and I don't think I said the Lord's player right at all 53:53 sorry but it was just like one of those things I'm like oh my gosh got up and like it was nothing the one I think one 53:58 of the guys patted me on the back I'm like I didn't do anything like I don't know how that happened cuz I know we went in the locker room we followed the 54:04 team in the locker room yeah and Coach Moore from M State he would he counted 54:09 how many players that he had coached and when you talk to him you'd say we'd have we'd have we have we've had 979 football 54:16 players through this program since I got here like he cared about the alumni he always included the alumni inside of 54:22 that so for whatever reason we were all like alumni players are always welcome to go in we followed them in the locker 54:28 room and I didn't and and everybody got down and we kind of got in there with 54:35 the team it was like three young kids and me and we got in there and you had to kneel cuz everybody was kneeling but 54:42 what I remember is is like do you remember when they first started praying like how loud and deep it was it was CRA 54:48 it was almost like a shock it was like you know and um and then we just got into that huddle yeah that was awesome I 54:55 remember forg I remember that like is and that's like another one of like the whole just camaraderie of like going back to Notre Dame is when they do in 55:02 the Basilica of the we do the um we read the end like those endearments like uh 55:07 queen of Victory pray for us Joe Walt did it and it was always like can you get them all right in a row it's like 20 55:13 different things it's like our lady queen of Victory pray for it and that Echo like when the first time you're in 55:18 there and like the entire team's in there there's people in the background like in the back in this giant just 55:23 cathed and you're just like like chills but that those moments and those 55:30 different instances give you a perspective of just the journey and everything that has got me to this position and the percentages also right 55:39 you think about the percentages who are that have done what you've done in your life right through advantaclean and all 55:45 the different things that I don't know but I know are important and impressive and put you on this pedestal that where 55:50 you're at and the percentage of all the different things that I've done and gone through and went through and at the PO 55:57 that I'm on that obviously can always get better and you're always like you and I are very similar right you're always chasing right you're always 56:02 wanting to be the best and like when I get the call I'll be like holy cow but then I'm thinking okay I need the Playbook I need this so it is like one 56:09 of those things where it's like yeah like this is really cool and people are like are you nervous like you want to you feel where do you want to go and I'm 56:15 like I just want my playbook yeah cuz I know that there's this isn't the end this isn't you know this isn't something 56:22 that like just because this happened just because I'm drafted just because I'm not drafted that doesn't mean I make or miss the team or right it's all just 56:29 an opportunity and then that perspective of saying like that there's not a lot of people that get this opportunity I'm 56:34 going to make the most of it and give it everything I have like I've been doing for the past shoot uh is it 19 years now 56:41 yeah 19 years of playing football and it's like hopefully there's a few more in there and you know then from there 56:46 the once the dust settles the dust settles and life keeps moving on whether you want it to or not right now we're in 56:53 Charleston South Carolina your bags are packed 30 days from now you have no idea where you're living it's prob shoot like Reporting To Camp 57:00 10 days from now 10 days from now you will be some like how quickly do you need to leave it'll be so if I was like 57:07 a first round Pig which I won't be you can if you're betting if I have any prop bets it's that won't be a first round 57:13 pick I got you Insider information there um no it is like a week basically right 57:19 some teams are a week some teams are two if you're like a first round pick you go like right away cuz you got to do media tours but um most teams are like week 57:26 after like that weekend after and then what OTAs so you start otaa so you do like a mini camp that's three days then 57:32 you integrate with the entire team um you're just on the team and it's a bigger like is like 80 something guys 57:37 bigger roster and then it as you go through then you do mini camp and then that like end the mini camp you start um 57:45 you get OTAs and I think you get a month off and then you start mini camp and and then it's integrate Cuts Cuts so OTAs 57:54 are just to get you acclimated their system get get you into town see what you got see what you got let them lay 58:00 their eyes on every all the new draft picks in person cuz not all the because again it's not the coaching staff that 58:06 drafts it's the front office right and they want to see how you mix what you you know what who are you really because 58:12 again like that's the crazy thing is like you do all these interviews you do the combine and you do this and like you 58:18 said it's like especially the quarterback position some guys just show up and it's just not right or it's perfect or hey we got this you know we 58:24 got a first round guy and we got a drafted guy and the undrafted guys is hey we he fits us better than the first 58:29 round guy the four like there's so many variables and especially at the quarterback position to like sit here 58:35 and think oh God man I hope I go here it's going to be perfect it's like you don't know that like you think Brock pie 58:40 sat there and said ah sweet like I'm I know I'm going to the 49ers is the last pick of the draft and I'm going to be in 58:45 playing a Super Bowl in two years no no he was probably devastated he was probably like shoot man but then 58:51 obviously it was the best fit and the best situation and yeah you know you almost you hope hope hey that Happ 58:57 opportunity exactly and he he maximized it whether it be in high school college Sam's Leadership 59:04 or what will be the NFL you've always been a great locker room guy that's one of the most consistent things people 59:11 have said about Sam Hartman is he's the perfect team guy he's a great leader uh 59:18 that comes through in all of your interviews it comes through from all of your teammates and all the coaches they've had nothing but great things to 59:23 say about you how big of an asset is that going to be for you going in to an 59:28 NFL locker room with a bunch of grown ass men yeah for sure we can say that no I'm just kidding yes we can't we did we 59:35 did but they these are grown men they're business people uh they've been at it it's serious um any idea how you're 59:44 going to approach that business as usual for Sam Harman yeah I mean I think to the hit on it I haven't always been you 59:50 know I haven't I was good and then I got to college and I think I tried to do too much okay um and I learned coach Clon 59:56 has probably had the most impact on that leadership style and and just he's so unique in the way that he does everything it's just so it's just 1:00:03 routine yeah it's like you wake up and you brush your teeth coach Clawson wakes up and does everything in in a you know 1:00:09 meticulous and well thought out and well planned order that it's he's the master Puppeteer I think he's one of the best 1:00:14 college football coaches in the world and it's all behind the scenes like you don't see him getting up on ESPN and 1:00:20 talking the talk and doing all the different things that all these new coaches are doing it's he just handles 1:00:25 his business and whether you like it or you hate it you like him you hate him like he's an unbelievable coach and I 1:00:31 learned so much just about how wellth thought out his movements and the way he 1:00:36 does things and it's almost so unselfish it seems selfish where you seem like oh 1:00:42 like he's all he car no he had there's a reason there's a master plan behind everything he's doing and so I learned 1:00:49 so much about just the impact that like what I do what I say and it kind of goes 1:00:54 back to that self-awareness and where I learned a lot of it so when I did the mini transition to this noted a place 1:01:00 that is a I mean completely different entity and a just this massive basically 1:01:05 organization or Enterprise that is global right we were in Ireland and week one and there's we had almost 60,000 or 1:01:12 I think it was 40,000 Americans traveled abroad to watch that game I almost came to that we wanted to go that looked 1:01:19 awesome yeah it was incredible Guinness was just flowing you could smell it on the field I promise you uh they put it 1:01:26 in food they put it in pan it's in everything it's just better over there I'll just tell you that I'm just saying 1:01:31 it's better over there um but it was just like the the ability for me to just 1:01:37 kind of walk in there and be like okay like how can I meticulously go around this where it's a it's not a game but it 1:01:43 is a game because you can always you can go in and say like okay who are my guys that I need to connect with who are the 1:01:49 guys that I can kind of just go out and play and they're going to just kind of come with me and who are the guys I got to spend every second with every time I 1:01:56 see him I got to basically just give him like the biggest hug metaphorically and you just work through that and it's like 1:02:03 I knew walking into that locker room like and I know walking into an NFL locker room to kind of go back to your question was like I can't kick the door 1:02:09 down right like you I did that down here in Oceanside cuz you there's no other reason there's no other way right I 1:02:15 transferred in here like we were 0 and seven or 0 and8 the year before like yeah like I'm going to kick the door out 1:02:21 I'm going to remodel the whole kitchen I'm going to do the bathrooms I'm we got to just completely clean house but like 1:02:26 at another Dame right and then obviously an NFL organization you just got to like kind of peek your head in and say okay 1:02:32 boom there's we got six guy you know like like an operative like you got to just kind of check say where do I fit 1:02:38 into this puzzle where do I fit into this this organization and how can I be the best teammate I can be be the best 1:02:44 really asset to this organization whether that's being the franchise quarterback whether that's being a second string whether that's being a 1:02:49 practice squad guy whether that's cleaning the showers after everybody's finished like how can I do that effectively and that was the 1:02:56 what I learned at Notre Dame and as I went there was like as much as I could you want to press you want to implement 1:03:02 your ideas you want to you know you want to kick that door down but you got to do it so meticulously because you kick the 1:03:09 door down and it hits three people behind you and then those three people are the you know the the starting linebacker the left tackle and the 1:03:16 running back and they can't stand you all lost yeah you got a problem what's 1:03:21 the uh Trash Talk escalation in expectation in the NFL 1:03:26 it depends you play like I know in college it was like young when I was younger it was a lot more and as I got 1:03:32 older kind of guys realize like I I'm very nice they're not going to shake you no like I you it's usually young you get 1:03:39 you were always helping people up tapping people I'm like there was I I was always so proud because we watched every game and I was always so proud 1:03:46 that you were constantly showing good sportsmanship oh even in tough times 1:03:52 even maybe when people didn't deserve it and I thought that people I saw people giving you a lot of respect back on the 1:03:57 field for that oh oh I had so many moments where I'm like this guy is going to kill me and he pulled up I'm like hey 1:04:03 dude why don't you kill me he's like why would I you're too nice I'm like yes it paid off so there's like 1:04:08 that there is a gamesmanship to it I have a there's a little bit I mean I've had probably I don't know if Notre Dame 1:04:14 I ever really talked to anybody but I mean at wake probably when I was younger I probably did a little but it's I don't 1:04:20 think anybody's hit Tom Brady in like seven years exactly I mean they just stopped tip the cap nobody wants to be 1:04:26 nobody wants to be on that highlight clip exactly exactly for sure yeah so uh 1:04:31 if you Google Sam Hartman the first question that comes up is is Sam Hartman single I am not okay well so you you I 1:04:39 wouldn't have asked but you had mentioned a girlfriend before so the answer is no no I have a girlfriend she plays soccer at Wake Forest um and she 1:04:46 she's awesome and uh yeah yeah she's great she'll be down here for the draft and everything so oh fantastic and um 1:04:53 What year she is this her last year she's got more season left because of just the she had a met or red shirt all 1:04:59 right well good luck with that Sam thank you so much for investing this time with 1:05:05 us usually I'd ask people where can people get in touch with you but I don't think you want that no not at all um 1:05:11 what's it what's it like uh going to a restaurant here in Charleston for you today uh it's Unique I mean it's I mean 1:05:19 my I'd say everything is kind of we hit on this before we kind of started recording of just the uh you know wake 1:05:26 force me or shoot High School me thinking you know oh I'm you know I got all this I had a TV show people 1:05:32 recognize me or whatever qb1 qb1 all that you get to a Wake Forest and it's kind of like okay and then toward the 1:05:39 latter half of my career you know that either fame or whatever you want social media status started picking up and it 1:05:45 was kind of the the age difference probably of like the the younger generation at wake to me like I kind of 1:05:51 I I wasn't really in school so I was kind of just I was only if I ever kind of appeared on campus it was a deal and 1:05:58 then you get to another Dame and then it kind of just blows up that's Global and then that yeah that becomes this thing 1:06:03 and then you go to the combine and then it blows up even more um so I mean it it depends sometimes on the thing I have a 1:06:11 a people make fun of my disguise but I have a little bit of a like you know undercover bosses do deal going and um 1:06:18 okay so I I try and you know mix it up and kind of works kind of works it doesn't but it's it's again uh I would a 1:06:27 perspective right if when I was sitting eating my cookout milkshake bring it I 1:06:33 would love to be recognized when I was a freshman and I had a broken leg after a subpar season and I was a backup my 1:06:38 sophomore year please I'd love to get recognize somebody tell me I'm good at what I'm doing or whatever and so it's 1:06:45 all perspective and I try and you know as much as I can make those interactions as positive and as you know profound in 1:06:51 a sense of just being authentic in general because you never know right that impact or that um I always see it 1:06:57 with the Ronald McDonald House that I work with the charity event stuff where you can just really be able to try and 1:07:03 impact somebody's life right because you never know what's going on and that kind of hits on the mental the mental health of everything of like I always am such a 1:07:10 big Advocate um for the mental health for therapy for especially men teenage 1:07:16 and our you know my age your age right to just talk one time cuz you'll be so profound and so like wait what like 1:07:24 you're not supposed to think like that like oh like I'm that's why I'm always tired at this point or this is why whenever I get this I feel like this 1:07:31 when this is going on or sure and and something that like a coach or somebody just to kind of let you know there we we 1:07:38 I call them demons in my head in a sense of just the the demons that have got me to this point got me in this chair that 1:07:44 have pushed me to be the you know a really good quarterback and you know make it through wake make it to Notre 1:07:49 Dame get through the combine get through all this draft prep that push me that probably push you in the same way whatever you call them the voices in 1:07:55 your head that you know that constant drive or also can be very negative in a sense and all those different things um 1:08:02 yeah self-doubt self-limiting belief exact it all it all rolls in there um 1:08:07 but and I you know I'll never know what it's like to be a a well-known person 1:08:13 where you go into any town or any city in the country but there's a lot of good that can come from that and just a kind One Sentence To Change Someone's Life 1:08:20 word to you have the opportunity to impact so many and you're doing amazing 1:08:25 job with it you you take the responsibility clearly uh you take the obligation and you take the opportunity 1:08:32 to do well so thank you Sam for what you do last question if you had one sentence 1:08:37 to speak into someone's life to make an impact what would that be o that's a 1:08:42 good one um I'm proud of you oh man there you 1:08:48 go that's awesome there you go great words this has been Sam Hartman with 1:08:53 Jeff duden we have been on the the H front thank you Sam awesome appreciate you having me on there we go all right 1:08:59 yes sir appreciate you yep All
