The Secrets To Balancing Music, Comedy, Family and Success | On The Homefront With Jeff Dudan

Brief Summary
In this heartwarming and humorous episode of On The Homefront, Jeff Dudan sits down with Stephen Kellogg—singer-songwriter, author, stand-up comedian, and devoted father. They explore the joys and challenges of creativity, parenting, marriage, midlife hustle, and the search for meaning in a noisy world. With stories from the stage, the road, and the dinner table, Stephen shares the truths behind success, service, and staying grounded through it all.
Key Takeaways
- Creative careers evolve: Stephen has made a 24-year living as a performing artist, now branching into comedy and speaking while continuing to tour and release music.
- Stand-up is storytelling: Kellogg uses humor to unpack the real-life chaos of parenting, marriage, and midlife—and finds healing through honesty.
- Service creates impact: From playing for the military to performing at St. Jude Children's Research Hospital, Stephen highlights the joy of doing meaningful work.
- Authenticity beats perfection: In a world of AI music and social media filters, Stephen defends the raw, flawed beauty of human connection.
- Coaching and parenting align: Jeff and Stephen compare notes on youth coaching, family leadership, and the legacy of showing up.
- Success is defined by legacy, not wealth: Both men agree that fulfillment comes from impact, not income.
Featured Quote
“You don’t have to be exceptional. You just have to take the best of what’s inside you and do what you can with it.” — Stephen Kellogg
TRANSCRIPT
From Songwriter to Stand-Up: The Many Faces of Stephen Kellogg
Jeff Dudan (00:04.748)
Welcome back to the home front everybody. This is Jeff Duden and I am here today with Stephen Kellogg, singer, songwriter, stand -up comedian and author. I'm very excited about the time we're gonna get to spend. Welcome Stephen.
Stephen Kellogg (00:18.314)
How are you, my friend?
Jeff Dudan (00:19.798)
I am so good, man. Thank you so much for jumping on. Big fan of the music, excited about your stand up and everything you're going on. And I have to tell you, I'm preparing for this. I got a copy of your book, which is Objects in the Mirror. And sometimes when you get books, you wonder if they sound like the author. And my sense of this book is like you wrote this.
is very authentic to you. The stories are very real and I don't usually do this, but you know, I skimmed it pretty good. I probably read a quarter to a half of it getting ready for this. I'm going to go back and read it after we do the show.
Stephen Kellogg (01:00.15)
Great, I view that as high praise. I'll take it. Yeah.
Jeff Dudan (01:02.42)
Yeah, man. Yeah, yeah. So why don't you tell us a little bit, if you don't mind, about early life and maybe when you realized you were first a creative.
Stephen Kellogg (01:16.562)
Well, know, certainly it was always in my head, you know, when I with the family would have barbecues and things like that. And my uncles, were these pretty intimidating characters, would always sing at these pig roasts. And it was very it was pretty archaic. You know, there'd be like someone would like have pieces of a broomstick for drumsticks. And it was like it was down home music. But I remember feeling like, wow, this is a
This is a great feeling. Now, I didn't realize that was something you could do and make a life of until quite a bit later. But I have an aunt and an uncle who are portrait painters, and they've worked together and they're now in their 70s. And they've done incredible work, had a lot of achievements, but are also not household names. And through them, I started to see, as I got to be a teenager,
there is like something between starving artists and household name. It does exist in artist's life. And thank goodness I found that, because I don't think a lot of us know that that exists. So here I am now, it's been 24 years since I've had proper employment and I'm grateful for that.
Jeff Dudan (02:40.44)
So you've been able to make a living doing what you wanna do. You got a beautiful family, four kids. Why? Like you have four kids, why? Do you ever ask yourself why four?
Stephen Kellogg (02:47.616)
Thank you.
Stephen Kellogg (02:51.574)
On this exact day, Jeff, I'm kind of asking myself that very question. It's the end of a summer. I think it's changed a lot from when we were kids. Everybody kind of wakes up like, well, what are we doing today? How is the world going to roll itself out for me? my wife and I are, we're out of about our last nerve by the end of We're ready for everybody to go back to school.
Jeff Dudan (03:18.53)
Now, how old's your youngest now? Okay.
Stephen Kellogg (03:20.47)
She is 11. She's 11. So I got 11, 13, 16, and 19. Yeah.
Jeff Dudan (03:27.71)
You got all mean agers. That's what my grandfather used to call me.
Stephen Kellogg (03:31.395)
It feels that I've never heard that. It's a great one, man. It's well, you know, my oldest daughter has been kind of helping us steer the younger ones away from the screens. And she because she says, you don't want to be a screen ager, which I also thought was a useful. I thought that was a good one, too.
Jeff Dudan (03:42.221)
Yeah.
Life on the Road and Playing for the Military
Jeff Dudan (03:47.365)
I like that.
Yeah. Steven, specifically to your music, when did you first start performing professionally? And then you've toured 21 countries and you've been out on the road a lot. You've done a lot for the military. Talk a little bit about that phase of your life and the travel, the touring, and then maybe how you balance that out with family.
Stephen Kellogg (04:03.114)
Mmm.
Stephen Kellogg (04:16.094)
Yeah. Well, as a kid, you see, I'm seeing rock bands and I'm starting to think like, okay, I could have been any number of things, but music seemed to be the thing that was standing up the most and announcing itself at that, in high school and then college and after college. was like, I played places and made more money than I was making staining decks. So I thought, all right, let's
Let's go with this, you know? And that's really where music came from. And then the thing is, if you're going to do that, you you got to, you got to get out on the road. Or maybe you don't nowadays, you know, there are other ways the world has changed since I was coming up, but that just seemed like what we had to do. And I wanted to be, I knew I wasn't going to be the most talented guy in any of the areas, especially singing or guitar songwriting. felt.
better at, but I still knew that there were people much better than I am. So I just thought I'll outwork everybody. And I'm not sure. I'm not sure if this like, I'm not sure if I would advise this of anyone, but it has sort of, it did make up for a lot, but I just, I was always the guy that would say, all right, sure. I'll hit the road. And we started to see some progress in a number of cities, you know, where more and more people would come out. And what's interesting is there were a lot of cities
where we didn't see progress and I still haven't, you know? I've played Lawrence, Kansas 17 times and there'll still be a hundred people if I go there. There'll probably never be more, hopefully never be less, but I mean, that's kind of, and I can't exactly tell you why that is or what that has to do with. I just knew, all right, I've got to go out and see, you know? And then that eventually led us to Europe and it,
And we started feeling like, we got to try to give back in some areas. playing for the military was something that we thought none of us would have made, you know, decent soldiers, I don't think. And we just decided, regardless of any political thing, let's just go play overseas where people need to know that they're being thought of and appreciated. And so we have done a lot of that over the years. And next thing you know, we're
Jeff Dudan (06:37.965)
Yeah.
Stephen Kellogg (06:43.926)
Next year we're gonna hit our 3000, my 3000th show. So we'll do something special for that. But that's a lot of shows, you know?
Jeff Dudan (06:52.472)
Yeah, so how much are you touring now versus the stand -up comedy that you're, it seems like you're moving towards, I've caught a couple of sets online, pretty good stuff, I'm really, I'm interested in that in particular. How are you balancing those two pursuits?
Discovering Comedy and Balancing the Hustle
Stephen Kellogg (07:11.55)
I mean, when I, so I did stand up for the first time last May because my friend owns a comedy club and he kept coming to the concerts and he's like, dude, you're talking as much as you're playing. You gotta come do this. And I said, no, these people like, but I did it last May and it was awesome. I had so much fun. I went to my wife and said, all the guys you could have married. I'm like, for my next trick here, my next get rich quick scheme is I'm going to do some standup, but it's been really fun.
Jeff Dudan (07:21.993)
Hahaha
Stephen Kellogg (07:41.974)
and, I don't tour the way that I used to, but I'm still, you know, I'll do a hundred shows in a year and that feels like 275 used to feel. It still feels like a lot of time away from home. and I'm always chasing ways of balancing it like everybody else I know. I mean, I don't know. I know very few people who seem to have some kind of work life balance. It, it tilts too much.
Jeff Dudan (07:55.149)
Yeah.
Stephen Kellogg (08:09.61)
this way and then you get home and you're happy to be home, but you realize the money dries up quick, you gotta get out and do it again. it's, you know, it is great work and I'm grateful for it, but it is work that we all do as creatives as well, you know?
Jeff Dudan (08:27.404)
Yeah, a real through line in your work is storytelling. Your lyrics are kind of sweet, actually. They're thoughtful. They tell stories. Stand up is, mean, you're telling stories with funny stories or whatever it is. so songwriting and storytelling seems to be real strength for you and the writing as well.
Where do you get your material for all of these different things? What's your inspiration?
Stephen Kellogg (09:03.894)
It's just, just, I feel like Clark Griswold, nine days out of 10, Jeff, and I just started writing down just the stuff that drives me crazy, the stuff that I, the ways that I embarrass myself, you know, the awful things that I do or say, you know.
Jeff Dudan (09:18.295)
you
Stephen Kellogg (09:29.394)
I don't know that I can stop saying things that are clunky, but what you can do is sort of look at your wife or your friend or your manager or whoever, I'm sorry, that was uncalled for, I didn't mean it. You can own it, you can take responsibility, you can apologize and mean it. And then you can put it into the material, you know, because we're all doing this and when you say it out loud, it takes away some of the...
Jeff Dudan (09:52.621)
Yeah, that's right.
Real Talk on Parenting, Marriage, and Midlife Chaos
Stephen Kellogg (09:58.326)
shame and embarrassment. mean, you know, I call my 11 year old, can you swear on here or what? don't want to. Okay. So I mean, I call this is a lot of people think that you're such a good dad. You love family. It's like you love kids. People say I love my kids. I don't love all kids. You know, I love my kids is who I love. And, and I am an okay dad and I'm a pretty good husband, you know, but
Jeff Dudan (10:05.624)
Sure, sure.
Stephen Kellogg (10:26.356)
I called my daughter, I called her a little shit in January. That's not the worst thing you could say, but when it comes out of your mouth, you're like, no matter, it doesn't matter that she was being one, it just like, it comes out and you're like, that's not good. Like we gotta figure that out, you know? And somehow, then obviously you go upstairs and you say, look, hun, dad's frustrated, shouldn't have said that. I don't think that, I was really frustrated, you know? And you just.
Jeff Dudan (10:35.502)
Yeah.
Stephen Kellogg (10:54.95)
show them how to be a human. And then you take the argument out to where she's not there and you get to go share it with a bunch of parents who if they haven't said it, certainly wanted to. And you get to all have a laugh about it and go, hey, at least we're trying. And that to me is like, serves two purposes. Three, it heals you. It lets the audience, there's camaraderie and community in it.
And hopefully it takes some of the stigma off making mistakes and failing. mean, it's like, you know, we're living in an age here where everything looks like it's pretty perfect. Even the reels on TikTok that are supposed to look like, look what happened to me. They look like they were edited by a professional filmmaker. Like everything has this look to it. And I like to keep it real, you know?
Jeff Dudan (11:41.782)
Right.
Jeff Dudan (11:46.722)
Yeah, so much of that set up. The best stuff is when you can tell it's authentic. And unfortunately, you know, the pain in our personal conversations turns into a great bit when you tell it to strangers at a conference or from a stage or wherever you're at. And then, you know, somebody riding their bike into a railing, it hurt them, but man, that's a good reel. Yeah.
Stephen Kellogg (12:04.862)
Yeah.
Stephen Kellogg (12:12.322)
It's funny though, you know? And if you can laugh at it, it's like, it just, it allows you to move on and heal from all this. Otherwise you just amass stuff that you feel bad about. And I mean, when I was leaving for my first standup set, my youngest said to me, she's like, all right, as I'm walking out the door, don't tell any jokes about me. And I'm like, they're all about you.
Jeff Dudan (12:37.144)
They're all about you.
Stephen Kellogg (12:39.894)
So much is about you, about marriage, about family, about working really hard. I think a lot of us are surprised by how hard we, like the coasting. I always envisioned that adults were on some kind of coasting situation. Like I thought 40s, I knew you had to like work hard at some point early on. I didn't realize I would be working this hard. I'm only 47, but.
I didn't realize I'd be working hard right now and there's no real like end to this except the end. that is that I think is the crux of the midlife crisis is like, whoa, do I do I just do this for the rest of my time? And is there any way not to just do this grind like all the time? Like it is. And that's when you start to go like, OK, maybe I shouldn't hang out with like that.
friend who's not really a good friend. Like maybe I need to get rid of them in my life because they're just taking up to I only have this much time, you know? And that's what I like. Like most folks my age, that's kind of where what I'm sorting out a lot of it on stage, either through the music, which is you. I forget the word you use. I mean, it is thoughtful. Hopefully it's not too sentimental. You know, it is.
Jeff Dudan (13:48.206)
Yeah.
Stephen Kellogg (14:06.226)
I am a mush, but I try to put enough weight and teeth into things.
Jeff Dudan (14:10.989)
Yeah.
Better to Be at the Bottom of the Right Ladder
Jeff Dudan (14:14.658)
Yeah, well, the song lyrics, they're very compelling. You know, I watched your Ted. And then, you know, then I come across this Ted talk where you do a Ted talk about job satisfaction, which, know, and I'm like, man, what, like who is like, there's so, there's such a, you know, you're finding all of these outlets for your creativity. And, you know, by the way, it's not easy to get on a Ted talk. Like you gotta be good. And it was really, really good. And then you wrapped it up with a song, which was.
Stephen Kellogg (14:25.077)
Yeah.
Stephen Kellogg (14:30.006)
Who is this guy?
Jeff Dudan (14:42.924)
really really good I mean it was one of the better TED talks and it was it was about job satisfaction I wrote down the the man yeah no no why you're working it's better to be I want I talk about it's better to be at the bottom of a ladder that you want to climb than at the top of one that you don't is that is that right did I get that right what it
Stephen Kellogg (14:46.07)
Thank you.
Stephen Kellogg (15:10.282)
Yeah, it's better to be at the bottom of a ladder you want to climb than the top of one that you don't. So, I mean, and I say this in the TED talk, I did get that from The Office, the TV show The Office. The English version of The Office had that. And I thought that's brilliant, you know. And I've seen that in my own life when I was working selling advertising. Every day was so much work.
Jeff Dudan (15:15.403)
What does that mean?
Jeff Dudan (15:23.842)
That's right.
Stephen Kellogg (15:37.654)
right after college, I felt like a caged animal. It was very hard to be good at it. And the minute I started doing music and communicating and kind of just getting to say, hey, here's what I think. At that moment, I was playing in a three, four -hour sets in a steakhouse, and I was getting paid maybe $150 to do that work, but I felt really good.
Jeff Dudan (15:57.932)
Yeah.
Stephen Kellogg (16:06.578)
even though that was not a glamorous gig or what I was aspiring to, I just thought, man, I would rather work like a dog at this one thing. You know, it's better to be at the bottom of something going, well, I've got one life here and I'm going to try to spend it playing music and sharing my point of view than the middle or the top of something that you're not compelled to do.
That said, sometimes, you you're good. OK, you're good. Let me know if anything's funky with the Internet or whatever. OK, OK, OK. So, you know, that said, sometimes we have to do things we don't want to do, you know, I'm trying to teach that to my kids right now. I think they're growing up with a real ability to get A's.
Jeff Dudan (16:40.994)
Yeah, nah, just keep going. It'll do that once in a while.
Jeff Dudan (16:53.912)
Right.
Stephen Kellogg (17:01.812)
But not always the common sense and resourcefulness that I think the next generation is going to need, know, not to throw them under the bus. But I came home one night and everybody said, thank goodness you're home. We're starving. And I was like, what do you, there's food here. And the, what did you eat? Like, and they're like, well, we didn't know what to do. I'm like,
You guys are, you're gonna starve if you don't have the ability to let go. I'm hungry. There's cabinets full of food. There's a kitchen. Like you've got to be able to make food and be resourceful. And so sometimes we have to do things we don't want to do, me included, you know? You just do what you have to do. And that's why the know why you're working was such an important part of that. You know, if you know that you're working to take care of someone you love, you can find a lot of energy and resourcefulness.
Jeff Dudan (17:27.081)
Hahaha
Stephen Kellogg (17:53.974)
But whenever you have the chance to climb a ladder worth climbing, something that actually compels you somewhere you want to get, I think you got to do that. It doesn't matter if you don't have to do it when you're 20. You can change careers in the middle of your life. That's been proven so much right now every day. You just got to do it. You just start. things have a way of working out when you're passionate about them, in my experience.
Jeff Dudan (18:22.958)
Yeah, 100%. There's a lot of different ways to make money if money's all you want. And you can work really, really hard. There's lots of jobs where you can make tons and tons of sales jobs and all this kind of stuff. the question is, is money really the outcome? Is it going to give you a great life, or do you want to live a great life regardless of the money?
I mean, gave up a lot. I, you know, I coached, I gave away tens of millions of dollar a year business in favor of franchising a business because I wanted to be home. And I ended up coaching like 30 seasons of my kids sports. And you know, if you're, if you're going to coach and then, know, so then I'm building this franchise company, which is basically groups of like five to 10 people.
Stephen Kellogg (19:08.351)
Wow.
Jeff Dudan (19:16.514)
So they're like little sports teams. So I'm coaching the owners how to coach their teams. I'm coaching these little sports teams. It's lighting me up on both ends of it. I probably left some money on the table because what I didn't do, like what you said, when you tour around, like if you really want to get movement, you got to go out into the world and get it done. So if you, you know, you're, not going to grow your music. If you're not out there in front of people where people are connecting with you city after city and whatever. And it's the same thing in business. Like if you don't go out and.
Stephen Kellogg (19:19.401)
Right.
Stephen Kellogg (19:36.203)
Yeah.
Jeff Dudan (19:46.464)
and meet the people you need to meet and be where you need to be, then you're just, the opportunities are given to the people that are there. So it's definitely a balance and everybody's gotta decide, what are the real priorities in your life? What do you really care about? At the end of the day, if you look back and you die with X dollars or two X dollars, you're still dead and your body of work speaks for itself and nobody's really gonna care.
Coaching Kids and Building Legacy Through Service
Stephen Kellogg (20:12.405)
Yeah.
Jeff Dudan (20:15.68)
about how much stuff you had, they're gonna remember like, you know, the impact that you made to the people closest to you.
Stephen Kellogg (20:23.082)
I agree. I mean, what's the legacy? You know, that's a big theme in a lot of what I do is what's the legacy going to be? And I've told my kids a few times, I don't know. I was like, don't bank on money. I'm giving you guys songs. I'm giving you guys good information. You know, like you might get some money. This may work out yet, but I mean, it is working out.
but I say that sort of tongue in cheek, it's like, I, yeah, you know, just like something, here's something you can use, you know? So let me ask you, Jeff, when you were coaching, you coach, you say you coached 30, like 30 seasons altogether?
Jeff Dudan (20:55.53)
experiences.
Jeff Dudan (21:03.277)
Yes.
Jeff Dudan (21:07.734)
Yeah, so a little bit of soccer with my daughter and then basketball for her. Lots and lots of baseball with my two boys, lots and lots of football with my two boys, a little bit of basketball. I coached them up basically. They went to a little private school, so parents were allowed to coach in middle school. yeah, so I coached them. usually, I coached them kind of up to or up through middle school, at least the boys.
Stephen Kellogg (21:28.031)
Okay.
Jeff Dudan (21:35.266)
was I didn't know soccer very well. My daughter, she outgrew me. She still outgrows me. But yeah.
Stephen Kellogg (21:41.174)
What were your so what so because I coached just a little during the pandemic when I was finally home and they needed coaches. got the call and I I I'm like looking up the positions of soccer 10 minutes before the first that it was and I found you know I got it I live in the suburbs and everybody thinks their kids going to like get a scholarship so it's there's obnoxious parents behind you yelling things is very stressful I found it to be one of the most.
Jeff Dudan (21:50.498)
Hahaha
Stephen Kellogg (22:09.802)
Stressful things, also incredibly rewarding. And I always wanted to turn around and be like, why don't you volunteer or why don't you shut up? Like, I definitely didn't have a lot of patience for the parents yelling things on the sidelines and stuff. But what I'm curious about is what was your, what were some of your, like, what was your philosophy as a coach? What did you do with the kids?
Jeff Dudan (22:33.528)
Well, I can't believe you asked me that. So while we're here on the podcast, I wrote a book when I was done coaching my last season, I wrote a book to put my philosophy in it and it yeah. And it's yeah, it's called Hey Coach. So, you know, I had so my thing was I would I would, you know, I basically learned over time to make it, you know, the goal is is by the end of the season.
Stephen Kellogg (22:43.2)
Come on, that's great.
Jeff Dudan (23:03.47)
You want to turn the team over to the kids. want to give them autonomy. You want to give them ownership of it. And so that they can play fast, loose, happy, and for each other. So we would break the season down into thirds and the first third. Well, even before that, I would invite every parent to participate. So if we're doing a little football team and there's 18 or 20 kids on it, we would have one parent doing the timeouts, the clocks. One parent would do the special teams. One parent would do this.
we'd have a little meeting before and we'd invite the parents to talk to them because everything that you'd everything that. Well, that no, that was like in no, that was like in Jeff a league or that was like in in peewee peewee football or whatever. But. Yeah, yeah, so it's like, but like because what all the stuff you try and do to get the kids to to believe that they're in the right position doing the right thing for the team gets undone in the car on the way home.
Stephen Kellogg (23:37.878)
That is some private school level involvement you got right there. I'm impressed.
Stephen Kellogg (23:47.37)
That's awesome and everybody came out and okay, sorry, yeah, go on.
Jeff Dudan (24:02.638)
So if you say, hey parents, you stay over there, I've got your kids, don't talk to them, no coaching from the sidelines, well then as soon as they get in the car, they're just gonna get their ears chewed off with all the things that the coach is doing wrong and why is Suzy playing this or why don't, there's only one football, So whatever it was, baseball, basketball, whatever, I would drill the fundamentals for like the first third of the season and really focus on like,
getting them to do one thing really, really well whenever we got them in the right spots. You we'd sometimes lose a game early or stuff like that, but they would be very, very capable. And then in the middle portion of the season, we'd make sure that we got them all in the right spots. And then we'd start to put in the concepts of, you know, really a little bit more offensive philosophy, defensive philosophy, things like that.
And the last third of the season, we would try to turn it over to them. So if you came and I had a bunch of 12 year old football players and you saw us warming up, would, it would look like a little college warmup because they're all warming themselves up where, you know, the linebackers are taking little drops and the DBs are warming up and the quarterbacks and receivers are throwing, just like you'd see like before a college game. If you look at the other little team of 12 year olds, you know, they're standing in a line, they're doing pushups to a whistle and you know, they're, they're, they're in a very, very regimented discipline type warmup thing.
Stephen Kellogg (25:08.245)
Mm -hmm.
Stephen Kellogg (25:24.278)
Push -ups to a whistle. Good lord. This is what you do in Pee -wee in your town? Wow. That's intense.
Jeff Dudan (25:28.646)
yeah. But the point is, like you would, I think that people underestimate, kids are just as smart as we are, they're just less experienced. And if you give them permission to think and you give them the account a bit, they really wanna learn, right? And then they've gotta, you always gotta do special little things to make sure that you break any of the clicks and you.
you manage that. it was really, it was very much a system that me and some of these other parents developed over this, over these, you know, five or six years. And I'm telling you, say whatever you want, we were always in the championship at the end of the year. Like we'd never, you know,
Stephen Kellogg (26:12.146)
I'm sure you were, man. You sound like you're coaching a college team there. That's a lot.
Jeff Dudan (26:18.56)
Yeah, but they, and the thing is, is like, is like, you know, and then, you know, in the off season, the parents, you know, if they could request to be on a team, they'd always request to like be on our team because, because it was such a, it was such a good experience for the kids. And you got to remember, it's not about, it wasn't about like, our goal was that we would all be the best we could be on the last day of the season, whenever that was. It wasn't, we're going to win these games or we're going to do that. And then I had like seven.
Stephen Kellogg (26:44.351)
Right.
Jeff Dudan (26:46.766)
I had three little like tablets of principles, right? I had player rules, parent expectations and coaching commitments. So if you wanna be a coach, you just don't coach your kid, you have to coach them all. So I had five or seven little phrases and it was just, know, so was like this little playbook of maybe 10 pages and that was the whole system that we had and it really worked and it was one of the most real.
Stephen Kellogg (27:13.31)
You were very prepared, man. And they were lucky to have, they are lucky to have you. And that's so cool that you, that you did it, that you made a thing of it. You know, I think that's, I think that's great, man. I think it's great. I think, I think, the stuff I was coaching was definitely, it's just small town. had, we had second grade co, it was co -ed second grade girls through fourth grade.
Jeff Dudan (27:41.261)
Yeah.
Stephen Kellogg (27:41.59)
and boys as well. So we had fourth grade boys playing with second grade girls in the middle of the pandemic. And I was...
Jeff Dudan (27:49.326)
Well, that's a younger age group. That's a little bit more show up. Give them popsicles. Yeah.
Stephen Kellogg (27:53.172)
I mean, dude, I just wanted to give them like air and like, and we were one in nine. mean, but how would we be anything? All I cared about, I'm like, all right, I'm Seabiscuit out there. Like believe in yourself, guys. I never said I was, they just couldn't get anybody and they're like, will you do it? And I'm like, I'll show up. I'll show up and try. But they were lucky to have you, man. That's very cool.
Jeff Dudan (28:06.456)
Ha ha ha ha.
Jeff Dudan (28:14.882)
Well, just.
Well, know, when you're in the younger, you know, that was kind of the, you know, the the the getting ready for middle school, you know, 12 year old type kid type thing. And but, know, at the younger ages, it was, you know, popsicles and stories and all of that, whatever was age appropriate. Right. And but the most important thing was that the kids had fun. They they learned something valuable and they wanted to come back. Like at the end of the day, like if
If you coach in such a way where half the kids are upset or they're ashamed or they don't like the way, you know, they don't want to come back or they didn't get anything out of it. Then like, what's the point? Like there's no, you know, nobody's winning a gold medal in fifth grade. I mean, it's, you know, you have such an opportunity to, to pour into these young people and to do something meaningful and, and, and, know, you know, give them a great experience. And, and, know, I still see these kids. I mean, I coached, you know,
hundreds and hundreds of kids over that time. as I'm walking around town or I'm somewhere, I'll hear, hey, you know, it's the best thing. Well, hey coach, dude. And now they're six foot two and I have no idea who they are. Right. And that's just, and that's just the girls.
Stephen Kellogg (29:24.256)
That's cool. Yeah, there's some kid. That's awesome, man. That's that's good for you. What a what leg. That's part. That's a huge part of your legacy. That's great. I don't I I don't I will have no such legacy as that, but I enjoyed it and I showed up and I endured the what's he doing at midfield? I'm like, damned if I know, man, but you're welcome to come take this job from me if you want it. Otherwise, shut up.
Jeff Dudan (29:35.735)
Yeah.
Jeff Dudan (29:39.266)
Ha!
Jeff Dudan (29:48.183)
midfield.
Stephen Kellogg (29:54.486)
But if they had been around you, you would have been like, come on in, be part of the team. And I think that's a better way to do it. And that's why you coach 30 seasons and I coach three. So there we go.
Jeff Dudan (30:05.996)
Well, know, showing up is half the battle and bless you for doing it. Another thing from the TED Talk, and it kind of plays into children, you said understand the positive effects of your work. And you talked about going to St. Jude Children's Research Hospital and playing for these kids and.
Music with a Mission: St. Jude, Military, and Giving Back
Stephen Kellogg (30:10.836)
Yeah, yeah.
Jeff Dudan (30:24.558)
Just as backdrop of that with my previous business that we sold in 2019, we were one of 65 national strategic partners with St. Jude Children's Research Hospital. We did environmental services like duck cleaning and mold remediation. So anytime, we had 240 locations, anytime that a child either survived a protocol at St. Jude and Memphis or.
any of the pediatric oncology hospitals that use the St. Jude protocols and they would have a child that would need to go home because they'd survived their treatment and they had a mold problem or an indoor air quality problem. Our franchise owners would go out and do those jobs for either free or at a reduced cost. It was a real big part of like who we were and what we did. And I really, you said that when you played at St. Jude and the people were smiling back at you, it meant it changed something in you.
Stephen Kellogg (31:15.412)
Hmm. It did. Well, I think that when I mentioned the military stuff before, know, that this thing starts to awaken in you. For me, it was in my late 20s of like, I'm not the center of the universe, you know. And so you're like, well, what you know, there's often a tendency to want to wait until things are set to kind of give back or do.
something unless you've truly just grown up with service as a part of your daily diet, which is great if you can. So this kind of dawned on us and the band that I was working with and the team, I was like, we may never be you two. And so what can we do now, like today? What can we?
I think people want to do more more in the world, but don't always you don't always know how you like. How do I help other humans other than just money? If you have money, that's that's a great one. And that's awesome. But but other than that, what can you do? You know, like and sometimes it's hard to connect to that. And so I had had this conversation with my then manager and he said, well, you're to be in Memphis. Why don't I reach out to the hospital and see if they want to have
some music and I didn't realize it but at the time I think we were like the first group to ever go, we did like a prom for the kids. It didn't really matter what age you were and we did the prom and they got dressed up and we played songs and you know and talked to them and then to their families were kind of around too. And then we went back a few more times and just
Jeff Dudan (32:52.988)
Stephen Kellogg (33:12.63)
You just start realizing, I mean, the amount of people we impacted that day might've been 40, 50, but it's just, you go, wow, I have to do that again because I feel like I definitely hadn't played a gig that month that felt more important, you know, that felt like it made more of a difference or a memory. Like these people will remember this experience that I got to be part of. So.
Jeff Dudan (33:32.248)
Yeah.
Stephen Kellogg (33:40.416)
then you start craving it. And as a result, that's when we started really upping it and going to a lot more children's hospitals. And I tried to make it more a part of our fundraising that we do at the end of the year. you know, I mean, what we raise is tiny, you know, financially, but the thing I can do is go into these and be with the families and be with the kids. And I try to do that every year.
And we would do a little bit of that, a little bit of the military, and it really helps us. It helped me more than I think I helped anybody else out there, but it really just, I just thought like, okay, I'm doing something that makes me feel like I'm doing something of value with my life, you know?
Jeff Dudan (34:25.09)
Yeah, we would attend Partner Summit in Memphis and tour the hospital, spend three days there, tour the hospital. it's just, it's inspiring and it changes you and it sets your perspective back probably to where it needs to be.
So we're running, we get all self -involved, we're running through our lives. I gotta do this, I gotta do, you can't, you're doing all this stuff and then that just stops you in your tracks and it's like, this is a whole city here in Memphis that's been built to save these people's lives. When they started St. Jude, 80 % of the people didn't survive leukemia and now I think they have over 90%.
Stephen Kellogg (34:45.247)
Yeah.
Stephen Kellogg (35:12.427)
Yeah.
Jeff Dudan (35:12.632)
survival rate and that's just they've flipped the scale on you know, childhood leukemia and so many other important things and
Stephen Kellogg (35:22.174)
And the thing they do where they share all their research, you know, which hospitals weren't doing because they wanted to be the one that found things and they just made it. Here's everything we know. Here's everything we got. this is a and and you're not going to have to pay. You're not going to have to worry about your bills while you're here. This is going to be funded. Obviously, not all hospitals can do that, but it's.
Jeff Dudan (35:26.412)
Yeah. yeah.
Jeff Dudan (35:43.084)
Right.
Stephen Kellogg (35:50.004)
when you're dealing with that kind of catastrophe, what a huge relief to not have that part of the thing breaking your heart as well. And those things I found to be extremely inspiring too of like, can have a huge organization and you can create win -wins.
for people like we're gonna cure cancer and we're gonna help these parents and this business is gonna go. I think I'd like to see more giant businesses thinking that way of how can we do as much possible good for the world while we're out here doing our thing.
Jeff Dudan (36:33.826)
Yeah, it's kind of interesting. You see these situations where some situation of need goes viral and then there's a million dollars raised through apps or whatever it is like that. But on the other hand, I also feel that we're really a lot less connected. I think we're inside of these phones and we're inside of these apps and we're living in a fast world with our attention.
There's never been more competition for our attention and getting people to physically do things anymore. seems, I don't know if it's easier or harder right now. It's a double edged sword.
Stephen Kellogg (37:16.608)
Feels hard, feels, I have nothing to compare it to, but it certainly seems that the sense of disconnection that people are having in the world is, and we're all kind of talking about it, like, why all this anxiety and this depression up and all this stuff like that? And it's like, obviously it's this, it's that we're not with people in the same way anymore. We're in the phone, like you said.
Jeff Dudan (37:33.91)
Right.
Stephen Kellogg (37:45.3)
four hours a day, that doesn't even make my eye, I don't even think about that when it says your screen average was four and a half hours last week. It's just a week, mean, four and a half hours just spent just doing whatever. I mean, how could you possibly feel connected to people with that? It's absurd.
Jeff Dudan (38:01.826)
Yeah.
Jeff Dudan (38:06.35)
Yeah, it's I tell you, I feel bad when I saw these memes going around, of course, online. And I was desk scrolling that said 18 minutes a day is 100 hours a year. And you could learn to play an instrument in 100 hours. You could write a book in 100 hours. could, you know, all here's all the things that you could do in 100 hours. And it's only 18 minutes a day. And then it's like, what did you waste 18 minutes a day? Do you know, did you waste? man, I waste. I waste, you know, half. I probably, you know,
Stephen Kellogg (38:32.459)
Wow.
Jeff Dudan (38:36.3)
I don't know, I don't waste half my day, you know, getting distracted.
Stephen Kellogg (38:38.9)
Yeah, that's a powerful metric. So, I mean, you know, I'm trying to teach the kids, I'm trying to model it, but it's it's it's not really happening. I mean, I'm still. And I think about that, too, because one of the talks that I get so in between the stand up and the rock and roll shows and stuff, I do do a bit of speaking. And I kind of one of the talks that I tend to give if I'm talking to a company is like.
What does it mean to be successful? What is it really? How do we get a definition of success that really holds up, that moves beyond the obvious metrics of, you know, of the of money or accolades? You know, what else, you know? And
You know, I think so much of it is I find myself living a life I would not trade places with anyone living or dead. And yet. I I struggle to feel successful. Why is that? That's the question I go back to. And you kind of look at it and go, all right, what what could success be if it's not that, you know, and trying to get a definition that that you can.
use as your true north to keep you there when you've spent too much time death scrolling and filled your head with toxic crap, you know?
Jeff Dudan (40:06.134)
I think it shows you all the things that you're probably missing. used to be people would go to work, kids would go to school, you'd come home, there'd be chores to do, everybody eats together, extended family gets together on Sunday, has a meal.
And people get together on Sunday, they have a meal and life was within a set of boundaries. You could watch the television and listen to the radio, but other than that, if you had an idea, you couldn't put it in some little instrument and realize that a million other people have already had that idea. You could pursue that idea or I wanna do this. There was nobody to tell you that you shouldn't do it.
Stephen Kellogg (40:49.386)
Right?
Jeff Dudan (40:53.834)
in terms of that it's already been done. I mean, it's a blessing and it's a curse. But I think to your point, mental health, the depression, anxiety, mean, ADD, OCD, all of these things are so much more prevalent. I think a lot of it has to do with our diet, actually, as well. Well, hey, man.
Stephen Kellogg (41:11.818)
Hmm. You look healthy as hell, man. While I'm looking at you, like I'm like, whoa, you're this guy can coach and he's healthy looking.
Jeff Dudan (41:19.07)
No, it's we got a filter and we put it over the camera. it's good. It's it's a it's a cut. We reflected off a carnival mirror. So it just kind of kind of does that. You I'm I'm five to four eighty. But well, awesome. So do any of your kids have musical talent? Are they well now? Wait, let me rephrase that.
Stephen Kellogg (41:23.599)
It looks good, man. I need some of that. I'm looking.
Stephen Kellogg (41:33.418)
You look good, I'm sure, I'm sure.
Stephen Kellogg (41:44.906)
Yeah.
Jeff Dudan (41:47.31)
You know if they're talented or not. any of your kids pursue music?
Stephen Kellogg (41:51.95)
they do a little bit, you know, I, I'm not, I don't push it on them. I, but they grew up around it, especially the, the, really all four of them do. And they've all been on stage with me. You know, I told them at a young age, like people pay for the tickets. So you can't just come out there cause you're cute. But if you want to sing, dance, play an instrument, if you can add to the show in any way, you're always welcome. I love to perform with you.
Jeff Dudan (42:03.447)
Okay.
Jeff Dudan (42:21.254)
that is so cool.
Stephen Kellogg (42:22.202)
And so two summers ago, we were out opening for Counting Crows for the summer and the oldest two joined me on the road and were singing part of the set with me. And then Counting Crows loved their singing so much, they invited them to sing with them too. And then we all put out a last summer together of all of us singing, which was, that's a dream come true for me. I'm singing with a band I grew up idolizing and then my...
my two girls and we get to share that. And we'll do some more of that. Recently, my oldest has been playing a bit of piano in the band for a few songs too. they do it. I think it's there. I hear it. There does seem to be some reluctance on their part to.
pursue it. I don't know if it's because they don't want to or if it's because they think that they need to be perfect at it before they've even started. And like every parent, I sort of go in there and try to figure that out with them. But I tread a little bit lightly because I don't want to I don't want them to I don't want to over pressure them. And I don't want to also ignore the fact that they're quite good at at singing and playing. And I mean, they're better than the average bear. And I'm like, you guys could kind of, you know.
Jeff Dudan (43:35.138)
Yeah.
Stephen Kellogg (43:41.846)
It's like your kids probably could coach. They watched you coach for all those years. They're gonna learn something about how that goes.
Jeff Dudan (43:47.789)
Yeah.
Yeah, yeah, it was time with them that you couldn't manufacture being in situations, being under stress with them, strategizing with them, them being hurt and driving them home in the car, stopping by the emergency, things happen. So like all of that time was just, it was just going through battle with them. And I can't think of another way.
Stephen Kellogg (44:16.362)
Yeah.
Jeff Dudan (44:17.102)
You know, we had Sean Merryman on this week. He was a linebacker for the San Diego Chargers and just a beast of a guy. he, you know, talking about players and he says, you know, yeah, even if we knew how bad this was going to be for our bodies and how many surgeries I've had and the risk of it all, goes, 95 % of us would do it again anyway. And it just because what you learn from performing.
Stephen Kellogg (44:40.32)
Yeah. Yeah.
Jeff Dudan (44:45.578)
in any capacity, whether it's on stage with you. mean, there's stress in that, right? mean, get traveling there. What's it going to be like just getting into the hotel, you know, getting the band set up, going out, doing like the whole process is like it's on the job training for life. You can't, yeah, you can't, you can't.
Stephen Kellogg (44:50.644)
Yeah, sure.
Stephen Kellogg (45:04.042)
Yeah, it is. And it's this adrenaline thing, and you go through it, and it's like, people are having so much fun. It's really fun to have done it. And it's not unfun, but it is. But when you're doing it, it's focus. I'm sure it's the same for athletes. You're just trying to hit your marks, and you're trying to...
Jeff Dudan (45:24.396)
Yeah.
Stephen Kellogg (45:29.92)
do the thing that you know you're capable of doing at the best possible, highest possible level. Same when I'm giving a talk or doing a standup set. You're just trying to land it. The fun part is kind of like when it's over and you're like, whew, I did it. That's like where the fun of it is. I think if nothing else, my hope for the girls is having done this will be that they know they can get up. What I say is, I say it's like having butterflies.
There's benevolent butterflies that come into land on all over you and wake you up. You got this gift you got to go give and you're a little like, what are these things doing on me? Okay, I'm awake. You feel a little, I feel this nerves, but you're going to just, they're just making sure you're awake and alert and at your top game. Then you go out and you do the thing and you go, all right, we're good. And then you have the satisfaction and confidence of having done that, you know, and that's the, that's the reward.
Jeff Dudan (46:25.678)
Yeah, man, when I'm giving a talk and I know it's gone well, and now I'm down maybe to the last five or 10 minutes. It's like, that's the best. Is it that way? Is it that way when you're, when you're performing? Because you're like, this went well, they loved it. I've got my, you know, I've got my last two songs to go and I'm just going to cruise on through. is for me now. Right. Cause you, cause you've delivered, you've delivered on what they hired you for. Yeah.
Stephen Kellogg (46:32.788)
Yeah. Yeah. yeah.
Stephen Kellogg (46:40.788)
Ugh.
Stephen Kellogg (46:46.922)
Yeah, that's the thrill. Yeah, totally. That's the absolute, the encore. You walk out, the people are on their feet and you're like, I'm relaxed for the first time all evening right now. And once in a blue moon, you just get there quicker. You get there right at the top. You just know, you're like, I got this thing's in my hands. I've had a few over the years where you just.
Jeff Dudan (46:59.789)
Yeah.
Stephen Kellogg (47:16.158)
You know, I've had a few in the different mediums, but you just know you got it. And that's an incredible feeling. You do feel like you're you're soaring. But that's but but that's not every day. You know, that's unique when that happens. It's it's, know, that that last five minutes you talked about is very common. Thank God still doesn't mean that you're not a little bit amped up right before you're going to go do the thing again. You know, you know.
Jeff Dudan (47:39.714)
Yeah, no. Well, and that's the pleasure and the joy that you get from making the choice that you made to do what you do. you know, and it's meaningful. On the standup, do you have different kinds of nerves before you go out for standup than you do for performing musically?
Stephen Kellogg (48:03.638)
Yeah, I mean, I was so nervous before that first stand up set. I just, it was like, yeah, yeah, yeah. I mean, I was, I just thought, why do I do that? Why am I doing this to myself? And I was, I was doing a set at a cigar bar comedy club. was like not some high stakes situation, but I was, it felt unreal. Then I went out, I did it. It went well. I just did 15 minutes that first time to strangers. Nobody I knew.
Jeff Dudan (48:07.053)
you
Jeff Dudan (48:20.277)
huh.
Stephen Kellogg (48:33.046)
went well. And I was like, okay, I think the nerves, there's two kinds of nerves, you get nerves that are sort of just amped up nerves. And those are good. Those wake you up, like I talking about, you do get nerves if you're not prepared, you know, that because and those, those are, that's information, that's like, you're anxious for a reason, you're not prepared enough, you know. And the trick with stand up is I don't have 20 plus years of
Jeff Dudan (48:57.879)
Right.
Stephen Kellogg (49:02.682)
I mean, music, if I had to, could just walk out into any situation. I can figure it out. You know, I mean, so you get those nerves and you're like, all right, I'm going to there's so much sense memory. Comedy. It's new to me. I mean, you're into this thing, so it's not like it's not like I live and breathe these beats on these bits and stuff. So I have to really.
kind of propel myself into it and sometimes the nerves I have are just because I'm like damn I know what great looks like and I don't have the facility yet and that's scary. I haven't bombed I have had jokes bomb. And if it's just and having a joke bomb maybe this is just 47 at work, but it's kind of awesome. You're kind of like, this isn't going to kill me. Yeah.
Jeff Dudan (49:39.852)
Yeah. Have you bombed yet? Have you bombed yet?
Jeff Dudan (49:47.531)
Okay.
Jeff Dudan (49:56.91)
That's what I say, it's not fatal.
Stephen Kellogg (49:58.122)
You know? Yeah, it's not. mean, literally, it's really, really not. Because I've tangled it up in my music career a bit now, there is a little bit of fear that I'm playing fast and loose with our livelihood. But I have to say, I've also, you know, it hasn't, I started with, it's not like I started from nothing because of so many years of storytelling in between.
You know, going for an hour, that's a little, that has the potential to be a bit scary. And I'm not gonna, I could easily, I could do an hour. It's not all organized to like where I wouldn't, I would need some notes at this point. by the time we shoot this thing, you know, I've gotta have it much more in the blood. But.
Jeff Dudan (50:32.46)
How much do you have right now? mean...
Jeff Dudan (50:51.756)
Where are you playing? Okay, so we're doing, we've got two comedy specials coming up. Fairfield, Connecticut on October 23rd. Where is that?
Stephen Kellogg (50:59.764)
That is, so that's Southern Connecticut about an hour outside the city. And it's at a beautiful old theater that I used to go to growing up, like to see movies and middle school and stuff. I'm, it feels like that one's sort of a homecoming reason I chose that one. I don't live there anymore, but I, but I, but I chose that one. and then we do two nights later, the park West in Chicago, which is a cool kind of.
Jeff Dudan (51:14.411)
Okay.
Stephen Kellogg (51:26.838)
It's got red booths and it's got a kind of Vegas -y feel. I could have and probably should have chose small comedy clubs to work in as a new comic, but this is like the crazy part of me that just said, well, I think I might like to do it in theaters. So now we're in these bigger things. I mean, I'm not saying I'm making all the right decisions, Jeff. I'm just making decisions, you know?
Jeff Dudan (51:30.253)
Yeah.
Jeff Dudan (51:48.11)
That's...
Yeah, like, so what are you gonna shoot for? Are you gonna shoot for like 50 minutes?
Stephen Kellogg (51:58.442)
Yeah, I'll do an hour. You know, a lot of times where I have been doing most of my stand -up, I walk out and I kind of set people up at the beginning of the night and say, here's the game plan. I think a game plan goes a long way. Here's a game plan. I'm going to sing you a few songs. Then I'm going to do a stand -up set. Then I'll play a few more songs. So people kind of know what's coming and it kills some of the restless vibes. Now for these nights, because we have a film crew and we're taping it and there's, you know, that's...
Jeff Dudan (52:00.256)
Okay.
Jeff Dudan (52:09.974)
Yeah. Right.
Jeff Dudan (52:18.858)
Okay. Yeah.
Stephen Kellogg (52:25.258)
we're pretty invested in that capturing that piece, we'll probably have the director go out and say, all right, here's what's happened instead of me. Here's what's happening. Kellogg's going to come out here, do an hour of comedy. And then I've told everybody that's bought a ticket. Then I will stand on stage for however long until they kick us out and play music and we'll raise a glass of champagne and celebrate that. But I have about an hour of material that I'm
focused on. I've done all of it, but I've done it in usually in like a half hour chunk or a 40 minute chunk, you know, and so my hope is in telling people, hey, we're shooting an hour. They'll just relax into it and enjoy the experience of, you know, the different topics we're going to cover. And it's it's an outline. It's like a play, you know, in that sense.
Jeff Dudan (53:00.94)
Yeah.
Jeff Dudan (53:16.238)
Yeah, so I'll do like keynotes. I do different trainings. I mean, I've done a hundred minute keynote for a room of 400 people that I didn't know who they were. You know, they didn't know who I was. Yeah, and I got, know, and it's stuff that I've been doing for years. And so it's all kind of built on its stuff and it's businessy stuff. But I work in a good half a dozen jokes in there. And like, I think it's just for me, but it does break it up a little bit and they're not bad, but.
Stephen Kellogg (53:27.338)
That's a pretty good length for a keynote. That's a long one. That's, yeah.
Stephen Kellogg (53:39.413)
Yeah.
Jeff Dudan (53:45.07)
I don't know about you, like, so, you know, I aspire to do stand because I'm in front of people a lot, but I never get to just do a set. And, but I have a, I have like 297 bits in my phone of just observational things that I need to develop. And I think I could get an, I know I could get an hour, but here's the thing. A lot of the stuff that I got doesn't, doesn't go well with the CEO role. You know what I mean? It's like.
Stephen Kellogg (54:11.67)
Sure, sure.
Jeff Dudan (54:12.182)
It's like, don't know, like, I don't think I can really do it. You know, I mean, I don't think I could do some of it for sure. and I don't know that I'm so, so I don't know when it's going to happen for me, but
Stephen Kellogg (54:23.93)
You should, man, you should just go down to if you got a friend, you should just go to find somebody to give you 10 minutes and think about 10 of the three or four of the things you'd like to talk about. Because that was the thing that made me go, what's so fun and cathartic about this was also like you, have your CEOs you're talking to. I have this role that people where I'm kind of this like
Jeff Dudan (54:27.448)
Do an open mic. Yeah.
Stephen Kellogg (54:53.536)
Harry Chapin, Dan Fogelberg. They know me as this nice songwriter guy. Some of the jokes I want to tell are a little, they're not dirty jokes, but they're they're not, you know, it's making fun of my kids and my marriage and my wife. And some of that stuff doesn't play as well when you're singing a sweet song. So getting to just go be in an environment where you don't have that expectation on you is incredibly fun.
Jeff Dudan (54:59.5)
Yeah.
Jeff Dudan (55:08.685)
Yeah.
Jeff Dudan (55:13.516)
Yeah.
Stephen Kellogg (55:23.234)
and, and for me, those bits you said, you know exactly how many, yeah, you put them on note cards. You look at the ones that you think would be the funnest to talk about. And you talk about them. And sometimes what I realize is I'll try a bit and I realize, okay, I'm not articulating what I think is funny about this as well, you know, cause people aren't just, and that's when a joke actually pops. You're like, either, either this isn't as funny as I think, or I just haven't cracked it yet, you know?
Jeff Dudan (55:42.627)
Yeah.
Jeff Dudan (55:51.97)
Yeah.
Stephen Kellogg (55:52.822)
And there's a lot of humor in that. Nine times out of 10 what happens though is if you don't quite have it yet, you get a laugh. You can just tell it's not as big as the laugh of the thing that you really conveyed really clearly. So I try to tape all the shows too and you listen back and it's painful but it's so productive and useful.
Jeff Dudan (56:14.498)
Yeah, yeah, that's, you gotta invest that time. It's...
Jeff Dudan (56:21.834)
I, the feedback from standup is, is pure and immediate. Like there's no, there's no lack of clarity around like whether you got it or not. And especially, you know, so if they, like, if I'm doing a keynote and it's in the franchising industry and I'll go to a room and there's a couple hundred people in there, I have some positional power. have some reputation. Like you really, it's not an independent audience. Like they're there.
Stephen Kellogg (56:30.964)
Yeah, totally.
Jeff Dudan (56:51.062)
because they want to hear what you've got to say about how you did what you did and how they can use that in doing what they do. So it's very much a, it's almost like a lecture, you know? And then what I try to do is try to make it fun with some clean, you know, some good clean humor along the way that they don't see coming. then it kind of breaks it up and it makes sure that everybody's, you know, reset and paying attention. And then you just, you go on with your next thing and.
Stephen Kellogg (57:07.52)
Totally.
Stephen Kellogg (57:19.285)
Yeah.
Jeff Dudan (57:19.63)
And I've developed this thing, I could almost do it in my sleep because I've probably done it 200 times, whether it be in a training for our own franchisees or whatever. But, you know, I really want to go and walk into somewhere and, you know, where you're just, they're just going to judge you based on the quality of your content and your delivery right there. Yeah.
Stephen Kellogg (57:39.712)
what's in front of them. I envy what you're describing that you have with your business rap. And I appreciated before when you said, you're doing this and you're doing that. And that's been a great joy for me as an artist, but it's also been a little bit of a curse because I am, nothing's ever fully in there. I'm talking to CEOs and then I'm talking to a school and it's creative.
Jeff Dudan (58:02.552)
Yeah.
Stephen Kellogg (58:08.67)
It's just, you're always, there's always something a little, and then you're writing a book and then you're doing a little standup and then it's a rock show with the band and it's a rock show solo. And so there is a sense inside me that I never quite get anything down entirely because I'm always jumping around. And a little part of me loves that, but I also crave that just having something that you just know.
what's gonna happen with it. It's been, the last five years have been exciting and also just like I have craved that, you know, a little more of just knowing what I'm gonna be walking into and who the audience is gonna be, what it's gonna be, you know.
Jeff Dudan (58:52.334)
So Stephen, there something that you know that you will do in the future that you haven't done yet?
Stephen Kellogg (59:04.192)
That's a great question. I always have so many things on my plate, you know, that I wanted to be getting into. I've got three quarters of the way through a novel right now. And I think I never wanted to do that. But I think a fiction book might be might be the, you know, the next crazy thing to do that I haven't totally finished yet.
Jeff Dudan (59:20.086)
Okay, your fiction book.
Stephen Kellogg (59:34.918)
And right now, honestly, this special, ain't, I haven't done it yet, you know, but I believe that is gonna happen. I mean, it's on sale and we're going, but you haven't done it till you've done it. And that feels like a huge thing to have bit off.
Jeff Dudan (59:49.378)
Yeah.
Jeff Dudan (59:54.156)
Now, is that going to be recorded and played somewhere?
Stephen Kellogg (59:57.332)
Yeah, we're talking to a few partners about it, most of whom are eager to see what we get first before they, you know, and then we'll see what the distribution channels will be and how big a fish we can catch with all that. You know, if nothing else, we're in a world where you go, all right, YouTube, here we go, and it's out. So we know that we know it's not going to go unseen unless I really tank, which isn't going to happen. So.
Jeff Dudan (01:00:15.82)
Yeah, right. Yeah.
Stephen Kellogg (01:00:26.612)
And if it does, we'll just take this part of this interview and then juxtapose it with me tanking and that will be funny. know, so yeah. Thanks exactly. Cut. Yeah, this is.
Jeff Dudan (01:00:32.786)
We'll cut, Jen, cut those in. We'll just cut Stephen Kellogg's worst jokes. Yes. Hey, I do have a question. I'm really interested in your answer to this. The future of music performance artists as it relates to things like AI and some of these technologies where
Stephen Kellogg (01:00:40.404)
what could go wrong and then it's bang, bang, boom, boom, monkeys on the screen, you know.
AI, Authenticity, and the Future of Music
Jeff Dudan (01:01:01.27)
It's so easy now to replicate things. Voice enhancers, you can sing into your computer now and it can clean you up and you sound good. Are you seeing, are you feeling anything with all of this technology to making it easier or harder for you to do what you do?
Stephen Kellogg (01:01:21.05)
That's a great question and something I'm fascinated by right now. I think to answer, moving backwards, the part of your question, does it make it easier or harder? I think it very much depends on the type of artist you are. I think for a lot of younger artists right now who are more comfortable, who just grew up recording their own music, mean, Garage Band was like,
the beginning for them and then it kind of turned into like, you know, getting comfortable with all this software and stuff. I think probably for them, it will be less of a journey. For me, I don't ever totally see myself embracing a lot of aspects of that, you know, and that a friend of mine about two months ago played me a song and it was his lyrics and he just plugged in
you know, Americana, voice like Brandy Carlile, Petal Steel, and he put his lyrics in and it spit out a song that was so terrific, that was played so well, and it was being sung. And so when I played it for one of my friends, other friends, he said, who's the singer? And I said, the singer is no one. This isn't somebody that exists. This is the machine.
And we both sat there for a minute, like trying to ponder the implications, not just in a, the kids are changing everything, but like, what does that mean if you can find something so pleasing out of the computer? And then I was in the studio last week making music and I did have the, I remembered that, part of the thrill of this is you make the music because this experience.
Jeff Dudan (01:02:55.298)
Yeah.
Stephen Kellogg (01:03:16.817)
Is your experience you do it. I had to slog it out. And that guitar is not perfect, but it is like I had to go through something to get that on there. And then the singing I had to go through and it's not perfect. And then leaning into that, leaning into the humanity of the music. Will there's will there still be a market for people that can that want to feel something more authentic? I love authenticity wherever I find it.
You know, and the perfectness of that other song, probably I won't like as much as something that I can hear the. But eventually, will will that desire die off? It might like it might be enough. People grow up never hearing an out of tune note song. Is it just going to be like, why would I listen to it out of like, why would I ever want that? You know, and I'm told Spotify is like a lot of their jazz playlists and stuff now is just like
Jeff Dudan (01:04:08.941)
Right.
Stephen Kellogg (01:04:17.534)
AI, you know, it's not.
Jeff Dudan (01:04:18.862)
Why would why would they pay for it they can just create it for free? You know and that's like that's kind of what it comes down to right? It's like is the the consumer is gonna determine what you can get away with and You know, hey, maybe Millie Vanilli was just ahead of their time
Stephen Kellogg (01:04:22.003)
Right, so.
Stephen Kellogg (01:04:37.384)
It's true. mean, you know, I mean, the things that people got in trouble for were a lot less than what people are doing. I mean, you go to like a huge, I'll take my kids to a huge festival and the amount of times that there's some band or kid or somebody out on stage with just a mic and they hit the tracks and I'm like, this is karaoke. They're just karaoke into their tracks and they're charismatic and they've got good moves, but it's not.
Jeff Dudan (01:04:43.15)
That's right. Yeah.
Stephen Kellogg (01:05:06.354)
It looks so incredibly easy to do and yet I look around and I'm like, well, everybody's okay with this. Everybody's having fun. Nobody has a problem with this. And this is selling and it's selling a lot more than I'm selling right now with my guitar. So I'm like, I can't deny that the marketplace is, it's driving it. It's cause for concern. You know, it's one of the reasons I'm exploring.
author and speaker and I mean it's led me to a lot of other things. I'm not curling up in the fetal position going, what was me? They took music away from me. I'm a little sad about it. miss, my kids may never know what it's like to form a band and slog it out to get to, you know. But if there's not a demand for it,
Jeff Dudan (01:05:54.501)
Yeah, play that, play that. Yeah, play that like 10 ,000 hours to get, know, the Beatles to play together for all of these stories about bands. Hey, I watched the Nickelback documentary last night. I don't know where you stand on that. I think, you know, but I like Nickelback. I'll say it. I'm saying it right now. I don't care. Haters jump into the comments. I'm a Nickelback fan.
Touring with Counting Crows and Jamming with Nickelback
Stephen Kellogg (01:06:14.996)
Well, you should.
Stephen Kellogg (01:06:23.798)
I am 100 % with you and I can't let you say that and not share this. So in 2018, my manager called and said, we got a call from Nickelback's management and they want you to come do this event. And I said, well, what is it? And she's like, well, I didn't know, I didn't call him. I'm like, who the fuck are we? Like call him back, what is this? So she called and I had written a song called Such Away early in my career that they really liked.
Jeff Dudan (01:06:28.439)
you
Jeff Dudan (01:06:44.44)
Hahaha
Stephen Kellogg (01:06:51.186)
and they had this event and they had a cancellation and they wanted me to fly up to Vancouver and play it with them. And I was like, great. So I went up, they played acoustic and they couldn't have been nicer people, which I haven't seen the documentary yet, but I am told it displays they're incredibly generous. They're kind, they're friendly. There's nothing wrong there. I mean, they're everybody you'd want to hang out with.
Jeff Dudan (01:07:03.725)
Yeah.
Jeff Dudan (01:07:12.152)
Great people. Yeah. No.
Stephen Kellogg (01:07:17.652)
And they're giving music to a lot of people that love it. it's like, you know, so, and to the point where they said, hey, Steven, we don't want you to feel like you're opening for us. So we're going to play first. We'll do our three songs and we'll introduce you and bring you out. I mean, so I went on and I'm like, I like to thank Nickelback for opening for me tonight. Like, I'm like, I'm like, this is unbelievable. You know, like I can't. So they really, and then when I, during COVID, when I was doing these virtual shows, you know, they,
Jeff Dudan (01:07:35.861)
Right.
Stephen Kellogg (01:07:47.594)
Trina and Ryan Peek came on my thing and they, I mean, they just couldn't be more generous. And so I, at that point was like, we gotta stop with the Nickelback jokes. is sort of unfair. It's just like we picked the nicest people in the world to pick on, you know? And anyway, yeah.
Jeff Dudan (01:07:58.816)
Jeff Dudan (01:08:05.614)
It's completely unfair. don't know. I really don't know how it happened, but it's just people ganging on and they didn't deserve it. Now they did fine. 50 million albums.
Stephen Kellogg (01:08:14.388)
Yeah. Yeah.
Stephen Kellogg (01:08:19.902)
Listen, where we held that event was on a nice little island that I think they owned. I mean, they're laughing all the way to the bank, but nobody really deserves that at the end of the day. I'm glad there's a doc out there that kind of addresses it. I will definitely watch it and they're all great guys.
Jeff Dudan (01:08:24.019)
Yeah. Right.
Jeff Dudan (01:08:36.738)
Yeah, yeah, check that out. Well, very cool. Well, hey, this has been great. I really enjoyed this. It was as good or better than I expected. I'm just, it's such a pleasure to, you're such a, man, such a good, authentic father, artist, entertainer. So I'm just, it's an honor to get to spend this time with you. I've really enjoyed it.
Stephen Kellogg (01:08:45.984)
Me too.
Good.
Stephen Kellogg (01:09:02.186)
Thank you, Jeff. Me too. Thank you for having me on the show. I definitely did not dress up. I'm going to do better next time we talk. I promise. I'm going to get better lighting and that filter. But no, I enjoyed your thoughts, and I really appreciate you having me on the show.
Jeff Dudan (01:09:09.151)
Jeff Dudan (01:09:18.518)
Awesome. Last question for you. If you had one sentence to make an impact in somebody's life, what would that be?
Stephen Kellogg (01:09:30.826)
God.
Stephen Kellogg (01:09:38.056)
Okay, one sentence, man. That's big spontaneous question to have. Was this in the notes that I should have thought about?
Jeff Dudan (01:09:46.558)
No, no, just it's just our question. You know, something maybe you say to your kids when, you know, you know, any anything, anything you got or not or or nothing.
Stephen Kellogg (01:09:55.634)
No, mean, no, honestly, I mean, I this this is going to keep me up at night thinking about it. I'm going to need to follow it up. But I think I would say to somebody. Something to the effect of. You are. Enough man or woman, you know, you are you are. I know that we're. I know that life is hard.
Even when it's good, it's challenging. But let's never forget that we're enough just being who we are. And you can build every day on that. I'm going to think more about this. But so much of what I want people to take away is like, you don't have to be exceptional. You just have to take the best of what's inside you and
Final Wisdom: “You Are Enough”
Jeff Dudan (01:10:41.632)
I think it's perfect.
Stephen Kellogg (01:10:53.898)
Do what you can with it, you know.
Jeff Dudan (01:10:56.11)
Perfectly said. Do not miss Stephen Kellogg in Fairfield, Connecticut on October 23rd and at the Park West in Chicago on October 25th. Singing, guitar playing, and some awesome stand up. Stephen Kellogg, thanks for being on.
Stephen Kellogg (01:10:58.144)
Thanks, man.
Stephen Kellogg (01:11:14.784)
Thank you for having me, Jeff. Very nice.
Jeff Dudan (01:11:16.558)
Yeah, 100 % Stephen Kellogg, I am Jeff Duden, and we have been on the home front. Thanks for listening.
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